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depression and weight loss

So during several years of depression i lost a lot of weight going from my biggest of a size 16 to just under a size 10. Now i've recovered well from the depression, but in the years since then i've put on weight, partly as a maladaptive coping mechanism (comfort eating...instead of SI which i used to do). It might seem wrong but sometimes i alomst wish i was depressed again so i could lose that weight. I mean i don't want to be like i was back then, it wasn't exactly a good time in my life, but my weight is really getting me down anyway.
I'm half tempted to let myself slip into those feelings. So i'm not sure what to do. I keep trying not to eat loads. I keep restircing myself, to like 2 cups of soup or something. but then i get really angry at myself when i screw it up and eat junk food etc. if i had the willpower i'd probably starve. Which is something i could get away with at uni, which scares me. :frown:

sorry this is turning into a long post. I almsot wish tehre was a way to trick my body into thinking i had no appitite. I always drink water all the time to try and stop myself from snacking. But i'm also a *really* fussy eater so salads etc are a no-go. meh it's just getting me down and i'm starting to get desperate. i'm ashamed to say i even looked at some pro-anorexia sites earlier..to make myself feel bad :frown:

sorry

Reply 1

Barny

Right, so you eat next to nothing and then binge on junk food? This is what happens to everybody who has unrealistic diet goals. As said a million times before, the way to lose fat is not to starve yourself, you need a long term, attainable diet, something which has enough food, and enough fo what you like, so that you can sustain it for a long period of time, its not a quick fix. The fat didn't get there overnight, so don't expect to be able to get rid of it overnight.

Reply 2

guilly

sounds tough. well youve got 2 choices: either accept the weight your at.. OR change. id love to give you the advice that could change your life but as we all know advice only goes so far the rest gotta come from you.

main thing is to change your coping mechanisms. try out alot of different stuff, exercise would be the best. exercise and you can eat quite alot which will build muscle instead of fat. then not only will you have lost some weight, but ull also look firmer and better. maybe the first step is to convince yourself that you deserve to be happy and you deserve to have the body that you desire. keeping busy and relieving stress is also the key. well anyways whatever happens good luck :smile:

Reply 3

Juno

You sound like you're not totally better yet, and you do sound like you are at risk of developing an eating disorder. Are you seeing anyone about your depression? If so, you could ask them to help you devise a healthy eating plan (some foods are better at helping depression than others anyway), or you could ask your doctor. Or you could try somewhere like Weight watchers, as they have their own plan so you know what you should be eating, and they'll be able to support you.

Reply 4

jameso88

if you just eat at a calorie deficit you will lose weight, to make yourself have no apetite just snack on loadsa fruit it's healthy and some is really sweet so it feels like your eating sugar

Reply 5

viviki

why don't you do a sensible diet plan instead. Stick to that then if you slip a bit it won't matter so much but at least you'll have a framework there. Try something like slimming world or weightwatchers as already said.

Reply 6

habosh

Actully,I suggest,you go to a dietition,first of all it's safer that taking an advice from people on the net
secondly,you will be more committed
thirdly your gonna lose weight and have your health checked so you don't have to worry about how balanced your diet is,cause it will be already balanced :wink:

Reply 7

Tatty

I've had a similar experience to this. When I was depressed a few years back, I lost weight and was down to a size 10, but when I started getting over it I put weight on, which really gets me down as I hate being fat. Anyway, this is a thread about you, not me. :P All I can suggest really is the healthy, sensible suggestion (like weight watchers, slimmers world etc) and lose weight gradually as well as exercise, but you have to have motivation or else there's not point. Otherwise, as someone else said, accept your weight and get on with life (which I know is hard in a thin-obsessed world).

Reply 8

habosh

I think you also need to be determained to lose wieght,just Tell your self I WILL,and about junkfood hun I'm in a similar situation,wbut for me it's with fruits,I always go like only 6 fruits today and end up eith 10 :rolleyes:

though they can be really helpful :biggrin:

Reply 9

xXMessedUpXx

the only positive thing i've managed is for the last 2 months i've only been drinking water or fruit jiuc and not fizzy drinks

tho i imagine the alcohol isn't doing me any good