Honesty and Romanticism.
How would romanticism (In the USA sense) be charming? I romanticize Ancient Greece about how good it was, about how they discussed intelligent things in the market for hours, debating current issues. That may be nice that someone enjoys something, but to make it seem so great sounds like it would get awfully annoying after some time. Now forgive me if we are using the word in different ways, don't get insulted, because if you do, that means we have different definitions.
"but for a couple of seconds there, I could have been gay. "
That happens to me as well. I just start feeling so gayish when im out with big ppal.
Not exactly gayish but I feel SO postive about that person and try to implement those postive things on my self.
I think a charming personality is being an all rounder with a good heart.
and i agree with the three u specified.
manners, etiquette, and sincerity
In my experience I think it depends quite a lot on the people you're trying to charm. With some people I find it's easy to over-pitch your charm, so they don't relate to you and find you pompus.
I also think it's based quite a lot on looks - the people you're charming have to want to be charmed. It's hard to become charming to people who already know / have opinions of you, IMHO.
i've only ever met 2 guys i thought were complete charmers... and they were best friends.
A charmer ahh, they make you feel like you're the only girl in the room (even if they have a gf), laugh at your jokes, complement you, smile, look you right in the eyes, have an ability to say exactly the right thing at exactly the right time, always text back and wittily too, funny, and gorgeous. There we are.
I met the second charmer last tuesday night, i'd met him once before but hadn't really spoken to him, asked for his number off my friend and have been texting him on and off for the last year! We never got round to meeting each other again because he was at uni, and the other night, he was out at the same time as me. I got introduced and almost collapsed! When he talks to you, he puts his hand on the base of your spine, and leans right in to your ear if you can't hear, he touches your arm when your speaking, and ahhh, kissed me when we were introduced, 4 words, hook, line and sinker. I was well and truly smitten, and yet he has a girlfriend (how annoying).
I personally like a girl to have charm too.. nothing wrong with that.
I think someone with charm has a mixture of confidence and appearing trustworthy and intelligent, even if they're not.