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    (Original post by EarlHickey)
    I dont mind standing up for myself but would need some form of backup, i.e if I go to him he has loads of friends including some massive ones and its easy for them to start, whereas I would be on my own.

    I think he is doing it on purpose because he knows I only confront him when hes alone.


    I can see why they get away with the things they do if you have this attitude
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    My flatmate used to be annoying, coming back at 3am and playing music with mates in the kitchen (RIGHT next to my room, thin walls).

    So I went into the kitchen when no-one was there, and hid the speakers and cables. They came back, went "wheres the speaker?" I have not heard from them since.

    ALSO
    Do not do the house work, or find a maggot and put it in his dirty food.

    Only clean your stuff, and KEEP IT IN YOUR ROOM. Buy a cool box and change the ice packs twice a day, my gf does this because her flatmates were stealing her food etc.

    Remove the problems, and they go away!
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    (Original post by Rokit)


    I can see why they get away with the things they do if you have this attitude
    Well I am not letting him get away with it as such more covering my own back since his friends will obviously back him up.
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    You sound like a doormat, if some girl spoke to me like that, in my home, I'd grab her by the hair and throw her out
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    (Original post by a_t)
    You sound like a doormat, if some girl spoke to me like that, in my home, I'd grab her by the hair and throw her out
    You wouldn't have to do that anyway

    No one would speak to anyone else like that unless they knew they could get away with it
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    I think people are being overly harsh on him here....they're clearly tossers and he lacks the presence to do anything....it's easy saying do this and do that behind a keyboard or if you're well built already and used to fighting or a female where your actions pretty much won't lead to violence towards you. But he's on his own and outnumbered and needs to stay in this place.

    Saying that after the last incident nothing bad has seemed to of happened...it's just that ***** that needs sorting out and just leave his crap for him to tidy....no need being bothered about a bit of coca cola being used.

    Have you tried saying to him that when you got lectures early or an exam the next day you don't want people round making loads of noise or the music on?
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    (Original post by Hugh-Jackman)
    I think people are being overly harsh on him here....they're clearly tossers and he lacks the presence to do anything....it's easy saying do this and do that behind a keyboard or if you're well built already and used to fighting or a female where your actions pretty much won't lead to violence towards you. But he's on his own and outnumbered and needs to stay in this place.

    Saying that after the last incident nothing bad has seemed to of happened...it's just that ***** that needs sorting out and just leave his crap for him to tidy....no need being bothered about a bit of coca cola being used.

    Have you tried saying to him that when you got lectures early or an exam the next day you don't want people round making loads of noise or the music on?
    Yeah, and his reply was each time "its ok, after last night/time drinking I cant do it again for a while" then he does, I think it all comes down to what he told me 2 weeks ago. He is in the """" at uni for missing tons of lectures and has been told any more and hes kicked out so instead of clubbing hes drinking inside.

    Anyway yet another argument has happened! I came back and for the 3rd night in a row he is drinking(think its because his bursary has arrived) Yet he hasnt bothered paying me this months £13 yet for internet and phone.

    He woke me up this morning as I went to bed late in part due to him playing music till about midnight and 2 because I had an essay due and he put music on at 10am!

    I spoke to him and said I had to get an extension for my essay because I cant relax from the noise and he said he wouldnt be noisy again.

    Got back an hour ago and a full on party was going on and as I walked in this really drunk girl went "who the **** are you and what are you doing in this house!" turns out all the people there dont know he has a flatmate! but then all I could hear was stuff like "down it, down it down it" for ages and the kitchen covered in dirty plates and kitchen towels over the floor or chucked in corners and my freshly washed bath towel had brown poo like marks on and noticed there was no toilet roll left

    I went to his room and still politely said, can you turn it down I want to relax and finish off my essay and was told to not be a square etc and then got gobby comments from a stereotypical blonde skinny girl with make up that looks like its applied with a trowel and said to her she doesnt live here and then a bunch of drunk guys(and her) said I cant say that and did I want to start something, """"""" cowards they are knowing I am on my own and theres loads of them.

    As usual I have to deal with the fallout of the guy wanting to party and treat the house like his own personal nightclub and """" anyone else as long as hes happy.
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    (Original post by EarlHickey)
    Yeah, and his reply was each time "its ok, after last night/time drinking I cant do it again for a while" then he does, I think it all comes down to what he told me 2 weeks ago. He is in the """" at uni for missing tons of lectures and has been told any more and hes kicked out so instead of clubbing hes drinking inside.

    Anyway yet another argument has happened! I came back and for the 3rd night in a row he is drinking(think its because his bursary has arrived) Yet he hasnt bothered paying me this months £13 yet for internet and phone.

    He woke me up this morning as I went to bed late in part due to him playing music till about midnight and 2 because I had an essay due and he put music on at 10am!

    I spoke to him and said I had to get an extension for my essay because I cant relax from the noise and he said he wouldnt be noisy again.

    Got back an hour ago and a full on party was going on and as I walked in this really drunk girl went "who the **** are you and what are you doing in this house!" turns out all the people there dont know he has a flatmate! but then all I could hear was stuff like "down it, down it down it" for ages and the kitchen covered in dirty plates and kitchen towels over the floor or chucked in corners and my freshly washed bath towel had brown poo like marks on and noticed there was no toilet roll left

    I went to his room and still politely said, can you turn it down I want to relax and finish off my essay and was told to not be a square etc and then got gobby comments from a stereotypical blonde skinny girl with make up that looks like its applied with a trowel and said to her she doesnt live here and then a bunch of drunk guys(and her) said I cant say that and did I want to start something, """"""" cowards they are knowing I am on my own and theres loads of them.

    As usual I have to deal with the fallout of the guy wanting to party and treat the house like his own personal nightclub and """" anyone else as long as hes happy.
    Seriously mate, stop getting owned by this scumbag. Just ring the council complaining about the noise. Don't say you live there.
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    (Original post by Nick_000)
    Seriously mate, stop getting owned by this scumbag. Just ring the council complaining about the noise. Don't say you live there.
    Forgot to say that i also have to tonight live with the stink of smoke, smells like a nightclub in here and considering im upstairs and its a massive house it shows how strong whatever he is smoking is.

    I hope I can finish my essay by Friday as at this rate I wont and I am already myself on my last legs as I was ill last semester and have to pass this one and turn up for every class or be chucked out and I dont think uni believes I was really ill first semsester and am making it up.
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    Do you not have friends to invite round? He won't take the piss if you're not alone?
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    (Original post by Nick_000)
    Do you not have friends to invite round? He won't take the piss if you're not alone?
    Nope I have problems socialisng as have Aspergers and as such have only 1 close friend who lives miles away and works mixed shifts
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    (Original post by EarlHickey)
    Nope I have problems socialisng as have Aspergers and as such have only 1 close friend who lives miles away and works mixed shifts
    He seems a douche and you seem nice. This makes it unfair. Link me to his Facebook and I'll message him some abuse if you want?
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    slap the **** out of her! She really does deserve it, idc f its a woman cut all her hair off or something, spike her drink's anything! As long as it really hurts her, push her out the window maybe? lol, i've nearly did that before... :p:
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    (Original post by Nick_000)
    He seems a douche and you seem nice. This makes it unfair. Link me to his Facebook and I'll message him some abuse if you want?
    He may then start getting on at me, btw just heard glass smashing and people yelling and laughing and people sounding if they are deliberately slamming doors loud as they can and people hammering on the front door(though that may be neighbours as they said whenever they hear noise they will knock on the door)

    I honestly dont know how the smoke is that strong though as it smells as if someone is smoking in my bedroom and I am a non smoker and none of my visitors have ever smoked in here.
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    So why is drinking inside ok if he's supposed to be trying to catch up with uni work? Has he given up any chance of continuing his course?
    Can you go stay with a friend on a temporary basis to get your essays done and catch up on sleep? I know it's not ideal but it'll give you the strength to come back and do battle. Plus he'll have no-one clearing up after him for a few days so he can run out of clean dishes etc.

    Sorry just read the no friends bit - didn't mean to be insensitive. Call the police if the neighbours are complaining.
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    (Original post by EarlHickey)
    He may then start getting on at me, btw just heard glass smashing and people yelling and laughing and people sounding if they are deliberately slamming doors loud as they can and people hammering on the front door(though that may be neighbours as they said whenever they hear noise they will knock on the door)

    I honestly dont know how the smoke is that strong though as it smells as if someone is smoking in my bedroom and I am a non smoker and none of my visitors have ever smoked in here.
    I'll pretend to be your cousin or something and say I'm not happy with how he's treating you. Give him some verbal abuse and all. If he asks, just say you told your family when you were upset and didn't realise they'd get involved.
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    I also think you should tell someone at uni about all the problems you are having. They may be willing to provide temporary accommodation or make some suggestions about what you can do.
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    Deck her with a mallet and hurl her from the window.
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    He's a prick and she's a b****. How dare her speak to you like that!



    (Original post by sidi)
    I also think you should tell someone at uni about all the problems you are having. They may be willing to provide temporary accommodation or make some suggestions about what you can do.
    This is a very good idea
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    Ok so I got so annoyed as the music was getting louder and louder to the point my actual door was rattling! at this point I logged onto router(as I am admin) and changed password.

    10 minutes later they decided to go out and I heard "why are we leaving, hes bound to change it back soon enough"

    I will leave the password changed till the morning.
 
 
 
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