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How true? - boys are only friends with girls if they fancy them?
Do any guys in the 17-20 category agree with this? To be honest I never used to, but more recently have started to believe it might be so. I admit there are some unique relationships where a boy and girl are true friends but do most guys here admit to fancying most of their closest female friends?
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Actually, my best friend at high school declared her love for me but I wasn't interested in her like that. So ITS THE OTHER WAY ROUND, PEOPLE.
Well generally, us guys will only generally talk to girls that we fancy, or at the very least find attractive. If they text you or pro-actively talk to you, then they find you attractive in the very least. 
sahsum
Do any guys in the 17-20 category agree with this? To be honest I never used to, but more recently have started to believe it might be so. I admit there are some unique relationships where a boy and girl are true friends but do most guys here admit to fancying most of their closest female friends?
... and most of my good friends are guys
This is scary! 
I'd be inclined to believe this not to be true. A lot of my close friends are male, and my bigger circle of friends is predominantly male. Yes, I know of some who have fancied me in the past, but I sure hope they all don't!
I don't really think people can be just friends with someone of the opposite sex.
There's always something that's not quite platonic, always some little glimmer or funny body language or manipulation or SOMETHING (whether that's coming from one of both people doesn't matter).
I'm eternally pessmistic in this - but then maybe it's just my fault that I can't be friends with boys!
edit: I do, however, think manyboys are ignorant of the fact that their female friends are trying it on/manipulating them/messing them about in some way whether they realise it or not. And I think a lot of girls really under-estimate their fanciability!
There's always something that's not quite platonic, always some little glimmer or funny body language or manipulation or SOMETHING (whether that's coming from one of both people doesn't matter).
I'm eternally pessmistic in this - but then maybe it's just my fault that I can't be friends with boys!
edit: I do, however, think manyboys are ignorant of the fact that their female friends are trying it on/manipulating them/messing them about in some way whether they realise it or not. And I think a lot of girls really under-estimate their fanciability!
blissy
I don't really think people can be just friends with someone of the opposite sex.
There's always something that's not quite platonic, always some little glimmer or funny body language or manipulation or SOMETHING (whether that's coming from one of both people doesn't matter).
I'm eternally pessmistic in this - but then maybe it's just my fault that I can't be friends with boys!
There's always something that's not quite platonic, always some little glimmer or funny body language or manipulation or SOMETHING (whether that's coming from one of both people doesn't matter).
I'm eternally pessmistic in this - but then maybe it's just my fault that I can't be friends with boys!
Thats not true. I can be friends with a girl. But then I am a big gay
red_roadkill
Thats not true. I can be friends with a girl. But then I am a big gay
Hehe. I think it's the possibility of a sexual relationship which just changes the relationship. I'm not saying they can't work but I think they're markedly different to same-sex or familial relationships.
I'm friends with guys and I'm sure that none of them fancy me. They may have done at one time (unlikely though) but now they know how strange I am, they don't.
Some guys are only friends with pretty girls though, you notice it, and some don't like hanging out with 'fat' girls either. Its silly, but I think that subconsciously we all want to be arround attractive people... it shouldn't dictate friendships though.
Some guys are only friends with pretty girls though, you notice it, and some don't like hanging out with 'fat' girls either. Its silly, but I think that subconsciously we all want to be arround attractive people... it shouldn't dictate friendships though.
It's certainly not the case for me, but then again I'm not really looking for a relationship of any sort.
MB
MB
I can regard guys as just friends until someone injects the poison that they fancy me... upon which, I would be running in the opposite direction.
But seriously, my best chum is a guy. I can think of at least 3 other good guy chums, apart from quite a many guy friends.
Some of them have asked me out though
But seriously, my best chum is a guy. I can think of at least 3 other good guy chums, apart from quite a many guy friends.
Some of them have asked me out though 
i've got some female friends whom i don't fancy but we have a really good laugh with.
But going back to what Blissy was saying, I agree that guys (certainly myself) are very bad at telling whether women are friendly because they are/they fancy you/they're flirting with you/they're leading you on. I never quite know where I stand with my more attractive lady acquaintances who are female.
But going back to what Blissy was saying, I agree that guys (certainly myself) are very bad at telling whether women are friendly because they are/they fancy you/they're flirting with you/they're leading you on. I never quite know where I stand with my more attractive lady acquaintances who are female.
sahsum
Do any guys in the 17-20 category agree with this? To be honest I never used to, but more recently have started to believe it might be so. I admit there are some unique relationships where a boy and girl are true friends but do most guys here admit to fancying most of their closest female friends?
Its complete and utter nonsense. Yes I have fancied friends ( and I my girlfriend is incidentally also a good friend, and was so before we got together) but I sure have had several female friends I never had any intentions to date. Also, keep in mind that if you like someone as a friend it may very well develop from there. Thus a relationship could often start as just a friendship and then develop into something more. I would at least suspect that you are mor elikely to fall in love with someone you like than someone you know virtually nothing about.
Well i'm not in that age range but i didn't think this was true. I had 2 close boy mates and didn't think they fancied me. Then one admitted he did and the other admitted he was gay.
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