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    Ive been with my g/ for over 9 months now. We have had a pretty decent relationship. Never really had a major argument or break up.
    Only times we did is when my g/f had personal issues and she didnt really talk about them which made the relationship at times very confusing.

    Anyway weve managed 9 months now, ive adapted to her mood swings which before I found hard to.

    Our relationship is long distance one. Where she Lives south of the country and I live North of the country.

    Shes going to be starting Uni and im really happy for her that she done so well etc but I have a feeling of insecurity where I feel the new social life will drive her away from me.

    As we already have a distant relationship I dont know what to expect and im thinking the worse.

    Has any 1 on here been able to keep a long distance relationship while at UNI?
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    (Original post by chris101)
    Ive been with my g/ for over 9 months now. We have had a pretty decent relationship. Never really had a major argument or break up.
    Only times we did is when my g/f had personal issues and she didnt really talk about them which made the relationship at times very confusing.

    Anyway weve managed 9 months now, ive adapted to her mood swings which before I found hard to.

    Our relationship is long distance one. Where she Lives south of the country and I live North of the country.

    Shes going to be starting Uni and im really happy for her that she done so well etc but I have a feeling of insecurity where I feel the new social life will drive her away from me.

    As we already have a distant relationship I dont know what to expect and im thinking the worse.

    Has any 1 on here been able to keep a long distance relationship while at UNI?
    Where is she going to Uni? Where will you be located?
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    Shes will be at Kings and im at Manchester Uni
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    (Original post by chris101)
    Shes will be at Kings and im at Manchester Uni
    That's quite a distance to be away from each other. Are you further away from each other now though?

    Have you spoken to her about this? You should find out what she thinks.
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    our whole relationship has been a far one but weve managed so far. I just feel while she was at college it was more of an easier life for us. Now shes going its like a whole new chapter - new friends, new experiences and new environment.

    Its like when I started uni, she was in her final year of college and by December I had settled in Uni and I know for a fact the first 2 months you get to know so many people, have such a great time and many people do forget the past to start a new beginning.

    I havent spoken to her yet but I know she will tell me she wont forget me, but I know from my own experiences and by 99.9% what people tell me it may be another story.
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    (Original post by chris101)
    our whole relationship has been a far one but weve managed so far. I just feel while she was at college it was more of an easier life for us. Now shes going its like a whole new chapter - new friends, new experiences and new environment.

    Its like when I started uni, she was in her final year of college and by December I had settled in Uni and I know for a fact the first 2 months you get to know so many people, have such a great time and many people do forget the past to start a new beginning.

    I havent spoken to her yet but I know she will tell me she wont forget me, but I know from my own experiences and by 99.9% what people tell me it may be another story.
    It's a tricky situation. I think you should both spend awhile talking to each other about the situation and see what she wants out of it.

    Sorry I can't be of much help, but I'm sure one of the others on here who are in the same situation as you will be able to offer better advice. Just keep us updated.
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    hey, im in the same sorta situation as you, already in a long distance relationship and moving further away. The way i look at it is shes gonna be experiencing new things, but that doesnt mean you two are gonna drift apart or anything. It may bring you closer together as you'll be familiar with some of the things that she's doing. Dont fret about it now, if you do its likely that she'll get paranoid as if shes anything like me, she'll already be feeling nervous! Remember London to Manchester takes 2 hrs or so by train!
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    OK, from someone who did the long distance uni thing

    Unless you think this is a great great thing and want to get together forever etc etc, then I would say to her, lets test the water, take a break, see if we miss each other etc

    Because I can guarantee you, in my experience, I wish I'd broken up with my boy before I went, it caused so much anguish, and whilst I was the dumper, and he was the dumpee, I hated myself for doing it later rather than sooner.

    Thats my story tho. Yours may be diff.
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    talk to her, see how she feels. my experience was the opposite to segat's, i almost split up with my bf by the end of freshers week, but didn't and am now so glad i didn't because we've managed to make it work this year (i'm in dundee, he's in lancaster) because when it came down to it the 250 miles just didn't seem a good enough reason to end it (eek that sounds so cheesy)... i guess everyone's experience is different, you have to decide on your own (well obviously with your gf)

    lou xxx
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    good luck.
 
 
 
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