So far, as a parent, I havn't learned a thing from this discussion! (Beware I have a bit to say here!)
My child won't be perfect and I will be heckled but since my responsibility to my child far outweighs the opinions of others (especially those over-jealous and childless), I take ALMOST no notice. But, I probably would be p**sed off if I was accused of neglect or abuse because I'm raising my child with my disabled fella. Neither of us have parents and up until two weeks ago had no support network whatsoever.
I did hear that gossip and blame helps society to better themselves as contributors since those being berated will want to prove themselves better or, in other cirumstances, they'll want to 'keep up with the Joneses'.
Parents, for the majority, are to be seen as the main contribution to their childs behaviour but we shouldn't overlook every other factor out there (although I admit that most of these other factors are chosen BY the parents):
Etc, etc, etc, etc, etc....
Parents should not be berated if they tried their best. And besides, my parents were the way they were because of theway that they were raised. This is a vicious circle and 'blaming' rarely helps the situation.
Thank you all - you've just contributed to my stimulus material for my A2 Drama devised piece....
I have to agree that it is down to the parenting to "blame" if a child acts in a certain way which is unaccepted to society as you say. If you do see a child in the shop throwing a tantrum (aged 5+) then i do say "blame the parents" because you wonder why that child is behaving that way:if its because the child hasnt learnt yet to communicate through speech, then its the parents fault for not teaching the child the proper way to ask for something, if the child has a physical problem (medical and therefore cant speak and all that it knows is to scream) then thats a different circumstance. Teenagers who have behaviour problems and are as a result, a mennace and danger to society, are that way completely due to bad parenting. If you look at teenagers in those situations, you will find that they either have one parent, or their parents are going through a divorce or have drinking problems or or or... Now im not saying, whoever's parents are going through a divorce turn out to be wild! But if you look at the root of the problem as to why they behave that way, then all you have to do is look at the parents and your question is answered