Phone sex with another guy...is it cheating?

I wouldn't class it as cheating.

But then again, my relationship views always seem to conflict with the majority of TSR

But at the same time, I've been with my boyfriend 3 and a half years so WHATEVZ. The majority of TSR who usually comment on these things, bear in mind, have:
1) had one boyfriend/girlfriend and think they know everything
2) are "waiting" (are ugly)
3) are religious (fair enough)
4) are strongly "OHMYGODI'DNEVERCHEATINANYFORMILOVEMYBOYFRIENDOMG"


I wouldn't even consider sexting as cheating. Who cares if your boyfriend is thinking of some other girl when on the phone to her? If he really wanted her he'd be screwing her in real life, not over a ******* phone. And what do you think they're doing when they're watching porn?! (and vice versa with girlfriend) It's just harmless fun. Unless it goes into fullblownmegaorgasmicREALLIFEsex then I really don't see people's problem with it.

I dont fit into any of your categories so I guess i'm qualified to comment...

I think it is not a case of whether or not it is 'cheating' or not. A better way to think about it is whether or not it is the proper thing to be doing when you have a boyfriend. Think how he would feel if he finds out that you have been sending topless pictures to other guys and then having phone sex with them!? If you genuinely care about him then you should not do it in the first place. If you don't care about him then for gods sake finish with the poor guy so he can go and find someone who will do!

I also think you need to consider your self respect a bit here... people who treat their partners poorly get a reputation and guys do not like a girl who cheats... this guy probably wants to sleep with you and make do it a few more times after that... but do you really think he will be interested in you knowing that you cheat on people? have some self respect and more importantly have some respect for others... dump your boyfriend before doing stuff like that!

You really have no clue.

And what do you think they're doing when they're watching porn?!

I think if you have phone sex you're laughable, thats what I think. If you're going to cheat at least do it properly , not only are you being deceitful to your bf but you sound really lame.