Want my boyfriend to be more assertive sexually

Well if he's inexperienced he might just be scared? If he's terrified about everything he's not exactly going to just bend you over and **** you like there's no tomorrow is he?

What happened when you spoke to him? If you try talking to him again explaining it's ok to be more assertive/a bit rougher/**** the hell out of you and you like that. I imagine if you pressure him though it will just exacerbate the situation.

How about trying to incorporate him being more aggresive into some kind of fantasy? It's not for me to suggest but something that needs him to be "assertive".

Or perhaps he's just massively submissive and will never make a move?

Tell him you want him to walkin and dominate you, that he should lead the interaction. That there should be less talking and more doing on his part.

I don't know. I don't want to scare him but we've been together a year now I would have hoped we were comfortable enough with each other now. He does enjoy being in control when we're actually doing it, it's just the initiating that he seems to be nervous about. I don't know what he's scared of.

I suppose I could talk to him about it. Last time I just asked him why he kept hinting at us having sex instead of just doing it. It's just that we'll be lying down or whatever and kissing and it's clear that we're both up for it but instead of doing anything he just lies there for ages and then finally makes hints when I don't start taking my clothes off or say that I'm going to do something else. It gets kind of boring and kills the mood, at least for me.

I don't mind making the first move some of the time but even sometimes when I do go to take his t shirt off or something he still seems slightly shy about doing the same to me

Give it a few weeks of this, we will have her back on here asking why her bf never talks and just ****s..... there are no pleasing women.

Right, something has been really annoying me about my boyfriend.

Firstly, he wasn't experienced when we first met but we have been together a year now. Butt when it comes to having sex he never just 'does it' he always kind of approaches the subject really gently but not at all subtly. For example, we'll be lying in bed and I can tell he's horny but instead of just taking my clothes, taking his clothes off and ******* me he just keeps asking what I want to do and then when I say something like oh maybe I'll get up he just keeps kissing me to stop me from getting up and then he'll say something like why don't we just take our clothes off. Or make up some kind of excuse as to why we should take our clothes off.

I don't know if I'm really making any sense here but I really want him to take control. I've told him this but he just still seems to shy about it. I don't know. It just really annoys me sometimes so I'll be deliberately obstinate even though I know what he wants. I just want him to do it and not feel like he has to ask every time now. I understand if we were in the beginning of the relationship but I would like it if he was more explicit about what he wants...

Right, something has been really annoying me about my boyfriend.

Firstly, he wasn't experienced when we first met but we have been together a year now. Butt when it comes to having sex he never just 'does it' he always kind of approaches the subject really gently but not at all subtly. For example, we'll be lying in bed and I can tell he's horny but instead of just taking my clothes, taking his clothes off and ******* me he just keeps asking what I want to do and then when I say something like oh maybe I'll get up he just keeps kissing me to stop me from getting up and then he'll say something like why don't we just take our clothes off. Or make up some kind of excuse as to why we should take our clothes off.

I don't know if I'm really making any sense here but I really want him to take control. I've told him this but he just still seems to shy about it. I don't know. It just really annoys me sometimes so I'll be deliberately obstinate even though I know what he wants. I just want him to do it and not feel like he has to ask every time now. I understand if we were in the beginning of the relationship but I would like it if he was more explicit about what he wants...