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    I am a male, and 18 and at university. I suppose it is down to living with Asian parents. But she won't let me even breathe. Basically I feel like I am a dog on a leash. I reckon dogs have more freedom than I have.
    I understand about the education bit, I am at uni, and need to get a good degree. I understand that. I know that. I appreciate that.

    What pisses me off about her, is her control.
    Every month, she will come into my room, and search my wardrobes. If there is as so much a receipt stating I bought a chewing gum packet, I am wasting money etc... She over exaggerate, and has a bit of a heart attack. It is stupid.

    She will call people up to bad mouth me or she will try and stir up stuff to make me look weak, insignificant and a hell hole.

    She forces me to go to swimming, when I don't want to. It is exercise first and foremost, and I need to get out a bit is her reasons. When I do want to go out, or I want to do something, It will affect my education and become a failure. She give me examples of who is better than me, I am an utter failure, and I am never going to achieve anything in life. She will compare me with people, who she looks down at. When she says that, I do at times think she hates me, the venom she has in her voice, does make me feel bad.
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    She sounds like a nightmare...
    If I were you I'd confront her. Does anyone else in your family notice what she's doing?
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    I suppose hate is to harsher word. I don't hate her but I suppose, just annoyed.
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    I guess that's your mum? If you at uni, can you just move out?Or give her an ultimatum, confront her behaviour and if she's not going to loose the grip tell her you'll move out!
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    (Original post by toasteh)
    She sounds like a nightmare...
    If I were you I'd confront her. Does anyone else in your family notice what she's doing?
    On top of which, I failed to mention her constant nagging and over protectiveness. I have talked to her, in one ear out the other.

    I walked from the train station the other day, she over exaggerated again, thinking I probably die of the cold in the middle of me walking. Or the other time, I missed breakfast, and I am gonna miss the train. I am not gonna die starvation. And she stopped me, force fed me, and she start hating on me, and thinking I want to be a size 0, and have problems or issues with my weight. I don't she think realises my gender. I was late for everything uni on most occasion because of her. For me, uni is heaven, I feel like I can be free.

    Her nagging, It is not help me with this or that, that is fine, understandable, fair do's. Her nagging is annoying. Always nag, nag, nag. I hoovered today. It was not enough. I should be doing this, this, and this. I'll do it. When I completed it, I need to relax. I can't switch on the telly, without her having a go at me that I am a failure, I should concentrating on my studies.
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    (Original post by Unidentified_object)
    I guess that's your mum? If you at uni, can you just move out?Or give her an ultimatum, confront her behaviour and if she's not going to loose the grip tell her you'll move out!
    I can't move out, I have no money. Student loans, work money, only can help you so far. I am better off living at home.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I can't move out, I have no money. Student loans, work money, only can help you so far. I am better off living at home.
    The rest of us have to cope with that though.
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    (Original post by Jessaay!)
    The rest of us have to cope with that though.
    I know, I can't because I am too scared to do so. It is much more to it than that, I suppose which is why I can't pack up and leave.
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    You're just starting to hate her? Good on you for holding out for so long without hating her. I'd have gone insane if I were you.

    If you really can't stand her at all, then you'd move out. You'd find a way of managing even if you were completely skint, so I don't buy the excuse that you "just can't" move out. You're going to have to move out of your mother's house at some point in your life. So, move out or keep whinging about having a controlling mum.
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    (Original post by truthandtragedy)
    You're just starting to hate her? Good on you for holding out for so long without hating her. I'd have gone insane if I were you.
    She makes me feel I am insane. I am nothing to her. She always viewed me as something that is holding her back. Then the rest of my family has. I do think to myself sometime, I wish I was white.
    I am not saying she is all bad, she has done a lot for me especially when I was young, she is my mum.
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    That sounds awful

    I have a friend with a nightmare home situation (possibly outdoing yours!), but she'll be leaving home and getting by on student loans etc. It's doable.
    In fact I will be doing that, seeing as my parents don't have the funds to help with uni.
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    LMAO sorry I had to laugh erm .. well that reminds me of my own mother who is back soon ... hell is definetely breaking soon
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    (Original post by TotalPoliticsNerd)
    That sounds awful

    I have a friend with a nightmare home situation (possibly outdoing yours!), but she'll be leaving home and getting by on student loans etc. It's doable.
    In fact I will be doing that, seeing as my parents don't have the funds to help with uni.
    What is your friend's situation?
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    Living on student loans is completely possible if you really want to.
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    Ask for a change of accomodation, don't tell her where you live, work off termtime and rent your own place.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    What is your friend's situation?
    Basically her mother and grandmother (who she lives with) allow her absolutely no privacy. She's not allowed to socialise at all. They tell her what she can wear (e.g. only high necks) and she is rarely allowed to venture far from home (she lives near the school so no further than that really). They control her money. They controlled her UCAS etc etc

    If she protests about anything, she gets even more restricted, they threaten to take her out of school, etc

    She's reached the point where she's not tolerating this any more, so she now has various methods for getting out of the house :yes: and will be leaving for uni in another town (though they've threatened to move with her :o: ). I really admire her tbh!
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I can't move out, I have no money. Student loans, work money, only can help you so far. I am better off living at home.
    Maybe you right, but it is realistic. you can get maintanence loan and possibly grant and rent a room which can be from £80-100 a week. Or you can just talk to your mum and ask her why she's behaving like that. good luck
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    Grab her from the neck and show her who's boss. :yep:
    Happy slap her until your hand bleeds and doggy style her until she cries sorry. :awesome:

    Win.Win.
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    You should move out or you might end up accidently killing her! :lol:
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    leave.
 
 
 
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