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The Art Of Charm

Well,

I watched the movie Kate & Leopold last night, it was quite impressive, Hugh Jackman, aka Wolverine, was incredibly charming. Now generally I'm straight, but for a couple of seconds there, I could have been gay. Of course, I'm straight again, but well, watch the movie :wink:

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What would you say is the art of charm, what makes someone charming, I would say its really all about manners, etiquette, and sincerity. I may think this only because many Americans are heavily lacking in those three things, though the English are well noted for those three things. What does everyone think the most charming person possible's qualities would be?

Wulf

Reply 1

EugeneD

Honesty and Romanticism.

Eugene.

Reply 2

HRH Nicholas di Savoia

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EugeneD

Honesty and Romanticism.

Eugene.

Sounds good, but could you define romanticism, In the US we use the word romanticize for almost anything,

Wulf

Reply 3

HRH Nicholas di Savoia

OP

How would romanticism (In the USA sense) be charming? I romanticize Ancient Greece about how good it was, about how they discussed intelligent things in the market for hours, debating current issues. That may be nice that someone enjoys something, but to make it seem so great sounds like it would get awfully annoying after some time. Now forgive me if we are using the word in different ways, don't get insulted, because if you do, that means we have different definitions.

Wulf

Reply 4

Colostomy_Bag

Wulf

could you define romanticism,

Wulf

a response in antithesis to classicism.

Reply 5

_poptart_

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when I meet a charming guy I'll let you know :wink:

*runs away before anti-male stereotype society beat me up!!*

Reply 6

adamu

poptart86

when I meet a charming guy I'll let you know :wink:

*runs away before anti-male stereotype society beat me up!!*

As founder of the society im officially beating you :biggrin:

Reply 7

=Keith=

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"but for a couple of seconds there, I could have been gay. "
That happens to me as well. I just start feeling so gayish when im out with big ppal.
Not exactly gayish but I feel SO postive about that person and try to implement those postive things on my self.
I think a charming personality is being an all rounder with a good heart.
and i agree with the three u specified.
manners, etiquette, and sincerity

Reply 8

HRH Nicholas di Savoia

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lessthanthree

have you read the ITN#6 Article about "step by step charisma" ?

Though having positive body posture is good, I dont so much find that person charming as someone who isn't hard to talk to. I don't see someone waving their hands around palms up and say, "Oh, how charming!" :wink:

Please don't moderate me! *Makes pitiful face*

Reply 9

natcho

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In my experience I think it depends quite a lot on the people you're trying to charm. With some people I find it's easy to over-pitch your charm, so they don't relate to you and find you pompus.

I also think it's based quite a lot on looks - the people you're charming have to want to be charmed. It's hard to become charming to people who already know / have opinions of you, IMHO.

Reply 10

urz_4eva

*agree*

Reply 11

HRH Nicholas di Savoia

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smeets

In my experience I think it depends quite a lot on the people you're trying to charm. With some people I find it's easy to over-pitch your charm, so they don't relate to you and find you pompus.

I also think it's based quite a lot on looks - the people you're charming have to want to be charmed. It's hard to become charming to people who already know / have opinions of you, IMHO.

I totally agree, but don't you think that applies for anything? If a person has a bad outlook on life, they have a bad outlook on everything, they need to want to change to see the good in something.

*PS, I said that as unoffensively as possible, so those with "bad" outlooks are not offended,* :biggrin:

Wulf

Reply 12

HRH Nicholas di Savoia

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smeets

In my experience I think it depends quite a lot on the people you're trying to charm. With some people I find it's easy to over-pitch your charm, so they don't relate to you and find you pompus.

I also think it's based quite a lot on looks - the people you're charming have to want to be charmed. It's hard to become charming to people who already know / have opinions of you, IMHO.

So are you saying, smeets, that you also think that pitching ones charm is a bad idea?

Reply 13

boho

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i've only ever met 2 guys i thought were complete charmers... and they were best friends.

A charmer ahh, they make you feel like you're the only girl in the room (even if they have a gf), laugh at your jokes, complement you, smile, look you right in the eyes, have an ability to say exactly the right thing at exactly the right time, always text back and wittily too, funny, and gorgeous. There we are.

I met the second charmer last tuesday night, i'd met him once before but hadn't really spoken to him, asked for his number off my friend and have been texting him on and off for the last year! We never got round to meeting each other again because he was at uni, and the other night, he was out at the same time as me. I got introduced and almost collapsed! When he talks to you, he puts his hand on the base of your spine, and leans right in to your ear if you can't hear, he touches your arm when your speaking, and ahhh, kissed me when we were introduced, 4 words, hook, line and sinker. I was well and truly smitten, and yet he has a girlfriend (how annoying).

Reply 14

Jack0

boho

I met the second charmer last tuesday night, i'd met him once before but hadn't really spoken to him, asked for his number off my friend and have been texting him on and off for the last year! We never got round to meeting each other again because he was at uni, and the other night, he was out at the same time as me. I got introduced and almost collapsed! When he talks to you, he puts his hand on the base of your spine, and leans right in to your ear if you can't hear, he touches your arm when your speaking, and ahhh, kissed me when we were introduced, 4 words, hook, line and sinker. I was well and truly smitten, and yet he has a girlfriend (how annoying).

No way, is there a course I can go on to make me like that? Hmmm...I think some girls would find that an invasion of personal space if you don't know the person, and if he's only charming with girls then that's kind of creepy really.

Reply 15

grace

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Jack0

No way, is there a course I can go on to make me like that? Hmmm...I think some girls would find that an invasion of personal space if you don't know the person, and if he's only charming with girls then that's kind of creepy really.

someone sounds jealous.... :p:

Reply 16

adamu

I personally like a girl to have charm too.. nothing wrong with that.

Hate sharrons...

Reply 17

Sopheh

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I think someone with charm has a mixture of confidence and appearing trustworthy and intelligent, even if they're not.

Reply 18

boho

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Jack0

No way, is there a course I can go on to make me like that? Hmmm...I think some girls would find that an invasion of personal space if you don't know the person, and if he's only charming with girls then that's kind of creepy really.

ha ha, definately not an invasion of personal space seeing as hes actually gorgeous, i didn't know what to do with myself. He was talking to my friend who hes known for years and was like playing with her hair as well, i've never met anyone like it. He also has lots of bloke mates too, and is a genuinely nice, and intelligent bloke. If only they did courses in it!

Reply 19

Jack0

adamu

I personally like a girl to have charm too.. nothing wrong with that.

Hate sharrons...

I agree. It is often the case however, that girls only have to stand there and look pretty, flutter the old eyelids and look as though they're mildly interested in the conversation to secure the affections of an advancing male.

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