Long Distance?

Well I've been talking to a girl who lives in Bedfordshire, and as you see I am in Manchester. We both like each other very much and a relationship would be brilliant.

I am not driving yet, however as soon as I am I would be able to see her more often. Now, my question is - is it worth her getting the train up here every so often in the meantime (as well as in the future when I drive)?

I prolly should mention I am 17 (nearly 18) and she is 16. She's amazing and I would love her to be mine. I'm also asking, should I allow myself to fall for her and vice versa?

Any advice/opinions appreciated...

:redface:

Reply 1

Jonatan

13

F170

Well I've been talking to a girl who lives in Bedfordshire, and as you see I am in Manchester. We both like each other very much and a relationship would be brilliant.

I am not driving yet, however as soon as I am I would be able to see her more often. Now, my question is - is it worth her getting the train up here every so often in the meantime (as well as in the future when I drive)?

I prolly should mention I am 17 (nearly 18) and she is 16. She's amazing and I would love her to be mine. I'm also asking, should I allow myself to fall for her and vice versa?

Any advice/opinions appreciated...

:redface:

How often are you able to see each otehr then?

In case it makes you feel better it could be worse. At least you are in the same country. I once tried a relationship spanning 6 time zones, and needless to say that didn't work out very well.

Reply 2

thegame26

Jonatan

How often are you able to see each otehr then?

In case it makes you feel better it could be worse. At least you are in the same country. I once tried a relationship spanning 6 time zones, and needless to say that didn't work out very well.

bluntly no
i dont think long distances work, i live near Birmingham and an ex lived funnily enough lived in Manchester, we only used to see each other couple of times a month cos of college in the week and we both had Saturday jobs, in the end we decided we kinda we in love too much and we both got down when we were apart so ended it.

dont do it

Reply 3

thegame26

Jonatan

How often are you able to see each otehr then?

In case it makes you feel better it could be worse. At least you are in the same country. I once tried a relationship spanning 6 time zones, and needless to say that didn't work out very well.

lol
cant imagine why........'you fancy coming over tonight' ? 'yeah be there is 16 hours' 'ok i'll get the kettle on'

Reply 4

Mean Mr. Mustard

onaed

bluntly no
i dont think long distances work, i live near Birmingham and an ex lived funnily enough lived in Manchester, we only used to see each other couple of times a month cos of college in the week and we both had Saturday jobs, in the end we decided we kinda we in love too much and we both got down when we were apart so ended it.

dont do it

pah!

It can work...I've just made it past 6 months in my long distance relationship (my longest relationship evar! :eek:

) but yeah, it's better to try and fail then to not bother because you're scared of getting hurt...and always wondering 'what if'

Reply 5

Jonatan

13

onaed

lol
cant imagine why........'you fancy coming over tonight' ? 'yeah be there is 16 hours' 'ok i'll get the kettle on'

On the positive side I got together with Linda just half a year after that relationship ended, and I sure would not have wanted to have missed that :smile:

Reply 6

thegame26

Babyshambles

pah!

It can work...I've just made it past 6 months in my long distance relationship (my longest relationship evar! :eek:

) but yeah, it's better to try and fail then to not bother because you're scared of getting hurt...and always wondering 'what if'

mmmm
going back i would still of gone out with him so guess its true, u gotta try

Reply 7

completely random

8

if u dont try you'll never know, me and my boyfriend live in bedfordshire and ive been away in sheffield at uni for 2 years, we were both falling for each other and were too scared to take it further because of the distance, but we gave in and found something absolutely amazing. if this girl is as great as you say, then give it a go. ive managed with the train every few weeks-was two hours for me and thats nothing really- and now i have a car its a lot easier. it does depend on the individuals and how much you're both willing to commit cos i wont deny its hard and it takes time and effort to maintain this kinda relationship, but if you dont try it you'll never know. it CAN work - have faith!

Reply 8

Fleece

15

F170

Well I've been talking to a girl who lives in Bedfordshire, and as you see I am in Manchester. We both like each other very much and a relationship would be brilliant.

I am not driving yet, however as soon as I am I would be able to see her more often. Now, my question is - is it worth her getting the train up here every so often in the meantime (as well as in the future when I drive)?

I prolly should mention I am 17 (nearly 18) and she is 16. She's amazing and I would love her to be mine. I'm also asking, should I allow myself to fall for her and vice versa?

Any advice/opinions appreciated...

:redface:

When you say you've been "talking to"... Do you mean on the internet? Because people can be a whooooooole lot different in person so you might not wanna get your hopes up :-\

Reply 9

Slice'N'Dice

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F170

Well I've been talking to a girl who lives in Bedfordshire, and as you see I am in Manchester. We both like each other very much and a relationship would be brilliant.

I am not driving yet, however as soon as I am I would be able to see her more often. Now, my question is - is it worth her getting the train up here every so often in the meantime (as well as in the future when I drive)?

I prolly should mention I am 17 (nearly 18) and she is 16. She's amazing and I would love her to be mine. I'm also asking, should I allow myself to fall for her and vice versa?

Any advice/opinions appreciated...

:redface:

Give it a go. Whats the worst that could happen? It doesn't work out? But then at least you know that you tried and don't have to think "What if?".

Reply 10

jjinit

Me and my gf have been away from each other this summer because shes back home but its hard. You have to ask yourself are you prepared to wait long period of times apart? Its definately not the same seeing each other alot/more often. It stops you getting close to each other and you cant understand what they are saying body language etc and wanting to hug them kiss them etc. Its hard but if you think its worth it go for it. Im lucky i got 2 weeks left then its happy days for me! I think you should go for it but expect the worse so you dont get too disappointed with it.

Reply 11

ponjavic

1

F170

Well I've been talking to a girl who lives in Bedfordshire, and as you see I am in Manchester. We both like each other very much and a relationship would be brilliant.

I am not driving yet, however as soon as I am I would be able to see her more often. Now, my question is - is it worth her getting the train up here every so often in the meantime (as well as in the future when I drive)?

I prolly should mention I am 17 (nearly 18) and she is 16. She's amazing and I would love her to be mine. I'm also asking, should I allow myself to fall for her and vice versa?

Any advice/opinions appreciated...

:redface:

Definately possible but as others have stated be sure to expect long periods of longing, especially if you're doing something repetitive and have a lot of time to think about things. It is tough :frown:

but as far as I've experienced it's worth it in the end.

Reply 12

Logan

4

I broke up with my GF because i cant cope up with long distance relationships, i just feel like its very unpredictable.

Reply 13

tiny_nina

i dont think it will work, its really hard and i think requires too much effort at such a young age. Though you could try, you dont really know until you try.

Reply 14

saz_1989

2

Can't you find someone equally great who lives within a 50 mile radius? My boyfriend lives <50 miles from me (we met at uni) and it's bloody hard seeing him.

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