Is This Cheating?

saz_1989

Imagine this situation:

You're too drunk to really know what's going on. Your friend of the opposite sex starts kissing you, then they start doing other things... when you realise what's going on you stop it, but by then it's too late.

Would you consider this cheating if you were going out with someone? Or would you consider this being taken advantage of?

Reply 1

laura789

9

being taken advantage of

Reply 2

EugeneD

Lauren

Imagine this situation:

You're too drunk to really know what's going on. Your friend of the opposite sex starts kissing you, then they start doing other things... when you realise what's going on you stop it, but by then it's too late.

Would you consider this cheating if you were going out with someone? Or would you consider this being taken advantage of?

Defo the First one; because if you are so worried about cheating on some one very close to you then you will always, first have that person in the back of your mind no matter how drunk you are, and you also would avoid being next to people that might do what you said

Eugene.

Reply 3

dogtanian

16

Being taken advantage of, though even if you are drunk, it's still possible to nip that sort of thing in the bud.

So maybe a silly moment followed by being taken advantage of.

Reply 4

Bape

2

Thats a good question...i'd like to know what is classified as cheating? Holding hands, cuddling, kissing, etc?

Reply 5

Pepaim

8

Being taken advantage of definitely, you were drunk, though you still stopped it so I reckon thats pretty admirable. May be best not to get so drunk in future or you could put yourself in danger.

Reply 6

Fluffy

15

Hmm - devils advocate here - you should never have put yourself in that situation! Especially if you really care for your boyf.

Reply 7

blissy

15

Depends just how drunk you were - I'd definitely fess up if I realised or was told the next day though.

Reply 8

EugeneD

Fluffy

Hmm - devils advocate here - you should never have put yourself in that situation! Especially if you really care for your boyf.

Exactly and exactly what I Am Saying

Eugene.

Reply 9

zhivago

2

Lauren

Imagine this situation:

You're too drunk to really know what's going on. Your friend of the opposite sex starts kissing you, then they start doing other things... when you realise what's going on you stop it, but by then it's too late.

Would you consider this cheating if you were going out with someone? Or would you consider this being taken advantage of?

Taken advantage of...because it happened to me two weekends ago... :redface:

Is this your wayward boyfriend we're talking about here, or you?

But yes, the latter. Because I have been a victim of the drink. :rolleyes:

Reply 10

silence

16

it's hard to find evidential support for the other partner, but i would believe that it's being taken advantage of.

if there is sufficient trust and love, it should be understood. but that doesn't mean there can't be any anger, annoyance etc. as long as there is honesty henceforth, then it should be relatively easier to sort out, if you can.

Reply 11

Xx Tomásíona - Mháire xX

14

Lauren

Imagine this situation:

You're too drunk to really know what's going on. Your friend of the opposite sex starts kissing you, then they start doing other things... when you realise what's going on you stop it, but by then it's too late.

Would you consider this cheating if you were going out with someone? Or would you consider this being taken advantage of?

what is your friend saying about it lauren? is he saying you wanted it or whatever....it does sound like you were taken advantage of....I would tell your other half just incase your friend might do that for you xoxo

Reply 12

Lush Law

15

I think it is cheating, but not on the same level as completely conscious, sober cheating. It's almost forgivable cheating. But then, if someone can't be trusted when drunk, they shouldn't drink so much.

Drinking reveals peoples true character/feelings, I've always found.

It really depends what 'other things' went on.

Reply 13

saz_1989

OP

2

Hmm...I should tell the story...I knew I was getting battered and asked a male friend to look after me, I was basically hanging onto him and he was holding me up, etc etc. Then he started kissing me and when I realised he was, I just didn't know what to do, then when we got back to the house where we were staying we were sitting on the sofa watching tv and he started kissing me again etc, and I was just kind of sitting there, I didn't push him off because someone walked in and he stopped, and it took me like a few minutes to figure out what he was doing. I woke up and I just felt sick the whole day. I can't really remember it but I feel really guilty like it's all my fault for getting so drunk. I told my boyfriend kind of what happened but it was over text so I couldn't really explain it that well.

Reply 14

saz_1989

OP

2

Other things...well I was wearing a skirt...eurgh I feel very violated in that respect. The friend hasn't mentioned it, I don't think he actually remembers. I'm surprised I remember, I passed out soon after that.

Reply 15

Lush Law

15

Lauren

Hmm...I should tell the story...I knew I was getting battered and asked a male friend to look after me, I was basically hanging onto him and he was holding me up, etc etc. Then he started kissing me and when I realised he was, I just didn't know what to do, then when we got back to the house where we were staying we were sitting on the sofa watching tv and he started kissing me again etc, and I was just kind of sitting there, I didn't push him off because someone walked in and he stopped, and it took me like a few minutes to figure out what he was doing. I woke up and I just felt sick the whole day. I can't really remember it but I feel really guilty like it's all my fault for getting so drunk. I told my boyfriend kind of what happened but it was over text so I couldn't really explain it that well.

I think it's not completely your fault. I mean, yes you got drunk [nobody else's responsibility] but he really shouldn't have started kissing you back at the house on the sofa when he knew you were drunk and have a boyfriend. Was he drunk too?

Reply 16

username27781

that situation once?- unfortunate. that situation again- cheating

Reply 17

tcelina

1

I'm afraid its cheating. I had a male friend who I knew fancied me, and although we were good friends I knew better than to get drunk alone with him because he couldn't keep his hands to himself. You have to be responsible for being aware of your circumstances and surroundings. You shouldn't let yourself be put into a situation where you can so easily be "led astray" and anyway, I've never been so drunk that I made out with someone I didn't like, so I think if you do get in that position its unlikely to be an innocent mistake.

Reply 18

Xx Tomásíona - Mháire xX

14

Lauren

Other things...well I was wearing a skirt...eurgh I feel very violated in that respect. The friend hasn't mentioned it, I don't think he actually remembers. I'm surprised I remember, I passed out soon after that.

he might not mention it because he might think you wont speak to him again....or knows you wont remember I thinky ou need to have a chat with your friend hunny xoxo

Reply 19

username27781

tcelina

I've never been so drunk that I made out with someone I didn't like.

its easily done, actually

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