Ahhhhh [Relationship problem]

This is a relationship problem/rambling of my head, feel free to read :smile:

Known her since last summer holidays. Met her there, got on great for a week. Talked loads, had a laugh. Came back, met up with her for a day in october/sep had fun, talked loads, nothing happened. I thought I wanted something to happen.

So I see her today for the first time since then, and well, thinking im "over her" (Given up the idea that she could be more than a friend, but would be more than happy to continue being friends). I couldn't get to sleep last night, kept thinking about trying to "be more than friends", kept telling myself (in my mess of a head) to STFU and just see how it goes.

It went great, we saw a movie, chatted loads, got food, then that was that and we parted. Saying bye was a bit awkward. Nothing happened. Now im thinking she could just be a really great friend, but I still feel weird for some reason and it is bugging me so ****ucking much. I can't get her out of my head >_<

Now i've finished my ramblings, any advice?

Reply 1

~NC~

11

See what happens, leave it for a couple of days, still see each others as friends, you never know something good could develop, you don;'t have to take my advice, lol im not always of much use in these matters!

Reply 2

zhivago

2

Yeah, I couldn't sleep the other night for thinking about somebody in this way; but the situation is rather different in the way that I've known him for 15 years and he's a family friend!

Erm, I'd offer you advice but I'm not sure what your aim is! Do you want to be 'more than friends' with her? Or not? To be honest, in your particular situation, I'd say honesty is the best policy. I mean, you've got nothing to lose by telling her how you feel (if you do like her), because it seems as though she doesn't see you that often, so it's not like even if she didn't reciprocate you'd have to see her everyday. But, she may well feel the same - and then you'd feel great!

Reply 3

Xx Tomásíona - Mháire xX

14

OMGWTF

This is a relationship problem/rambling of my head, feel free to read :smile:

Known her since last summer holidays. Met her there, got on great for a week. Talked loads, had a laugh. Came back, met up with her for a day in october/sep had fun, talked loads, nothing happened. I thought I wanted something to happen.

So I see her today for the first time since then, and well, thinking im "over her" (Given up the idea that she could be more than a friend, but would be more than happy to continue being friends). I couldn't get to sleep last night, kept thinking about trying to "be more than friends", kept telling myself (in my mess of a head) to STFU and just see how it goes.

It went great, we saw a movie, chatted loads, got food, then that was that and we parted. Saying bye was a bit awkward. Nothing happened. Now im thinking she could just be a really great friend, but I still feel weird for some reason and it is bugging me so ****ucking much. I can't get her out of my head >_<

Now i've finished my ramblings, any advice?

ask the chick out its obvious your 'head over heels' over her!!!! xoxo

Reply 4

ciara

13

How does she feel? If you both feel the same on this it might be worth giving it a go. On the other hand, I know it's unromantic but if she lives far away it might be better to stay friends for now if you're kinda half happy with that. Then when it's a bit more doable, if there's still chemistry you'll also have a strong friendship to build on!
Cxx

Reply 5

OMGWTF

OP

1

I think we'd be much better off as friends. I couldn't have a proper relationship with somebody a 50 minute £10 train journey away. We'd be much better off a friends anyway, I don't have the guts or stupidity to chance risking that friendship for a half assed bf/gf relationship. Thanks for the replies guys

Reply 6

Harv616

9

Most times your bf/gf is also your best friend, things might not change that much

Im in the same situation and if anything happens it will happen naturaly, im not going to push anything.

Reply 7

Gexko

2

OMGWTF

This is a relationship problem/rambling of my head, feel free to read :smile:

Known her since last summer holidays. Met her there, got on great for a week. Talked loads, had a laugh. Came back, met up with her for a day in october/sep had fun, talked loads, nothing happened. I thought I wanted something to happen.

So I see her today for the first time since then, and well, thinking im "over her" (Given up the idea that she could be more than a friend, but would be more than happy to continue being friends). I couldn't get to sleep last night, kept thinking about trying to "be more than friends", kept telling myself (in my mess of a head) to STFU and just see how it goes.

It went great, we saw a movie, chatted loads, got food, then that was that and we parted. Saying bye was a bit awkward. Nothing happened. Now im thinking she could just be a really great friend, but I still feel weird for some reason and it is bugging me so ****ucking much. I can't get her out of my head >_<

Now i've finished my ramblings, any advice?

Exactly the same thing happened to me recently, ended up that i just went and asked her out even though i wasnt sure if i wanted to go out with her. she said she didnt know either (ie no) and that cleared my head and i got over her really quick.

it was all the thinking about it that was convincing me i wanted to go out with her, when now i think of it more objectively i can see it wouldnt have worked and i was just being stupid. was a bit of a rebound from another girl i think i might have fallen in love with :eek:

even though i didnt want to and she was engaged too, which took me about a month to get over and was only 2 months prior to said screwed up happenings above :smile:

Reply 8

SoulSecrets

In reality, nothing serious can really happen with this girl so you should enjoy her company and value her as a friend. That's not to say that something won't happen in the future, because well, if it's right then it might. :smile:

Reply 9

Fresh Prince

I'm in the exact situation, it's very confusing all of this. Ill give her a call in the next few days when I can get some privacy at home since my mobile is broken atm. I'm just going to see how it goes, hopefully whatever happens it will be for the best.

Good luck.

Ahhhhh [Relationship problem]

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