scared of commitment?

Basically Im a hopeless romantic, I watch soppy movies all the time and dream about being in love.

The problem is, in certain cases when someone likes me and I like them back, I mess it all up. I like the situation before the actual relationship- trying to work out whether he likes you etc, and I just end up playing stupid mind games such as making them jealous etc.
Then when it gets to the point when we both admit our feelings are are ready to start a relationship, I suddenly get this dreading feeling that he will get bored of me, bored of seeing me everyday and realizing im not that amazing as I was making myself out to be. So i panic.

I dont know where this has come from- maybe my parents divorce when I was younger or insecurities, but is there anyway to over come this? I really do want that special, head over the heels in love relationship but Im scared Im just going to ruin it or chicken out

Reply 1

patientology

Its normal and yes he will be bored someday.

Reply 2

didgeridoo12uk

16

go for it. dive in. you'll be surprised at how easy it'll be, and you'll stop worrying after a few weeks

Reply 3

ToeRag

5

patientology

Its normal and yes he will be bored someday.

This...

A wise man once said to me

'no matter how beautiful and amazing you think your girlfriend is, there has always been somebody else that got bored of her before you enevitably will'

True...

Reply 4

Robaij

im just like you..

i feel like this though because ive been left a couple of times in the past.

any future relationship i may have now will have me always thinking "he doenst really like me,i bet he is planning on leaving me soon"

insecure and have no faith left

it sucks.

Reply 5

Theconomist

Original post by Robaij

im just like you..

i feel like this though because ive been left a couple of times in the past.

any future relationship i may have now will have me always thinking "he doenst really like me,i bet he is planning on leaving me soon"

insecure and have no faith left

it sucks.

The post is like 9 months old...
What th ****?

Reply 6

ipulledhermione

Just watching this thread because i'm a bit like you in that i'm unsure of commitment. its hard to explain. I just don't like a guy much after the initial early stages :frown:

I'm sorry. Please help.. :s-smilie:

(edited 14 years ago)

Reply 7

Stace-is-Ace

13

I know other girls who feel that way. I think the desire to commit to someone comes with maturity more than anything else. It's possible that you're just not ready for a relationship or haven't met the 'right' guy yet?

Don't worry about it but try not to mess people around while you're deciding whether or not you want to be with them.

Reply 8

Meh.

Don't have such high expectations of fairy tale romances, they generally don't last. And secondly, just be yourself, if he likes you he likes you, if he doesn't... well at least you've tried. People who do this also has a bad habit of building up their crush/partner into someone completely romantic and unreal.

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