Hey hey no I NEVER said bisexuals don't exist I happen to know a fair few myself thank you very much. What I meant was that I simply don't buy into this theory that is currently in vogue, which suggests that nobody is exclusively gay or straight and that we are all simply somewhere on a scale, with exclusivity being an extreme rarity or a delusion. The flaw is that it simply fails to account for the VAST majority of people who do feel exclusive in their sexuality, both straiht and gay. You said that people often weren't 100% gay or straight and introduced the silly idea of percentages. Whatever people are attracted to that's fine and I'm quite sure bisexuals do exist, they are, however the exception to the rule in my opinion.
EDIT: You being saffie
I'm sorry I just cant beleive that so many people could be either lying about their sexuality or under some kind of illusions about it. Whatever adolescent phases people might go through, nearly all people class themselves as exclusively straight or gay. I cant refer to studies or surveys here - I'm talking about real life experience and common sense. Of course some people are going to be closed minded and some are going to be concealing the truth. However, the weight of these two aruments for me is minimal when I move in circles with so many straight men who re completely open minded and liberal in their opinions and sexuality and have no problem whatsoever with the idea of homosexuality, yet still feel eclusively straight. Equally, I fail to see that a bisexual person would profess to be gay to avoid stigma - it seems to me to be much more the other way around. The number of gay men one can meet who will regail you with stories about how they tried to convince themselves they were bisexual early on in coming to terms with their sexuality is surprising and important. Additionally, if someone is brave enough to come to terms with the fact that they stray from the norm of heterosexuality in any way - I doubt that the idea of some stigma from the gay community attached to bisexuality is going to daunt them from living as the choose in light of how far they must already have come in this respect.
When faced with such a huge majority of people who are exclusive in their sexuality compared to the minority of bisexuals or people who find themselves "somewhere on the scale" in the long term, I'm afraid I still beleive that the majority of people ARE exclusive in their sexuality (for the reasons above) - I'm just defending my views about the "spectrum of sexuality" theory.
Not that it has particular relevance to this debate. Personally I think that the idea of banning a man (let's be frank - we're talking about straight guys not wanting puffs staring at their willies here, aren't we?) from working where he wants to on account of his sexulaity is abhorrent.
ok this was not meant to be an argument about weather bi's are real or not please talk about the topic or i will close it
At the end of the day, sexuality should not come into whether or not someone should be permitted to work in swimming pool changing rooms. Nobody should have to admit their sexuality to their employer, everybody can exercise discretion etc. It's absurd to say that a gay man can't work as a swimming pool attendant and walk through the mens changing rooms whilst on duty. I would imagine that a hell of a lot of straight men wouldn't mind if there was a gay man working at their gym.
The gym my parents go to employs several gay men [it's obvious and they're out to some members...] - it's not something that is hidden whatsoever.