Worrying

I am a compulsive worrier.

At the moment i am at home, and my boyfriend is back in Cambridge. I'm missing him of course, but I'm quite happy to be at home with my family, and we'll be seeing each other soon.

But I worry. Not that he'll be unfaithful, cos he's not like that and our realtionship is very strong. I worry irrationally, cos i have a overactive imagination, that if I can't get hold of him, he's had some awful accident! So I feel the need to phone him at least once during the day to make sure he's ok! And it often wakes him up, cos he's a bit nocturnal at the moment.

So i phone at 1pm, say, and theres no answer. Again at 3pm- still nothing. At 6 i phone again, and wake him up, and feel bad for doing so, cos all i really wanted to do was make sure he hadn't died! :rolleyes:

So although he says he doesn't mind, and I believe him, i still worry that he thinks I'm desperate and lovesick, when actually I'm just worrying irrationally.

Does anyone else ever feel like this? Cos I don't think he worries about me in the same way. Maybe its a girl thing? Maybe its just a me thing?

EEP! :confused:

P.S I used to feel the same way about my dad, if he didn't get back from work til late. But now its my boy who is further away, and in my twisted imagination more likely have something awful happen to him!

Reply 1

Fleece

15

Well i think its a bit mean of him to not ring you when you've been trying him several times.

Reply 2

r_raghav11

1

hey...u shud just relax! u might really pressurise him u know! he might think u dont trust him or somethin like tat! Keep urself occupied...listen to some music...go out...paint or write or watch a DVD. Do somethin...later on...text him and ask him how his day went. But keep urself occupied. Else u'll let ur mind wander! I know ur intentions are noble..but then its really uncalled for. I'm sure he's fine. So..dont work urself up...and just relax! :smile:

Reply 3

The Albatross

OP

12

hmm thats not really the problem. i have plenty to do. i have just inherited irrational worrying from my mum! anyway, i've talked to my boyf about it, and he just thinks its lovely that i care about him that much, and has promise to let me know ehn he'll be asleep. but i's still be interested to hear if anyone else has felt this way.

Reply 4

legalbeagle

1

Hey,
I would say, just laugh at yourself when you feel like that, and think about how low the possibilities are that anything could have happened. Also, maybe think about one year from now how these concerns probably wont be in your head....youll be thinking about other things. Positive thinking helps!

Sorry this is a bit fudged. Its early morning and Im hungry!

Reply 5

The Albatross

OP

12

legalbeagle

Hey,
I would say, just laugh at yourself when you feel like that, and think about how low the possibilities are that anything could have happened. Also, maybe think about one year from now how these concerns probably wont be in your head....youll be thinking about other things. Positive thinking helps!

Sorry this is a bit fudged. Its early morning and Im hungry!