My BF won't stop smoking

This is annoying b/c it's like I seem to be more worried about his health than he is :eek:

He said he'd stop at the end of last year, and made a NY resolution not to start again... which he kinda broke :redface:

Help! Also I know I can be a bit of a health nut/fitness fanatic, but I can stilll tell the difference btw what's reasonable and what's not.

Like seriously, if the first thing you do in the morning is get up and have a smoke, that's gotta not be so healthy :frown:

Anyway he started when he was young and I know it's hard to boot, but if there's anyone out there who could give some simple advice for me to try and get him to stop (he wants to stop! :smile:

But finding it difficult) then that would be great.

DB_x

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Reply 1

danni_bella

Oh yeah and I want him to stop soon, for the goodness of this health - think he's already done enough damage :p:

Reply 2

Tyler Durden

Assuming you're having sex with him you could always use that.

Tell him he gets a sex-drought if he carries on smoking and think of a reward if he goes for a certain amount of time without! :angel:

Edit: Alternatively get him to use nicotine patches. :biggrin:

Reply 3

danni_bella

englishstudent

Assuming you're having sex with him you could always use that.

Tell him he gets a sex-drought if he carries on smoking and think of a reward if he goes for a certain amount of time without! :angel:

Edit: Alternatively get him to use nicotine patches. :biggrin:

Or there's the more tame version of that - like 'oi dude, I feel like I'm kissing an ashtray here :rolleyes:

'

But then he'll just go 'oh I know you think I'm sexy and can't resist me anyway' :/

Yeah I don't know why he doesn't just go out and buy these patches (maybe I will have to for him :biggrin:

), however he seems to use smoking as a stress mechanism (he's having issues with going back to uni again to do honours, apparently they won't let him b/c he's left already or something. Anyway that's another issue :p:

Reply 4

Barny

Does it matter? He wouldn't of been smoking that long so hes hardly gonna be on his death bed yet, unless you're planning on marrying him I wouldn't worry.

Reply 5

danni_bella

imasillynarb

Does it matter? He wouldn't of been smoking that long so hes hardly gonna be on his death bed yet, unless you're planning on marrying him I wouldn't worry.

He's 26

Been smoking since he was 17. Admittedly he did stop briefly for a couple months, but started again.

Aaargh! :/

Reply 6

Tyler Durden

There's a thread here. Also in the UK there's a smoking quitline for people who want to stop. Dunno if there's something similar in Aus but you could try to get him to ring it...

Reply 7

danni_bella

englishstudent

There's a thread here. Also in the UK there's a smoking quitline for people who want to stop. Dunno if there's something similar in Aus but you could try to get him to ring it...

Lol thanks, might get him to have a squiz :biggrin:

Uh... I don't think it would be nice if I asked him to ring a hotline :redface:

It's like telling someone they need help and he doesn't really :rolleyes:

He's a great guy, just would help his health if he'd stopped smoking. :p:

Thanks again for the link, buddy :smile:

DB_x

Reply 8

RetiredAccount89

you and older men....

Simply point out to him how rank the taste of stale ciggies is.
take all his old cig buts, but them in a glass and ass water. put that under his nose (unawares) first thing in the mrning as if it is coffee. then he'll have an idea what stale fags really are like.

If he goes tohis GP he should be able to get information regarding patches, and a drug called buspirion which has very good success rates at quiting vs will power alone.

Reply 9

saz_1989

Force him to smoke an entire packet in one go. Or force him to eat the packet.

My boyfriend moaned at me whenever I smoked (which was only in clubs) and if I did he'd run away from me, refuse to kiss me and say he wasn't going to go home with me. It worked.

Reply 10

*River

Throw away all his cigarettes and fill them with nicotene gum... you can get those fake cigarettes for people who are attached to the physical action of having a small tube of paper containing leaves hanging out your mouth. Alternatively, you could show him some of those pictures of smokers' lungs from the internet...

beat him.......lol

I recommend this book: Allen Carr's Easy Way to Stop Smoking.

I know there are loads of self-help books on the subject, but this one actually seems to work. A friend of mine at work was enthusing about it one day, so I told my family about it - at the time, my mum, dad and brother all smoked. They all read it and gave up straight away. None of them have smoked a single cigarette since Easter, and they were all on at least 20 a day.

I honestly wouldn't recommend it if it wasn't really impressive, as I've never smoked and don't know what it's like to give up. But I now know five people who've quit after reading this book (one of whom was on 45 a day), so it's worth a try. They all quit straight away, cold turkey, and have never looked back.

The trick is, it makes you carry on smoking until you've finished the book, so you're so disgusted with yourself by the end of it, you never want another one again.

Reply 13

Phonicsdude

englishstudent

Assuming you're having sex with him you could always use that.

Tell him he gets a sex-drought if he carries on smoking and think of a reward if he goes for a certain amount of time without! :angel:

Edit: Alternatively get him to use nicotine patches. :biggrin:

Edit: Alternatively stop being such a whingebag and let him continue. Accept him for who he is. If you want to be with him, then be with him. If you cant accept that he smokes and he wants to continue, then break up with him and choose more wisely next time.
Alternatively forgive him this iritation.

This is the best response you will get.

Reply 14

Sami C

How could a non-smoker go out with a smoker? They absolutely reek of smoke, and it's just nasty. That commercial where the guy fancies the girl, walks over, smells her and runs away is just like real life. It's nasty. However, saying that, nothing wrong with a fine cigar every now and then....

Reply 15

musicbloke

If it's such an issue theen dump him.

MB

Reply 16

xXMessedUpXx

you probably can't make him stop. only if he wants to stop will it be possible (and even then its gonna take work). my bf doesn't usually smoke, except when he's drunk. But after some moaning he's stopping doing that now...

i always say i wont go out with a smoker, its a massive lifestyle difference withme and not onwi'd choose to live with. make more careful decsions in future :wink:

Reply 17

r_raghav11

danni_bella83

Oh yeah and I want him to stop soon, for the goodness of this health - think he's already done enough damage :p:

well...its tricky. I've been doin it since i was 19. Stopped for 2 years and now i'm a social smoker. Now...it was a question of realisation for me...and it came by itself. Dont try and rake it up and make a big issue out of it...coz then it'll only increase. Just tell him to contain a bit and help him do it. i dunno how many he smokes in a day ...if its 10...tell him to have 6. gradually bring it down...it'll take months...but quitting aint easy. Hope it'll help. Tell him its coz u care so much abt him...get a lil sentimental abt it...u know wat i mean! :wink:

Reply 18

r_raghav11

watever u do ...dont do that put the old cig butts in the glass and serve it to him as coffee....trust me...u'll only make him mad!

Reply 19

BlackHawk

Am I alone in thinking this isn't a very nice thread?

I know you're worried about your boyfriend as smoking is very unhealthy and it's not very nice for you either.

But can I just point out that it is his personal choice. He wants to smoke, so he does. He cannot give up unless he wants to. Forcing him to or trying to help him if he doesn't want it won't solve it. H'll only start to resent the fact that you want to change him and he'll start sneaking around and smoking behind your back. Trust me, I smoked for a long time and many many ex's tried to get me to stop. None of them did.