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Uni and Relationships

av-2003

Couple of things:
a) What does it take for a relationship to last thru Uni? (when the ppl involved in different places)

and

b) Is it stupid to go into a relationship roughly a month b4 (hopefully) going off to uni if the neccesary characteristics for it (relationshoip) lasting arent present?

Cheers,

Xxx

Reply 1

Apricot Fairy

16

If there was 2 months to go, I wouldn't bother. When my ex went to uni we'd been together 7 months and we decided to stay together though.

Reply 2

Mean Mr. Mustard

av-2003

Couple of things:
a) What does it take for a relationship to last thru Uni? (when the ppl involved in different places)

and

b) Is it stupid to go into a relationship roughly a month b4 (hopefully) going off to uni if the neccesary characteristics for it (relationshoip) lasting arent present?

Cheers,

Xxx

a) contact and trust, and money for train tickets, and for both partners to be serious about each other...which kinda answers b...

Reply 3

serious narb

11

a lot of people seemed to be in a relationship with someone from back home in the 1st term, I know that a lot of them realised it wasn't going to last past that, especially with the uni lifestyle.

Reply 4

kingslaw

14

av-2003

Couple of things:
a) What does it take for a relationship to last thru Uni? (when the ppl involved in different places)

and

b) Is it stupid to go into a relationship roughly a month b4 (hopefully) going off to uni if the neccesary characteristics for it (relationshoip) lasting arent present?

Cheers,

Xxx

The golden rule for making a relationship last is completely sacrificing your happiness for the sake of a relationship that doesnt work, and don't have sex with other people (and if you do, don't let the other person find out).

Bare in mind this is tongue in cheek...

...though my ldr did fail... :rolleyes:

Reply 5

kalibantre

1

I already have the long term long distance thing. it'll be a year in october we've lasted. we're both going to uni. i'm staying here he's moving to half an hour further away. i love him, he loves me. we make it work.

but most of the time, it doesnt. dont bother with a relationship now unless you've been wating for that person a long time. it wont last. save yourself the heart ache.

Reply 6

eurasianfeline

13

I was with my ex for almost 6 months before we decided to break up when he headed for uni 2 weeks ago. We both just didn't want anything to get weird between us and we both thought it was for the best, since we're going to be seperated even after uni. And we're both going to be exposed to different people in uni i guess.

I guess we both still love each other. But we're friends now. (=

Reply 7

taran

1

me an my girly been with eachother for 2 yrs 6months. ever since we started to look for unis, we told eachother we wouldnt be influenced by eachother in terms of choosing close unis or the same unis. it was proper hard not to and its still in the back of my mind but ive always said you gota live and experience your life first.

we talked about how its going to be with uni and seeing eachother an so on and both decided well see how it goes. if it becomes too difficult we decided well call it quits...for now that is, and just enjoy uni life. we said well see what happens after uni like if just ifff theres still a spark.

for us being friends will hopefully be easy seeing as we were best friends before we got hooked up. im not complaining as long as i still have some sort of contact with her.

i guess everyones situation is different......

Reply 8

Chez88

Im quite scared about this myself me n my bf are staying 2gether bt i just keep thinking wot if he meets sum1 he just rly clicks with n he prefers her 2 me! ino its stupid i guess uve jus gota go with the flow if ur not 2 involved with ur bf id break it off while u still can coz heartbreak while your tryin 2 study for a degree etc cant b gud!

Reply 9

pikaboo

13

kingslaw

The golden rule for making a relationship last is completely sacrificing your happiness for the sake of a relationship that doesnt work, and don't have sex with other people (and if you do, don't let the other person find out).

Bare in mind this is tongue in cheek...

...though my ldr did fail... :rolleyes:

You're not with jessicarabbit anymore? :eek:

I got into a LDR two months before I went to uni (a year ago now) and we're still together. I think knowing that the distance and change in my lifestyle didn't cause problems meant that we feel even more positive and stronger together. But saying that as far as I know this scenario isn't what normally happens...both people have to be equally committed to something long-term, have regular plans to meet up and communicate, and know that you'll both be sacrificing time and money in order to make it work.

Reply 10

mirandab

me & my long-distance fella have been together 4 a year now & are gonna try to make it work. im just worried that cos he hasnt had the uni experience that he'll get jealous, worried, possessive etc..... but we'll give it a go, im not going to give up what we've got just in case i meet somone i fancy a quickie with!!!

Reply 11

jessicarabbit

8

pikaboo

You're not with jessicarabbit anymore? :eek:

I got into a LDR two months before I went to uni (a year ago now) and we're still together. I think knowing that the distance and change in my lifestyle didn't cause problems meant that we feel even more positive and stronger together. But saying that as far as I know this scenario isn't what normally happens...both people have to be equally committed to something long-term, have regular plans to meet up and communicate, and know that you'll both be sacrificing time and money in order to make it work.

Nope, that was his ex he was talking about.

We're still together :smile:

We're not in a long distance relationship though. We both live in London now...because goddamnit, how would he be able to try my clothes on if I was all the way in Washington DC?... :rolleyes:

Reply 12

pikaboo

13

jessicarabbit

Nope, that was his ex he was talking about.

We're still together :smile:

We're not in a long distance relationship though. We both live in London now...because goddamnit, how would he be able to try my clothes on if I was all the way in Washington DC?... :rolleyes:

Yay

I wish my speetling would hurry up and get to uni already. 300 miles and 2 years away, raaah.

Reply 13

jessicarabbit

8

pikaboo

Yay

I wish my speetling would hurry up and get to uni already. 300 miles and 2 years away, raaah.

300 miles

I couldn't do that...the reason I'm with kingslaw is that I'm guaranteed to get laid practically every day :smile:

Oh well darlin, there's always phone sex :p:

Reply 14

pikaboo

13

The holidays more than make up for the term times :biggrin:

sexy maaaan, sexy man.

:smile:

Reply 15

JonnyB

2

I'm under the impression that lots of other people will be single for uni, fresh out of relationships, but if yours is a strong one then there shouldn't be problem, right?

Reply 16

~~hannah~~

4

I honestly think a relationship can only last through uni, if you want to be with that person for the rest of your life.

Me, I knew that wasnt the case with my boyfriend, so we split up a month ago, so we could get ready for uni without each other, to stop all the heartache spoiling our first term at uni. I have no doubt that it was the right decision for me.

x x x

Reply 17

SamTheMan

17

av-2003

Couple of things:
a) What does it take for a relationship to last thru Uni? (when the ppl involved in different places)

and

b) Is it stupid to go into a relationship roughly a month b4 (hopefully) going off to uni if the neccesary characteristics for it (relationshoip) lasting arent present?

Cheers,

Xxx

a) To want to...

b) You girls use your brains too much when it comes to relationships.

How much do you like this person? Is it likely that you'll find someone you'll like just as much at Uni? Sometimes you can tell if a relationship is special. If you've got the feeling this is someone really special, and this is not the kind of relationship you come across easily, then stick with it. But don't do the typical "I'll stay with him just in case I don't find anyone better at Uni" thing. It's a bit superficial.

But if that is what you're worried about, I haven't met a single girl from any of Unis I went who I went out with...

Reply 18

Adhsur

15

SamTheMan

You girls use your brains too much when it comes to relationships.

a) Don't make such silly generalisations.
b) What's wrong with using brains??? At least it's better than thinking with something else when it comes to relationships. :rolleyes:

Reply 19

eurasianfeline

13

jessicarabbit

Oh well darlin, there's always phone sex :p: