what do i do???

well basically i was hospitalized a couple of years ago with anorexia. After coming out of hospital i managed to ~ maintain my weight up until a few months ago. During A-levels coz i was revising so much, and doing absolutely no exercise so i put on a bit of weight which freaked me out, but i didnt want to diet coz thought it might mess up my exams. :rolleyes:

So after exams i dieted and started to lose weight. Now I am a little less than I was before the exams, but in the mirror i feel that i look exactly the same. My mum is getting all stressed, saying that I look too thin, but I think I look perfectly normal. I dont see myself as *obese* or anything....just average.
Anyway I don't know what to do, coz my mum now keeps sayin i need to gain weight, but I don't want too... im not sure if I'm still losing weight or maintaining, but I think Im eating enough (she doesnt) to maintain my weight now. I still want to lose more weight, but I'm not sure how distorted my body image is, and how other people see me :redface:

....Arghhh!

Reply 1

viviki

14

How much do you weigh and how tall are you and are you a boy or girl?

Reply 2

twiggy24

OP

we havent got scales in our house anymore, but when i last weighed myself at gym the machine said that I was 7st 5 and im 5ft2 which is like a bmi of 19 so im really not underweight! but my mum freaks out alot... (im a girl!)

Reply 3

r_raghav11

1

def a girl (c'mon when have guys worried abt their weight at all!!!!) post a pic of how u look....prob will help ppl decide. Though if u say ur as thin as u claim to be ....eat well, dont worry, stay happy! :smile:

Reply 4

viviki

14

well certainly don't lose anymore weight. A BMI of 19 is thin enough for anyone.

We neeed piccssss

r_raghav11

def a girl (c'mon when have guys worried abt their weight at all!!!!) post a pic of how u look....prob will help ppl decide. Though if u say ur as thin as u claim to be ....eat well, dont worry, stay happy! :smile:

Men get eating disorders too...

Reply 7

SciFi25

1

dogtanian

Men get eating disorders too...

Yeah just its is very rare. The majority of eating disorders are found in women.

Reply 8

Barny

17

You don't need pics to decide whether or not you need to lose more weight, just look at what you've written and assess your psychological state. Before your exams you were in hospital with anorexia, now you are weighing less then before your exams, so effectively the same/less than in your anorexic state, and you a) don't want to put on weight and b) don't see yourself as underweight despite the fact you are at the same weight as you were whilst anorexic.

Time to see a doctor.

Reply 9

Glory

1

imasillynarb

You don't need pics to decide whether or not you need to lose more weight, just look at what you've written and assess your psychological state. Before your exams you were in hospital with anorexia, now you are weighing less then before your exams, so effectively the same/less than in your anorexic state, and you a) don't want to put on weight and b) don't see yourself as underweight despite the fact you are at the same weight as you were whilst anorexic.

Time to see a doctor.

i agree, you need to trust your family to tell you about your weight. Even when people have recovered from anorexia, they still have slips ups so your always gonna have the risk to reverted backing to starving yourself, thats why the people who love you are the best judge and worry so much.

If your mom says you need to eat more, then you should theres no harm eating more and exercising, i know things slip when its exam time. But you cant do this everytime theres an exam at uni for example, its unhealthy. If you put weight on you put it on, no-one will love you any less.

Reply 10

twiggy24

OP

i gained weight in hospital though...that was a couple of yrs ago when i was ...14. I came out of hospital with a bmi of about 20, coz i got up to 8 stone and thats what i'd been maintaining until now. When I was hospitalised I weighed alot less...i was at a dangerous weight, and I DEF. dont wana be like that again.... its just that a bmi of 18-25 is normal so I dont see what the prob is really in losing a bit more weight... but i guess your right I should probably try and maintain it now.

Reply 11

Glory

1

twiggy24

i gained weight in hospital though...that was a couple of yrs ago when i was ...14. I came out of hospital with a bmi of about 20, coz i got up to 8 stone and thats what i'd been maintaining until now. When I was hospitalised I weighed alot less...i was at a dangerous weight, and I DEF. dont wana be like that again.... its just that a bmi of 18-25 is normal so I dont see what the prob is really in losing a bit more weight... but i guess your right I should probably try and maintain it now.

im sure your lovely whether you weighed 7 stone or 17 stone. You need to trust those around you and stay healthy for them.

I think the reason so many people are worried because youve lost weight is that youll wanna loose more weight, and then youll wanna loose a bit more and then a bit more and you'll end up back in hospital before you realised it. You probabily wont understand why your their because the distored image will kick in.

Reply 12

Barny

17

The problem is basically BMI is a complete load of rubbish, its so inaccurate its not even worth mentioning, you shouldn't be gauging what weight you need to be at by using BMI.

If you want to take BMI as gospel, then being at the extremes is hardly the best to be at is it? Surely being on the edge of being "too skinny" BMI of 18, or "too fat" BMI of 25 isn't the best place to be at, but somewhere in the middle, about 21, would be best wouldn't it?

Reply 13

viviki

14

because its a slippery slope. If you go down anymore you are just going to be more and more tempted to slip back. Look at what you've written you know it isn't right maybe see the doctor about your weight and stop yourself before you slide back into it.

what do i do???

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