Guys: what is the main reason you go soft during sex? Watch

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xkjax
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Right, my boyfriend gets hard really easily, tells me I'm amazing at blowjobs, blah blah blah, so i know he finds me attractive.

we'll be having sex he'll be acting like hes enjoying it, then he'll suddenly go soft???


He says he doesnt like to come too soon, so do you think its psychological reasons why hes going soft?

if a guy trys not to come, can it sometimes make them go soft??
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Yes, it happens when you masturbate and you either clench the muscles there or simply stop, this can put the focus off the pleasure and merely result in a lack of blood flow to the penis.

Do realise though that a man cannot have an erect **** ALL the time but it shouldn't go soft if he is really turned on.

its different from man to man though.
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Unless I am hugely aroused, I need movement - lying still together will lead to a softening of my erection if it carries on. If I think, for whatever reason, that my partner does not want me inside them, the erection vanishes. Someone once said 'stop' when they meant 'hang on a sec, I need to move my leg' and was surprised to see me sitting by the side of the bed with a flaccid penis within a couple of seconds.

In this case, I wonder if he's thinking about non-sexual stuff in order not to come. What would be better is for him to learn the signs that he's about to, which involves paying attention to what it feels like: much sexier.
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He's probably concentrating too much
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Only reasons its ever happened to me was P.E
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(Original post by Impreza18)
Only reasons its ever happened to me was P.E
I bet the teacher wasn't happy.
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I bet the teacher wasn't happy.
True, he gave me an after school detention.
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It can happen as he is worried about keeping his erection, or fears that you arent enjoying it, or just isnt in the mood, or if a guy delays cumming for long enough, this could lead to the penis becoming soft...
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Can also happen if he's come recently, sometimes he can get it up again but it doesn't stay like that.
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This is a real problem for me. I have had three relationships and this has happened with all the ex's. I am dating someone who is amazing and really makes me very happy. We get busy and then all of a sudden I go soft. Usually at the beginning of the relationship I have no problem with this, about 6 months into it however it starts happening. I know i make my partner feel self conscious.
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