Am Confused!!! Advice me

Do you reckon i ask this gurl out or i just let her be (my very close friend)? I got to know her early last year and since then she has been source of fun, someone i can stand for in public, someone you can boldly call a friend. But recently, i started having feelings and am loving every moments we spend together. Anytime she calls she makes me feel special and she keeps asking who my girl friend is, and who i am going out with and all those questions about my personal life. Sometimes she got fedup and change questions.She even told me she could help me with her friends, i should just tell her the one i prefer I once asked my friend, what he thinks about a gurl like that but his answer was not valid enough for me so ignore.Now I feel somehow about her but i doubt if she is even thinking what i am thinking.Last week she cooked for me which was my greatest surprise. yet i haven't gotten that conviction in me that she would love to be my g/f because she is just too freindly and she once told me she likes someone like me( we had mis understanding but the next day she started talking to me. Hardly you find a gurl like that).....Should i go for her? if yes please advice me on how to ask such a gurl out in a more sensible and serious way because she is a strict gurl that does not take any nonsense. Do you think i should just tell her how i feel on fone, right in her front or a proper date? Am not afraid of her. I just respect her and everyday i think about her..................Now am my kneels, help little brother out. I hope you get what i mean and you would be able to give an understandable and worthful advice. Past experiences are welcome.

Manifest

Reply 1

zaaks786

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hey manifest

well personally i think u should ask her out!!she sounds sooo decent and i dnt think u can just sit back and hide ur feelings frm her. She sounds like a wonderful person and frm wat uve been saying i think she kinda likes you too.....u never kno, she could be waiting for you to make the 1st move!!!

right, so how to ask her out.......i dunno, maybe u should just sit down and talk to her, tell her EXACTLY how you feel, she sounds like the kinda girl who will appreciate your honesty and tht kind of approach..

anyways i hope tht helps :smile:

Reply 2

fleur-de-lis

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Hiya Manifest,
She does sound to be a good girl & you sound really nice too... but since she is also a close friend of yours, just be careful of how you approach this, because you wouldn't want it to affect your relationship either. I'd say that you should start spending more time together, like going for walks, doing activities, maybe watch movies... and of course, treat her to a meal cooked by you. And in the meantime, you can indirectly ask what she thinks of you, and that you like her etc. However, I have to confess that I often ask my guy friends about whom they are going out with etc on a purely friendly basis. Try not to do stuffs over phone... whatever you have to say, do it in person.

Reply 3

Suzie

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haha this sounds like a past experience of mine! Ok so my ex, he was a really ''close'' friend to me! He would drop hints on the internet over msn to me how he felt and flirted at school but somehow i just thought that was his way of being friendly... anyways i confessed to my friend i liked him and was suprised when she said he told her not to tell me he really liked me... cut it short we talked the next day about it and started dating and it was great....

Point is if you dont tell her then you may regret what could have been, just talk to her obviously on her own and simply tell her how you feel. Dont be full on but just say you respect her if she doesnt feel the same and say how from your perspective it wont affect the way you feel about your friendship with her... im sure you would rather have her as a friend than not have her in your life at all!!! Hope it makes sense :smile:

Reply 4

fleur-de-lis

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Speaking from my experience, when a really good friend finally confessed what he felt, I had to say that I didn't like him like that :frown:

(I was seeing someone else then)- and he said the same thing that- 'whatever your reply, we will always be friends'... but this really affected our friendship & it's been more than 2 months since I heard from him (we used to talk/e-mail/meet every day!)

Reply 5

Manifest

OP

Thanks!! I think i will ask her out but what if she says "no" it might be the end of friendship as said earlier. Well no harm in trying and i can't lose what i didn't have. So i should go for her?

Manifest

Reply 6

Mean Mr. Mustard

only read the first few words...but yeah! ask her out! why not?! :smile:

Reply 7

fleur-de-lis

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Manifest

Thanks!! I think i will ask her out but what if she says "no" it might be the end of friendship as said earlier. Well no harm in trying and i can't lose what i didn't have. So i should go for her?

Manifest

Good luck- let us know how it went!

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