I've been with my boyfriend for three years - we started going out when I'd just turned fifteen. Sometimes I do feel as though I'm missing out on the fun of being single, but to be honest I'd much rather have the secure, loving relationship I have now. If I was single I know that I'd just be looking for exactly what I've already got.
However, in some ways I wish I'd met him a few years later.
yeah uni definitely affects how a relationship pans out.
Dont worry about it though, in my opinion i think its best to go to uni single!
well my friend who is now 20 has been seeing his girlfriend since he was 11 years old.........cripes......I think he's missing out or at least has missed out, but I guess if you are lucky enough to fall in love with someone at a young age you get to spend more time with them.....I went out with the same guy for 4 years between the ages of 13 and 16 and when we broke up I was devastated and really felt like I'd missed out, but on reflection I guess I got to experience other things instead.
i think it's really scary to be a in long-term relationship at our age (i'm 19) and i also think that being serious enough to make that long distance at uni is a huge step.
saying all that... me and my bf are celebrating 18 months on monday and during term time i'm in dundee and he's in lancaster. in some ways that's made us both a bit more independent as we have very different groups of friends and we can go out and get hideously drunk without worrying about the other one.
my gut instinct is that we're both too young for the kind of commitment we have, but i guess that can't be helped- when we started going out neither of us expected this, neither of us had been in any long-term relationship before (my longest was about 6 months and i split up with him just before i met my bf) and we just expected it to be a bit of fun.
I was in a semi long (?) relationship in January. It lasted 7 months. It wasn't all bad though, although the last half of the relationship was a disaster. I learned from it and am not going to put up with any of the same **** again.
I was 19 and she was 15.
i've been with my bf for just over 2 and a half years and we're definately staying together throughout uni. we've had our fair share of problems but we love each other soo much and noone even compares to him! i'm so loved up!
I know a 17 year old couple who have been going out for three years now. To cut a long story short, I think the circumstances of their coming together was quite weird: neither had ever been out with anyone before (and didn't really have the prospect of doing so) and the guy was openly obsessed with another girl (whose name he carved into his arm with a compas). I thought, and still think, they're going out largely because they think it's a "cool" thing to do / it makes them better than people. They can't handle being away from eachother either. They deny they've wasted their teenage years, and to be honest I don't think they have, but I doubt they'll last.
Ive been with my boyfriend since the start of Year 10, and we're now both awaiting A-Level results and about to go off to Uni. So been together almost 4 years, I couldn't imagine splitting up with him becoz we're going to Uni, it sounds so ridiculous, splitting up with sumone ur madly in love with and have such a solid and stable relationship with (in my case anyway) just bcoz ur going to Uni - unthinkable! But then again I guess everyone's different. I dont think ive missed out on anything being with sumone for so long, we click together and Ive never met anyone like him. I dont want to split up with him and im not jealous of single girls bcoz i know that for me, id never find anyone better than him.
I think it's fine as long as you keep it in perspective and realise that you might not always be right together. However, the younger you are the more difficult it is to see that. I think if you're in a long term relationship for most of your school days, you will, almost inevitably, be missing out on quite a lot of fun stuff. Ok, so you'll be an expert on long term relationships, but what about all the other parts of going out with someone - the flirtation and the getting to know each other? If it's too intense (as first loves often are) you might drift from friends and narrow your range of interests. I know it can work, but I think a balance is always good.
I was in a pretty serious relationship for just over a year when I was 15, and despite me now having that experience of love and stuff, I'm not sure it was a good thing. He totally wasn't the one for me even though I thought he was at the time. I don't regret it though, cos I've had a mixture of experiences. After that ended I was single for ages, had a few short lived relationships, a lot of embarrassing pulls... Now I'm in another long term relationship which is great, and to me I get more valuable experiences from being with him to being single.
But my point is, if I hadn't been forced to break up with my first boyfriend (uni) I would have missed out on so much!!
I dont think i will be missing out on 'independence'. Having a boyfriend that i trust explicitly and who trusts me equally, gives me freedom at Uni, obv not to hook up with other guys lol but make new mates. At times at home, i have felt as tho maybe i cud be hanging around with some of my mates instead of being with my boyfriend and Uni will give me both the freedom to make new friends and let my hair down whilst having the security of a long term boyfriend. Besides the break apart will hopefully make us stronger and if it doesn't then i guess we'll split up but im definately not going to do the splitting up first before ive even got there. I have no desire to become single if it means breaking up with my boyfriend. And i wont have lost any 'independence', just by going to Uni i will have gained some and ill have the freedom to just hang around with mates.