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Would you tell?

saz_1989

A friend of a friend who I don't know is only 17 and has found out that her ex gave her an STI (I don't know which one). He was the last guy she slept with and told her that they didn't need a condom because he had been tested. I don't think she's stupid for trusting him; I could be in the same situation and so could a lot of girls but thank god I'm not.

Anyway, I think she shouldn't tell him he's got an STI and hope that his penis falls off. But the friend that told me disagrees and thinks he has a right to know. What do you think?

tell the guy!

Get her to phone his mum up and then let his mum inform him. :laugh:

Reply 3

Fluffy

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Lauren

A friend of a friend who I don't know is only 17 and has found out that her ex gave her an STI (I don't know which one). He was the last guy she slept with and told her that they didn't need a condom because he had been tested. I don't think she's stupid for trusting him; I could be in the same situation and so could a lot of girls but thank god I'm not.

Anyway, I think she shouldn't tell him he's got an STI and hope that his penis falls off. But the friend that told me disagrees and thinks he has a right to know. What do you think?

You should tell. Or she should. She could risk a conviction for biological GBH if she knowingly lets him walk around with an STI which then goes on to cause him health/fertility problems.

Reply 4

F. Poste

Maybe HE deserves to have his penis drop off, but what about all the girls he could pass it on to? As you said, a lot of girls could be in the same situation.. I would tell him, if only because of those girls.

Reply 5

SamTheMan

17

Yes the guy's an arsehole. As for the girl, yes she's stupid for trusting him. Does she have no judgement whatsoever?

Reply 6

buttons7

1

she should tell him. it's true that he shouldn't have told her he was clean if he wasn't, but then, in my opinion, she ought not to have slept with him without a condom. the other possibility is that he was tested and given the all-clear but had since developed an STI - i think i'm right in saying that there are a couple of condition which, although sexually transmitted, can be developed without the person having had sex with an infected individual.

either way, he has a right to know and - what's more - by not telling him, your friend's actions could compromise the health of other girls who sleep with him in the future.

Reply 7

Chez88

id let him mum know 2! thats a good way! she should ring his house when she knows hes out and leave the "message" with one of his parents! lol

Reply 8

JackD

what are they going todo? send him to bed with no super? be mature and tell him.. Then tell everyone he knows, people wont go near him with a barge pole.

Reply 9

~Raven~

11

F. Poste

Maybe HE deserves to have his penis drop off, but what about all the girls he could pass it on to? As you said, a lot of girls could be in the same situation.. I would tell him, if only because of those girls.

Exactly, if it was just him it affected then it would be great, but its unfair on any other unsuspecting conquests, and it could have really serious health consequences for him... I'd tell, but maybe loudly and in public :wink:

Reply 10

Fluffy

15

Or take out a 1 page ad in the local rag!

Reply 11

saz_1989

OP

2

Some very good suggestions... I don't know the guy but I vaguely know the girl (but not well enough to pass these on myself!).

If the girl can get done for GBH, can't the guy get done for passing it on and claiming he was clean?

Reply 12

RetiredAccount89

18

Lauren

A friend of a friend who I don't know is only 17 and has found out that her ex gave her an STI (I don't know which one). He was the last guy she slept with and told her that they didn't need a condom because he had been tested. I don't think she's stupid for trusting him; I could be in the same situation and so could a lot of girls but thank god I'm not.

Anyway, I think she shouldn't tell him he's got an STI and hope that his penis falls off. But the friend that told me disagrees and thinks he has a right to know. What do you think?

what STI is it?

You do know some of them actually can be passed in other ways too. So he may (if unlikely) have been telling the truth and genuinely think he's clear. What about the next girl who catches something?

she should tell him.

Reply 13

twiga

15

~*Sweetness*~

Get her to phone his mum up and then let his mum inform him. :laugh:

Good idea - revenge along with with doing the right thing :rofl:

Reply 14

RetiredAccount89

18

Fluffy

You should tell. Or she should. She could risk a conviction for biological GBH if she knowingly lets him walk around with an STI which then goes on to cause him health/fertility problems.

that only works if SHE gave it to him (and knowingly at that) and then didn't tell him.
After all, if i spot a melanoma on someones back it isn't bio GBH not to tell them.

Reply 15

Glory

1

its likely that he already knows and did it on purpose. I would either tell him or ring his mom. That would really drop him in it, however she might turn around and say your friend infected him and take his side.

The morale of the story dont go without comdoms unless your in a stable relationship and both have been tested.

Reply 16

Fluffy

15

Jamie

After all, if i spot a melanoma on someones back it isn't bio GBH not to tell them.

Nope - hopefully it's gross misconduct though, and you would get your ass kicked! :smile:

Reply 17

englishrose

1

If I was in the same situation, I'd tell the guy sensibly and maturely. I think having the STI itself is enough of a punishment for what he did, without making it worse.