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    Hi everyone.

    I am a male in my early 20's, and all throughout my life I have always sensed that, basically, something isn't right with me.

    I'm struggling to get my words out here as I haven't prepared what I'm gonna write in this post, so everything might seem spontaneous, so just giving you the heads up.

    So yeah, I'm a male in my early 20's. Uni student. All throughout my life I have been painfully shy. This is with everybody. Meeting new people for me is a chore. Although I have improved over the years.

    Firstly, social situations. I'm gonna talk about 3 areas: family, friends, and work colleagues

    Family - In social situations with my family I am awful. Absolutely terrible. Whenever I'm around my family, I simply cannot be myself. Whenever I'm with my family I NEVER talk. EVER. The only time I talk is if A - I need/want something, or B - Answering a question. And whenever I do talk to my family, it's always mono-tone. This is really bad, but for some strange reason, I just can't help it. Never could. My father is extremely old, and over 30 years older than my mum, and so this may have contributed, however I dunno - my older brother has no social probs with the family at all (although my younger brother seems more like me).

    Work Colleagues - Also terrible with work colleagues. Painfully shy when I'm at work. And this applied to all jobs I've ever had. I've had many part-time jobs consisting of a wide range of stuff from shops, factories, cafes, offices, and care homes. I just NEVER talk when I'm at work unless I have to, and again, I just can't help this. I've even lost many jobs due to my shyness. It's really bad. This is similar to the family thing, however, one key difference is that when I do talk with work colleagues, I am polite and smile etc (I don't even do that with my family).

    Friends - I am much, much better with friends than I am with my family and work colleagues. I have a laugh with friends and all that. However, there are still some issues. I never go out of my way to ask friends how their day has gone etc, and even though it's the polite thing to do, I'd just feel stupid saying it. I also tend to get into a lot of arguments. I am EASILY offended and EASILY hurt, and have felt depressed during 'arguments' with friends many, many times. However, having said this, I am still considerably better with friends than I am with family and work colleagues. Another thing with friends though, is that my humour a lot of the time relies on stupid sayings that I made up. Most of my friends didn't take to it when they first met me, but then 'learnt to love it'. But when it all comes down to it, my friends think I am absolutely weird. Not in the bad way of course (otherwise they wouldn't be my friend), but they still think I am a very strange guy. Also, I cannot take 'banter'. Again, easily offended, and cannot take male banter at all, and view it as 'bullying' instead.

    Another reason that I suspect I may have asbergers syndrome is my obsessive compulsions. Basically, I am a songwriter, and have written over 100 songs so far. However, I am more attached to my own music than anything else in the world. Whenever I listen to music, 90% of the time it's my own music. I genuinely think I'm very good, but still, I am so obsessed with my own music to the point of it effecting my life. As a result, I start to hate people that don't like my music, and hate people that are ignorant to my music and don't even listen to it/acknowledge it. On the reverse end of the stick, I end up loving people that enjoy my music, and getting overly excited whenever they put it on, or even just talk about it. If somebody doesn't like my music I get extremely hurt. But if somelike likes my music, I absolutely buzz off it. I have 7 albums so far, and the track listings on each of those albums MUST consist of exactly 12 tracks, and there cannot be songs beside each other that begin with the same frigging letter. I don't know why, but it's just one of my 'rules', and I wouldn't be able to cope if that 'rule' was broken. I WISH WISH WISH I had a girlfriend to appreciate my music. It's my number 1 wish. I've never had a gf to appericate my music, and would just love that. I think I deserve it. I have only had 2 serious gfs in my life, and a couple of non-serious ones, but these were before I even started making music.

    So yeah, these are some reasons why I suspect I may have asbergers syndrome. I have many more obsessive compulsions. I also have a nervous twitch, but that is part of a nervous habit I keep doing.

    I get very depressed all the time too. Although I'm not sure if that's related to asbergers or not. But on a whole, I am not a happy person. I feel lonely and isolated in the world. I want people to know 'me' and my music and have a girlfriend and all that, but I fear it may be impossible in my neurotic state.

    Just under a year ago I had a panic attack, and the doctor made me take a test and said I had severe anxiety. Again, I dunno if that's related to my asbergers/autistic traits, but just throwing it out there.

    Erm, I'm not sure what else to say now, it's really, really complicated. The problem with forums is that the people here haven't met me and can't see it for themselves, and I consider myself to be a very complicated man with many deep problems that I can't really sum up in a single post on a message board.

    But from what you've read, I would appreciate advice. What do people think, by the sounds of it do you think I may have aspergers? All I know is, something isn't right. I've always been too nervous to go to a doctor about this also.

    PS - I posted this thread a couple of years ago about another big problem I have: http://www.thestudentroom.co.uk/showthread.php?t=673656
    Please don't let this link throw you off this main thread. The main thread is really what I want replies for, but I provided the additional link just as another example of how 'messed up' everything is in my mind.
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    Well, I'm not going to diagnose you. Some of the symptoms you have described sound like mild autistic traits, some don't, and I don't know you well enough to make a decision. Either way, I think that if you're worried about this, it warrants a brief chat with your GP (particularly the depression, in my opinion) - if you find it hard to express this stuff, maybe print off your above post and give it to them to read. It will obviously be treated in confidence, and they will take you seriously, and if they think it is justified or necessary, they may recommend you some course of treatment or therapy, or some ways of coping when you find situations difficult.
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    I honestly didn't read all of that but go to the doctors if you're really worried.

    I would have thought that if you did have asperger's, you wouldn't be aware of it yourself though.
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    (Original post by Kettle)
    Hi everyone.

    I am a male in my early 20's, and all throughout my life I have always sensed that, basically, something isn't right with me.

    I'm struggling to get my words out here as I haven't prepared what I'm gonna write in this post, so everything might seem spontaneous, so just giving you the heads up.

    So yeah, I'm a male in my early 20's. Uni student. All throughout my life I have been painfully shy. This is with everybody. Meeting new people for me is a chore. Although I have improved over the years.

    Firstly, social situations. I'm gonna talk about 3 areas: family, friends, and work colleagues

    Family - In social situations with my family I am awful. Absolutely terrible. Whenever I'm around my family, I simply cannot be myself. Whenever I'm with my family I NEVER talk. EVER. The only time I talk is if A - I need/want something, or B - Answering a question. And whenever I do talk to my family, it's always mono-tone. This is really bad, but for some strange reason, I just can't help it. Never could. My father is extremely old, and over 30 years older than my mum, and so this may have contributed, however I dunno - my older brother has no social probs with the family at all (although my younger brother seems more like me).

    Work Colleagues - Also terrible with work colleagues. Painfully shy when I'm at work. And this applied to all jobs I've ever had. I've had many part-time jobs consisting of a wide range of stuff from shops, factories, cafes, offices, and care homes. I just NEVER talk when I'm at work unless I have to, and again, I just can't help this. I've even lost many jobs due to my shyness. It's really bad. This is similar to the family thing, however, one key difference is that when I do talk with work colleagues, I am polite and smile etc (I don't even do that with my family).

    Friends - I am much, much better with friends than I am with my family and work colleagues. I have a laugh with friends and all that. However, there are still some issues. I never go out of my way to ask friends how their day has gone etc, and even though it's the polite thing to do, I'd just feel stupid saying it. I also tend to get into a lot of arguments. I am EASILY offended and EASILY hurt, and have felt depressed during 'arguments' with friends many, many times. However, having said this, I am still considerably better with friends than I am with family and work colleagues. Another thing with friends though, is that my humour a lot of the time relies on stupid sayings that I made up. Most of my friends didn't take to it when they first met me, but then 'learnt to love it'. But when it all comes down to it, my friends think I am absolutely weird. Not in the bad way of course (otherwise they wouldn't be my friend), but they still think I am a very strange guy. Also, I cannot take 'banter'. Again, easily offended, and cannot take male banter at all, and view it as 'bullying' instead.

    Another reason that I suspect I may have asbergers syndrome is my obsessive compulsions. Basically, I am a songwriter, and have written over 100 songs so far. However, I am more attached to my own music than anything else in the world. Whenever I listen to music, 90% of the time it's my own music. I genuinely think I'm very good, but still, I am so obsessed with my own music to the point of it effecting my life. As a result, I start to hate people that don't like my music, and hate people that are ignorant to my music and don't even listen to it/acknowledge it. On the reverse end of the stick, I end up loving people that enjoy my music, and getting overly excited whenever they put it on, or even just talk about it. If somebody doesn't like my music I get extremely hurt. But if somelike likes my music, I absolutely buzz off it. I have 7 albums so far, and the track listings on each of those albums MUST consist of exactly 12 tracks, and there cannot be songs beside each other that begin with the same frigging letter. I don't know why, but it's just one of my 'rules', and I wouldn't be able to cope if that 'rule' was broken. I WISH WISH WISH I had a girlfriend to appreciate my music. It's my number 1 wish. I've never had a gf to appericate my music, and would just love that. I think I deserve it. I have only had 2 serious gfs in my life, and a couple of non-serious ones, but these were before I even started making music.

    So yeah, these are some reasons why I suspect I may have asbergers syndrome. I have many more obsessive compulsions. I also have a nervous twitch, but that is part of a nervous habit I keep doing.

    I get very depressed all the time too. Although I'm not sure if that's related to asbergers or not. But on a whole, I am not a happy person. I feel lonely and isolated in the world. I want people to know 'me' and my music and have a girlfriend and all that, but I fear it may be impossible in my neurotic state.

    Just under a year ago I had a panic attack, and the doctor made me take a test and said I had severe anxiety. Again, I dunno if that's related to my asbergers/autistic traits, but just throwing it out there.

    Erm, I'm not sure what else to say now, it's really, really complicated. The problem with forums is that the people here haven't met me and can't see it for themselves, and I consider myself to be a very complicated man with many deep problems that I can't really sum up in a single post on a message board.

    But from what you've read, I would appreciate advise. What do people think, by the sounds of it do you think I may have asbergers? All I know is, something isn't right. I've always been too nervous to go to a doctor about this also.

    PS - I posted this thread a couple of years ago about another big problem I have: http://www.thestudentroom.co.uk/showthread.php?t=673656
    Please don't let this link throw you off this main thread. The main thread is really what I want replies for, but I provided the additional link just as another example of how 'messed up' everything is in my mind.

    haha, you sound like a slightly exaggerated version of me! 100 songs.. i'm impressed! how old are you?! and it's *aspergers btw :p:..



    Here's some of the Childhood symptoms but many carry through to teens apparently:

    * Not pick up on social cues and may lack inborn social skills, such as being able to read others' body language, start or maintain a conversation, and take turns talking.
    * Dislike any changes in routines.
    * Appear to lack empathy.
    * Be unable to recognize subtle differences in speech tone, pitch, and accent that alter the meaning of others’ speech. Thus, your child may not understand a joke or may take a sarcastic comment literally. Likewise, his or her speech may be flat and difficult to understand because it lacks tone, pitch, and accent.
    * Have a formal style of speaking that is advanced for his or her age. For example, the child may use the word "beckon" instead of "call" or the word "return" instead of "come back."
    * Avoid eye contact or stare at others.
    * Have unusual facial expressions or postures.
    * Be preoccupied with only one or few interests, which he or she may be very knowledgeable about. Many children with Asperger's syndrome are overly interested in parts of a whole or in unusual activities, such as designing houses, drawing highly detailed scenes, or studying astronomy. They may show an unusual interest in certain topics such as snakes, names of stars, or dinosaurs. 2
    * Talk a lot, usually about a favorite subject. One-sided conversations are common. Internal thoughts are often verbalized.
    * Have delayed motor development. Your child may be late in learning to use a fork or spoon, ride a bike, or catch a ball. He or she may have an awkward walk. Handwriting is often poor.
    * Have heightened sensitivity and become overstimulated by loud noises, lights, or strong tastes or textures. For more information about these symptoms, see sensory integration dysfunction.

    Lol this actually does sound like me. If you're 'worried' I'd see a doctor, but my guess is there's not much they can do. I think everyone has one or two of these symptoms- after I got diagnosed with Dyslexia i started to wonder if i was on the autistic spectrum but when I contacted the the Dyslexia Institute I was told they can overlap (no idea how this works!)
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    Also- http://www.wired.com/wired/archive/9.12/aqtest.html

    If you havn't heard of him Baron-Cohen's a really famous psychologist.
    & I got 33 xD
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    I think you should see someone and talk about your symptoms. Or if that would be too difficult just print out your post and give it to a doctor or something.

    I will add, though, that you seem to only want a girlfriend so she can fawn over you and your musical ability. This isn't a great reason to want a girlfriend. What if you found a girl and she wasn't that keen on your music?
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    (Original post by jjackson18624)
    Also- http://www.wired.com/wired/archive/9.12/aqtest.html

    If you havn't heard of him Baron-Cohen's a really famous psychologist.
    & I got 33 xD
    Just went on the link, I got 36.

    To answer your question, I'm 24 years old.

    Thanks for the replies so far everyone. I'll wait for more replies and see what others say, then start individually responding
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    Hi. I can offer some advice, if you would like it.

    http://www.oaasis.co.uk/documents/In...ome_Assessment provides a list of regional specialists who will diagnose in adults. These diagnoses are usually free, and they are conducted by people who are used to recognising autism spectrum disorders. Local GPs may not be, and as you have already realised there are other mental disorders that can look like the same thing, which may lead to mis-diagnosis. Labelling may or may not help you, but it's important to at least find the right avenue to pursue if you are serious about this.

    Generally, OAASIS provides very helpful, free information on the syndrome. Although they work more with children than adults, their information covers both. I recommend their publications as some of the least biased and most realistic available (some internet users say they have Asperger's when in fact they have a lack of developed social skills or are looking for an easy excuse for what they know to be bad behaviour, meaning that online resources can be very shaky or misleading).

    My experience, incidentally, comes from my younger brother (19) being on the spectrum, and now formally diagnosed.
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    (Original post by Jelkin)
    I will add, though, that you seem to only want a girlfriend so she can fawn over you and your musical ability. This isn't a great reason to want a girlfriend. What if you found a girl and she wasn't that keen on your music?
    Well that isn't the only reason I want a gf. It's just one of the reasons. But yes I admit that if I met a gf that didn't like my music it would probably hurt bad and I doubt I'd be able to cope!
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    I haven't read your entire post, but I'll offer my 0.02c worth.

    The diagnosis of Asperger Syndrome is extremely subjective - it's more an art than a science and it's not unheard of to have two opposing opinions.

    We are all a product of our anything and everything - our upbringing, our surroundings, our peers etc. and these all combine to imprint on our subconscious memory. This in turn leads us to have certain, person-specific behavioural characteristics - these may or may not be due to conditions such as Asperger, Attention Deficit Disorder, Depression etc.

    I would suggest you look for an answer within - there's no magic pill for asperger and there's no short cut. Your post suggests that your 'asperger' is not limiting you to the extent that it could be disability.

    Embrace with grace, people accept you for who you are and asperger sufferers have many, many strengths.

    I suffer from dyslexia, I have a delibitating stammer, everyone has suggested (and are convinced) that I have asperger and yet, I refuse to be tested and diagnosed officially for any conditions. The 'answer' to my problems is within me and in embracing life to the full and living everyday as if there is no other.
    Good luck!


    (Original post by Kettle)
    Hi everyone.

    I am a male in my early 20's, and all throughout my life I have always sensed that, basically, something isn't right with me.

    I'm struggling to get my words out here as I haven't prepared what I'm gonna write in this post, so everything might seem spontaneous, so just giving you the heads up.

    So yeah, I'm a male in my early 20's. Uni student. All throughout my life I have been painfully shy. This is with everybody. Meeting new people for me is a chore. Although I have improved over the years.

    Firstly, social situations. I'm gonna talk about 3 areas: family, friends, and work colleagues

    Family - In social situations with my family I am awful. Absolutely terrible. Whenever I'm around my family, I simply cannot be myself. Whenever I'm with my family I NEVER talk. EVER. The only time I talk is if A - I need/want something, or B - Answering a question. And whenever I do talk to my family, it's always mono-tone. This is really bad, but for some strange reason, I just can't help it. Never could. My father is extremely old, and over 30 years older than my mum, and so this may have contributed, however I dunno - my older brother has no social probs with the family at all (although my younger brother seems more like me).

    Work Colleagues - Also terrible with work colleagues. Painfully shy when I'm at work. And this applied to all jobs I've ever had. I've had many part-time jobs consisting of a wide range of stuff from shops, factories, cafes, offices, and care homes. I just NEVER talk when I'm at work unless I have to, and again, I just can't help this. I've even lost many jobs due to my shyness. It's really bad. This is similar to the family thing, however, one key difference is that when I do talk with work colleagues, I am polite and smile etc (I don't even do that with my family).

    Friends - I am much, much better with friends than I am with my family and work colleagues. I have a laugh with friends and all that. However, there are still some issues. I never go out of my way to ask friends how their day has gone etc, and even though it's the polite thing to do, I'd just feel stupid saying it. I also tend to get into a lot of arguments. I am EASILY offended and EASILY hurt, and have felt depressed during 'arguments' with friends many, many times. However, having said this, I am still considerably better with friends than I am with family and work colleagues. Another thing with friends though, is that my humour a lot of the time relies on stupid sayings that I made up. Most of my friends didn't take to it when they first met me, but then 'learnt to love it'. But when it all comes down to it, my friends think I am absolutely weird. Not in the bad way of course (otherwise they wouldn't be my friend), but they still think I am a very strange guy. Also, I cannot take 'banter'. Again, easily offended, and cannot take male banter at all, and view it as 'bullying' instead.

    Another reason that I suspect I may have asbergers syndrome is my obsessive compulsions. Basically, I am a songwriter, and have written over 100 songs so far. However, I am more attached to my own music than anything else in the world. Whenever I listen to music, 90% of the time it's my own music. I genuinely think I'm very good, but still, I am so obsessed with my own music to the point of it effecting my life. As a result, I start to hate people that don't like my music, and hate people that are ignorant to my music and don't even listen to it/acknowledge it. On the reverse end of the stick, I end up loving people that enjoy my music, and getting overly excited whenever they put it on, or even just talk about it. If somebody doesn't like my music I get extremely hurt. But if somelike likes my music, I absolutely buzz off it. I have 7 albums so far, and the track listings on each of those albums MUST consist of exactly 12 tracks, and there cannot be songs beside each other that begin with the same frigging letter. I don't know why, but it's just one of my 'rules', and I wouldn't be able to cope if that 'rule' was broken. I WISH WISH WISH I had a girlfriend to appreciate my music. It's my number 1 wish. I've never had a gf to appericate my music, and would just love that. I think I deserve it. I have only had 2 serious gfs in my life, and a couple of non-serious ones, but these were before I even started making music.

    So yeah, these are some reasons why I suspect I may have asbergers syndrome. I have many more obsessive compulsions. I also have a nervous twitch, but that is part of a nervous habit I keep doing.

    I get very depressed all the time too. Although I'm not sure if that's related to asbergers or not. But on a whole, I am not a happy person. I feel lonely and isolated in the world. I want people to know 'me' and my music and have a girlfriend and all that, but I fear it may be impossible in my neurotic state.

    Just under a year ago I had a panic attack, and the doctor made me take a test and said I had severe anxiety. Again, I dunno if that's related to my asbergers/autistic traits, but just throwing it out there.

    Erm, I'm not sure what else to say now, it's really, really complicated. The problem with forums is that the people here haven't met me and can't see it for themselves, and I consider myself to be a very complicated man with many deep problems that I can't really sum up in a single post on a message board.

    But from what you've read, I would appreciate advice. What do people think, by the sounds of it do you think I may have asbergers? All I know is, something isn't right. I've always been too nervous to go to a doctor about this also.

    PS - I posted this thread a couple of years ago about another big problem I have: http://www.thestudentroom.co.uk/showthread.php?t=673656
    Please don't let this link throw you off this main thread. The main thread is really what I want replies for, but I provided the additional link just as another example of how 'messed up' everything is in my mind.
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    My friend has aspergers, he's one if the most talkative and just lovely people i know
    I miss him.
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    I have Aspergers. I know what it's like to have it. And it's not really like how you're describing it at all- apart from maybe 2-3 bits.

    And those 2-3 `bits`, are more applicable to someone who's just a natural (and rather extreme) introverted person, with moderate OCD, an anxiety complex, self-esteem issues, empathy difficulties and just plain poor social awareness.

    No, from reading this post you've written (and kudos to you for writing it), I really don't think you've got Aspergers but more what I've described above. There's a fair few inconsistencies with what can be defined by a diagnosed Asperger and experienced Asperger as Asperger's Syndrome. It's certainly a `subjective` condition, but not as much as people like to think/ponder.

    Then again, this is coming from me (some stranger totally over the Internet!) and this is my perspective based upon what you've written thus far. Since you have come out yourself (which is actually quite brave, in many ways- even though you are not confirmed by psychological diagnosis), I'd be more than glad for you to PM if you want to discuss it with me/rage at my reply/just chat. It'll probably turn out to be a fairly intriguing conversation if it does so happen.

    I would also follow up on wingsofadove and Jelkin's advice, to ease your worries and to try and get a confirmation of whether you `actually` have it or not.

    I also realise that this post may seem confrontational, harsh and unecessarily aggressive in nature, so let me point out that in no way am I trying to `get your goat`, `hack` you off or what ever terminology you use for `irritate` you. And I geuinely am not, so don't take this or any of the above as sarcastic backslash.

    Right, that's my first post on these forums. Who'd have thought it'd be about this?

    Oh, and hello to all who have bothered to read down to the end of this post... :evil:
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    (Original post by Eclectic Styles)
    I have Aspergers. I know what it's like to have it. And it's not really like how you're describing it at all- apart from maybe 2-3 bits.

    And those 2-3 `bits`, are more applicable to someone who's just a natural (and rather extreme) introverted person, with moderate OCD, an anxiety complex, self-esteem issues, empathy difficulties and just plain poor social awareness.

    No, from reading this post you've written (and kudos to you for writing it), I really don't think you've got Aspergers but more what I've described above. There's a fair few inconsistencies with what can be defined by a diagnosed Asperger and experienced Asperger as Asperger's Syndrome. It's certainly a `subjective` condition, but not as much as people like to think/ponder.
    This. Some things make me think Aspergers...some thing's dont. And im more inclined to think 'No'.

    But can't be accurate on the internet, do you can aim for a diagnosis. But bare in mind the NHS can be very **** for diagnosing and will rather NOT diagnose you because of funding etc...Basically it's well known they will tell you that you don't have it, when you do and when it's so obvious you do.

    For this reason, private assessment is the way forward although it can be expensive its much more unbiased.
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    You get diagnosed as having asperger...

    Then what?

    It'll change nowt - only label you as being 'different' and make you even more insecure.
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    It would be interesting to see how many people are officially aspergers and how many are self-diagnosed. I get the feeling many self-diagnose just to find blame for their behaviour with the real problems laying elsewhere.

    Take everything you read on these Asperger threads with caution.

    Take a sample of TSR users and the incidence of claimed Asperger would be much higher than that of a sample drawn from the entire population.
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    From what you've said, it doesn't seem like you have aspergers. I'm no doctor (yet), but I do know a few people with aspergers syndrome. They are not much like what you have described; example, they are not shy and will not be quiet in social situations. Instead, they will often speak their mind making brash and outlandish statements (which they believe are right despite the fact that their argument is flawed and they have no evidence), they will also often make inappropriate remarks, an example being greeting girls with the line "I have a 10 inch penis."

    A guy I know with aspergers is so incredibly confident that it will drive you insane (he is not aware that he has aspergers). He refuses to accept other peoples opinions, ignores any advice regarding anything, and also, he believes he is the best at everything. Below are some examples of how he behaves that relate to what I have said above.

    - He believes he is better looking than every guy he's met, despite the fact that nobody has ever told him he is good looking, coupled with the fact that he has been rejected by every girl he has ever approached.
    - He stated that "Most people that make arrangements tend to cancel them most of the time." But he was unable to substantiate his argument.
    - He believes that he is a gifted tennis player and is better than myself and my brother, despite the fact that we have both beaten him in straight sets (6-0 6-0 6-0) several times.
    - He believes that he when he loses at anything, it is simply the other person getting lucky. When he loses at tennis or pool, he simply says that the other person was lucky.
    - Finally, he says that he women have wrongly wired brains because they will not sleep with him. He states that it is their fault that he cant get laid.

    So, with that in mind, it does not sound like you have aspergers. Although, like I said, I'm no doctor.
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    My god thats weird... My mother just tonight told me I might have it...!
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    (Original post by Kettle)
    Hi everyone.

    I am a male in my early 20's, and all throughout my life I have always sensed that, basically, something isn't right with me.

    I'm struggling to get my words out here as I haven't prepared what I'm gonna write in this post, so everything might seem spontaneous, so just giving you the heads up.

    So yeah, I'm a male in my early 20's. Uni student. All throughout my life I have been painfully shy. This is with everybody. Meeting new people for me is a chore. Although I have improved over the years.

    Firstly, social situations. I'm gonna talk about 3 areas: family, friends, and work colleagues

    Family - In social situations with my family I am awful. Absolutely terrible. Whenever I'm around my family, I simply cannot be myself. Whenever I'm with my family I NEVER talk. EVER. The only time I talk is if A - I need/want something, or B - Answering a question. And whenever I do talk to my family, it's always mono-tone. This is really bad, but for some strange reason, I just can't help it. Never could. My father is extremely old, and over 30 years older than my mum, and so this may have contributed, however I dunno - my older brother has no social probs with the family at all (although my younger brother seems more like me).

    Work Colleagues - Also terrible with work colleagues. Painfully shy when I'm at work. And this applied to all jobs I've ever had. I've had many part-time jobs consisting of a wide range of stuff from shops, factories, cafes, offices, and care homes. I just NEVER talk when I'm at work unless I have to, and again, I just can't help this. I've even lost many jobs due to my shyness. It's really bad. This is similar to the family thing, however, one key difference is that when I do talk with work colleagues, I am polite and smile etc (I don't even do that with my family).

    Friends - I am much, much better with friends than I am with my family and work colleagues. I have a laugh with friends and all that. However, there are still some issues. I never go out of my way to ask friends how their day has gone etc, and even though it's the polite thing to do, I'd just feel stupid saying it. I also tend to get into a lot of arguments. I am EASILY offended and EASILY hurt, and have felt depressed during 'arguments' with friends many, many times. However, having said this, I am still considerably better with friends than I am with family and work colleagues. Another thing with friends though, is that my humour a lot of the time relies on stupid sayings that I made up. Most of my friends didn't take to it when they first met me, but then 'learnt to love it'. But when it all comes down to it, my friends think I am absolutely weird. Not in the bad way of course (otherwise they wouldn't be my friend), but they still think I am a very strange guy. Also, I cannot take 'banter'. Again, easily offended, and cannot take male banter at all, and view it as 'bullying' instead.

    Another reason that I suspect I may have asbergers syndrome is my obsessive compulsions. Basically, I am a songwriter, and have written over 100 songs so far. However, I am more attached to my own music than anything else in the world. Whenever I listen to music, 90% of the time it's my own music. I genuinely think I'm very good, but still, I am so obsessed with my own music to the point of it effecting my life. As a result, I start to hate people that don't like my music, and hate people that are ignorant to my music and don't even listen to it/acknowledge it. On the reverse end of the stick, I end up loving people that enjoy my music, and getting overly excited whenever they put it on, or even just talk about it. If somebody doesn't like my music I get extremely hurt. But if somelike likes my music, I absolutely buzz off it. I have 7 albums so far, and the track listings on each of those albums MUST consist of exactly 12 tracks, and there cannot be songs beside each other that begin with the same frigging letter. I don't know why, but it's just one of my 'rules', and I wouldn't be able to cope if that 'rule' was broken. I WISH WISH WISH I had a girlfriend to appreciate my music. It's my number 1 wish. I've never had a gf to appericate my music, and would just love that. I think I deserve it. I have only had 2 serious gfs in my life, and a couple of non-serious ones, but these were before I even started making music.

    So yeah, these are some reasons why I suspect I may have asbergers syndrome. I have many more obsessive compulsions. I also have a nervous twitch, but that is part of a nervous habit I keep doing.

    I get very depressed all the time too. Although I'm not sure if that's related to asbergers or not. But on a whole, I am not a happy person. I feel lonely and isolated in the world. I want people to know 'me' and my music and have a girlfriend and all that, but I fear it may be impossible in my neurotic state.

    Just under a year ago I had a panic attack, and the doctor made me take a test and said I had severe anxiety. Again, I dunno if that's related to my asbergers/autistic traits, but just throwing it out there.

    Erm, I'm not sure what else to say now, it's really, really complicated. The problem with forums is that the people here haven't met me and can't see it for themselves, and I consider myself to be a very complicated man with many deep problems that I can't really sum up in a single post on a message board.

    But from what you've read, I would appreciate advice. What do people think, by the sounds of it do you think I may have aspergers? All I know is, something isn't right. I've always been too nervous to go to a doctor about this also.

    PS - I posted this thread a couple of years ago about another big problem I have: http://www.thestudentroom.co.uk/showthread.php?t=673656
    Please don't let this link throw you off this main thread. The main thread is really what I want replies for, but I provided the additional link just as another example of how 'messed up' everything is in my mind.
    Although I don't have it myself, I come from a family where autisim/aspergers is common, you sound as though you could have soem of the symptons - go see your GP. Only way you're gonna find out
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    (Original post by Kettle)
    Hi everyone.

    I am a male in my early 20's, and all throughout my life I have always sensed that, basically, something isn't right with me.
    You've just described half of world's young male population.

    I'm pretty sure you don't have Asperger's.
    These are probably just self-confidence issues. Nothing a serious romantic relationship won't fix.
    And family issues. Who doesn't have family issues?

    This is only a modest opinion. But I believe you shouldn't worry yourself about being a little different. We can't all share the same personality.
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    Doctor, now.
 
 
 
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