I've been with my bf for 18 months now but during that time I have gone through some really bad things that have made us really close. Luckily we both make plenty of time for our friends and appreciate that we can't always see each other as much as we want because even though we're both in the same school, we're both very busy. Generally we spend 1-2 weekends a month together so that we can still do other things. We have also just spent a month apart when my bf went trekking in Africa, and it was nice to have someone to miss in the sense that neither of us were pining after each other. We're applying to some of the same unis but that's just a coincidence and we're not going to split up just because of uni but trying to predict the future is impossible.
It is all very easy to say oh yes our relationship is so stable that we will be able to survive a long distance relationship because of university but being stable isn't everything. My last relationship was solid-we never had fights or said things we later regretted to each other. When we were together everything was perfect but university does change people. As people meet other people and do different things their views of the world and their aspirations in life change. Someone who thought they wanted to do one thing may change their whole outlook. Personally I wouldn't want to stand in the way of someone I care about doing something so I feel in some situations it is only right to just let go. It is a sad fact of life but sometimes people grow apart even if you don't expect it will ever happen.
Call me cynical if you wish...
Yea im not saying that we'll definately survive Uni, but I dont wna just throw in the towel now so to speak before ive even got there bcoz he means so much to me. Id rather just wait and see what happens there and make decisions based on the 'here and now'.
im 18 and im in a 5month relationship with my current boyfriend and we really love each other lots, we were friends for a bout a year before we started dating. anyway i really do think he is the one. i've had 1 boyfriend before him when i was 16 that lasted 3days lol, but i dont know...i dont really feel like losing out on my teenage years or whatever but at the same time i do kinda feel like i am. and its really doing my head in >.<
I'm 18 and have been with my boyfriend for 3 years. I'm going to university next month and am not going to be naieve : we will prob break up. If not because of the lack of time i will have for him then simply because we are at different places in our lives. He is 22, has a job and just doesnt get the whole uni experience having never been himself. I hope that we stay together because i love him with all my heart but i'm being realistic about it and am preparing myself in case we do break up.
I do feel as if I've missed out on my teenage years in a sense. Sometimes when i hear my friends talking about going on dates i get a bit sad coz i've only ever had one first date. But then i remember how happy i am with my bf and realise i'm not missing out at all: i'm experiencing something even better. Thus long term relationships at a young age? My opinion - why not?
Nah, i think he understands that I wudnt want us to go to the same Uni. I think having my boyfriend in a new and maybe 'scary' situation would make me more and more likely to hang around with him and thus distance myself from potential new friends. But being at a nearby Uni is probably helpful coz we can visit regularly but i can see how i get along without him.