Why do Guys make girls like them and then IGNORE THEM!

I have seen Blokes do this too often to other girls. I mean whats the point.

You like a girl - She doesnt give you attention. You make her like you. Then you Just ignore her when she gives you any sort of attention and back off completely. Whats all this madness for?

I mean you wanted her to like you? Is this a test or something. Its very stupid if you dont like her dont do obvious things which make her like you. And then when she does you like you, You act all 'oh how the hell did you start liking me'.

This guy I fancied from sept I mean secretly He never knew Because I dont give it away at all. He tried to seek my attention in for so long but then I did suddenly give him attention one day and sat next to him WELL i DID not arrange but he made that way that I had no choice but to sit next to him (even then I still kept cool) He really tried to touch me. I did not move away. When he smiled this time I looked back and smiled (not in a slutty way) just friendly smile.

Next day He just completely ignored me. I mean I could not even look at him without him looking at me in that strange way. I mean I did not stare at him or anything just a quick glance.

I personally think this is very stupid and rude! Its a real turn off.
Why do guys do this !?

What Should I do next? Can you actually go from liking some1 and then all of sudden ignoring them?

Reply 1

miss marple

I know what you mean, its VERY annoying. I think they just like the chase of it and once you give in, you dont seem that intruiging or interesting to them anymore.

Reply 2

didgeridoo12uk

16

to be honest alot of the time its more like this.

guy like girl, girl plays hard to get.
guy gets bored of playing stupid games and decides to ignore girl
now guys ignoring her, girl starts to like guy, and gets pissed at him for ignoring her

in you case sounds a bit different. but if you like a guy why not go for it. why on earth would you wait all this time to let something happen!

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didgeridoo12uk

to be honest alot of the time its more like this.

guy like girl, girl plays hard to get.
guy gets bored of playing stupid games and decides to ignore girl
now guys ignoring her, girl starts to like guy, and gets pissed at him for ignoring her

in you case sounds a bit different. but if you like a guy why not go for it. why on earth would you wait all this time to let something happen!

Agreed.
I have seen this many a time but also like didgeridoo12uk said, I think that it is differnet in your case and the guy sounds like a bit of a tool. If you like him, go for it. If you think that you could be humilated, bugger it. Not literarly.

Reply 5

miss marple

didgeridoo12uk

to be honest alot of the time its more like this.

guy like girl, girl plays hard to get.
guy gets bored of playing stupid games and decides to ignore girl
now guys ignoring her, girl starts to like guy, and gets pissed at him for ignoring her

in you case sounds a bit different. but if you like a guy why not go for it. why on earth would you wait all this time to let something happen!

sometimes girls genuinely dont like a guy to start with and he keeps on talking to her. she thinks they're just friends and shes completely oblivious to his advances. then as soon as he finds out that she likes him back, while he still likes her, bam, he ignores her! why?! :confused:

Reply 6

didgeridoo12uk

16

miss marple

sometimes girls genuinely dont like a guy to start with and he keeps on talking to her. she thinks they're just friends and shes completely oblivious to his advances. then as soon as he finds out that she likes him back, while he still likes her, bam, he ignores her! why?! :confused:

i've no idea, i've personally never done that, because it really makes no sense!

maybe the guy just likes playing games, or is scared of commitment? girls are just as bloody confusing though

Reply 7

Lord Hysteria

18

didgeridoo12uk

to be honest alot of the time its more like this.

guy like girl, girl plays hard to get.
guy gets bored of playing stupid games and decides to ignore girl
now guys ignoring her, girl starts to like guy, and gets pissed at him for ignoring her

in you case sounds a bit different. but if you like a guy why not go for it. why on earth would you wait all this time to let something happen!

I don't think it's really that simple!

I don't know many girls who play hard to get ... it's a bit pointless.

Reply 8

didgeridoo12uk

16

Lord Hysteria

I don't think it's really that simple!

I don't know many girls who play hard to get ... it's a bit pointless.

the way i described is what happened with me and the girl i'm currently with... i was just sensible enough to stop ignoring her once she started coming onto me.

and i know quite a few girls, they seem to enjoy playing games far too much, and think that the guy should have to work hard for their affection to show his worth... people like that really annoy me though

Reply 9

facetious

16

Thrill of the chase maybe? Once you reciprocate, the chase is over.

Reply 10

smithy16

by the sounds of things he has made a move on you to show his affection and you have gave no obvious signs that you like him back... ok you didn't move away and you smiled but this has probably left him more confused than anything, he would have been looking for a response back. Now that he is unsure how you feel he will be embarrassed by the fact he made a move and nothing happened, this will therefore lead to you getting the impression that he is ignoring you.... also you probably didn't make it better when you gained eye contact and instead of smiling at him you just glanced probably backing up in his mind that you are not interested.... the ball is in your park he made the first move now you need to let him know you like him and be obvious about it us lads are not good at picking up subtle stares lol

Reply 11

Anonymous #2

I wish I knew the answer to this *sigh* Although mine's a little worse- he liked me, all my friends knew he liked me, I thought he was gorgeous but didn't really like him as such, slept with him, started really liking him, had a period of about a month where he would talk to me every day and be generally really lovely to me, made me think "oh, he's a really nice, thoughtful guy, this could work nicely" and then he just suddenly starts ignoring me... WHY?!?!

Reply 12

Lord Hysteria

18

didgeridoo12uk

the way i described is what happened with me and the girl i'm currently with... i was just sensible enough to stop ignoring her once she started coming onto me.

and i know quite a few girls, they seem to enjoy playing games far too much, and think that the guy should have to work hard for their affection to show his worth... people like that really annoy me though

I don't know, but I don't like being toyed. If someone was trying to "play hard to get" ... I'd think "**** off" and walk away ...

I don't know many girls who play ‘hard to get’, but I can appreciate it’s hard interpreting the signals etc…When I’m with girls, they usually tell me if they like a guy and if they do, then they start chatting and stuff. I then give them some space or something and if she changes her mind she lets me know. It’s simple really.

Reply 13

smithy16

Anonymous

I wish I knew the answer to this *sigh* Although mine's a little worse- he liked me, all my friends knew he liked me, I thought he was gorgeous but didn't really like him as such, slept with him, started really liking him, had a period of about a month where he would talk to me every day and be generally really lovely to me, made me think "oh, he's a really nice, thoughtful guy, this could work nicely" and then he just suddenly starts ignoring me... WHY?!?!

Unfortunetly he just sounds like a t**t, get them on both sides :/

Reply 14

Anonymous #3

I don't know, but it's very frustrating. There was a guy on my course who I only thought of as a friend, until he danced with me and kissed me... and then a few days later started going out/seeing another girl on the course. Luckily I'm now too angry to be into him!

Reply 15

Pearlz

smithy16

by the sounds of things he has made a move on you to show his affection and you have gave no obvious signs that you like him back... ok you didn't move away and you smiled but this has probably left him more confused than anything, he would have been looking for a response back. Now that he is unsure how you feel he will be embarrassed by the fact he made a move and nothing happened, this will therefore lead to you getting the impression that he is ignoring you.... also you probably didn't make it better when you gained eye contact and instead of smiling at him you just glanced probably backing up in his mind that you are not interested.... the ball is in your park he made the first move now you need to let him know you like him and be obvious about it us lads are not good at picking up subtle stares lol

hahaa exactly this!!

guys are thick when it comes to girls ahaha.

Reply 16

Witchita

7

Most of the time it works out like this guy likes girl, girl shows nothing back. Guy tries for a bit then figures its a lost cause and gives up, girl then starts liking guy back and he assumes that shes just messing with him. He ignores girl. Maybe you know, its the girls fault not the guys?

Reply 17

MrManager

4

Anonymous

I have seen Blokes do this too often to other girls. I mean whats the point.

You like a girl - She doesnt give you attention. You make her like you. Then you Just ignore her when she gives you any sort of attention and back off completely. Whats all this madness for?

I mean you wanted her to like you? Is this a test or something. Its very stupid if you dont like her dont do obvious things which make her like you. And then when she does you like you, You act all 'oh how the hell did you start liking me'.

This guy I fancied from sept I mean secretly He never knew Because I dont give it away at all. He tried to seek my attention in for so long but then I did suddenly give him attention one day and sat next to him WELL i DID not arrange but he made that way that I had no choice but to sit next to him (even then I still kept cool) He really tried to touch me. I did not move away. When he smiled this time I looked back and smiled (not in a slutty way) just friendly smile.

Next day He just completely ignored me. I mean I could not even look at him without him looking at me in that strange way. I mean I did not stare at him or anything just a quick glance.

I personally think this is very stupid and rude! Its a real turn off.
Why do guys do this !?

What Should I do next? Can you actually go from liking some1 and then all of sudden ignoring them?

lool, ur post is too funny, personally, i like playing games, hard to get etc ONLY at the initial stage, after that, when a girl likes me, i play no games, and am honest, coz im fun all by myself without trying to do things to amuse anyone..

but what's funny about ur post is that ur complaining and all,, but then you ask that question, which completely goes against what u were saying.. and kinda proves that it works!!

personally i dont like doing what the guy is doing,, AT THIS stage, i would be normal,, but to answer ur question both girls and guys, ALL advise guys to do what this guy is doing.. supposedly when u are harder to get, it makes a girl want u more! not all girls.. but 90% of them, yes the majority are, in this case, very immature.. if a guy didnt play some games, or was mature, knew what he wanted, and made it obvious,, the girl would play him, and give him a hard time, that's just FROM MY OBSERVATIONS :holmes: