feeling 'blah' about my relationship...

We've been together probably nearly 2 months, dont see each other every day, and im going through phases of feeling 'meh' about the whole thing, almost like we have nothing to talk about. We are both stressed about stuff at the moment but whenever he leaves me I feel quite depressed about the whole relationship. I want to try and make it work though, anyone been through something similar?

Reply 1

Straz

Seems a bit early to be feeling like that. Hate to say it but 2 months in to a new relationship you should be bouncing up and down, consider whether or not it's actually going anywhere before trying to make it work.

Reply 2

notwittyenough

3

i would try talking to him first. and see what he says and go on from there.

if you still feel "meh" after that, then maybe breaking up would be best.

Reply 3

James4d

13

It's just a phase, give it some time and you should start to re-kindle feelings. Seriously, you girls do this a lot. Guaranteed if you broke up with him now you would miss him like crazy and realise how much you love him.

Give it time, but not too much time. If you still feel this way after time..then yeah..a break-ups probably best.

Reply 4

Jemmmy

3

2 months :|

If you are feeling doubts after two months then it is not going to work :/ Sorry but this should still be in the 'honeymoon' period of the relationship. Try 2 years and then come back.

Reply 5

Georgiahoneybee

1

As everyone else has said, 2 months is not long to be feeling like this.
You said you feel depressed when he leaves, but what are things like when you're together? You always said you don't see each other every day, in my opinion, that's a good thing. A little bit of time apart usually helps couples look forward to seeing each other. I wouldn't be too rash about breaking up with him, but I do thing you need to talk to him about how you're feeling. Obviously not "oh I'm bored of you", but discuss what you're stressed about and explain that you think it might be affecting your relationship.
Maybe you just need a boost- set up a date night. Make a real effort with your hair and make up, wear a nice outfit and go on a date; dinner, cinema, bowling- whatever you think might be fun. It's worth a shot!

Reply 6

Anonymous #1

OP

thanks

the thought of breaking up with him does make me really sad, but its the little things like in some of his texts he seems a bit bored. I dont see him everyday as we both work alot, but I think because we always do the same/similar thing (watch films and talk) its getting a bit samey samey for us. But then when I know he has to go I get a feeling of sadness for when he leaves.

Ive not been in a relationship before either so its weird/new for me to have to consciously make time/consider someone else as such a big part of my life.

Reply 7

ezi-ray

let it go. period

Reply 8

xnatalie01x

16

dump

Reply 9

Anonymous #1

OP

ezi-ray

let it go. period

let what go? the relationship?

Reply 10

campy

9

Straz

Seems a bit early to be feeling like that. Hate to say it but 2 months in to a new relationship you should be bouncing up and down, consider whether or not it's actually going anywhere before trying to make it work.

This, sorry.

Reply 11

MovingOn

10

I would put it down to the fact that you are both stressed about things at the moment, once that passes see how you feel then.

Reply 12

Anonymous #1

OP

thanks

but then again im not with him right now and i do miss him quite a bit...

Reply 13

Impreza18

7

I feel like this atm im in your exact position, very tempted just to end it.

Reply 14

colourfulcrissi

8

James4d

It's just a phase, give it some time and you should start to re-kindle feelings. Seriously, you girls do this a lot. Guaranteed if you broke up with him now you would miss him like crazy and realise how much you love him.

Give it time, but not too much time. If you still feel this way after time..then yeah..a break-ups probably best.

This

Reply 15

colourfulcrissi

8

Anonymous

thanks

the thought of breaking up with him does make me really sad, but its the little things like in some of his texts he seems a bit bored. I dont see him everyday as we both work alot, but I think because we always do the same/similar thing (watch films and talk) its getting a bit samey samey for us. But then when I know he has to go I get a feeling of sadness for when he leaves.

Ive not been in a relationship before either so its weird/new for me to have to consciously make time/consider someone else as such a big part of my life.

Ah man I can so totally relate, but at this age the perfect guy isn't out there really and if you end it now you're going to miss out on all the cute things like picnics in the park and days at the seaside that will be awesome...
I ended it because I felt a bit meh about the whole relationship, no good reason, he was really nice, but it was all a bit meh except when I was with him, so i talked myself out of it and really regretted it.
You watch films and somehow expect when you go out for it to be super exciting and romantic all the time but its not real. If you really want to get more from the relationship try going for day trips out, or playing board games because when you hang otu with friends you don't only watch films, so try playing games, challenges, ready steady cook, whatever just try and add something more otherwise you'll regret it if you end it too soon.

Reply 16

*Tears and Butterflies*

2

I would say its not a good thing.

When I met my OH, I couldn't stop thinking about him ever min of the day, for about 4 months! It was all consuming and I never really felt blah, more annoyed that someone could have such of an impact in my life so quickly! We saw eachother pretty much every day at the start of the relationship aswell...

We have now been together more than 2.5 yrs and live together and I still never feel 'blah' about us so it might not work out, but thats just my experience!

Plus it depends what you want out of the relationship. If you are the kind of person who won't bother unless you think there the one (like me) then i'd end it. But if your open and willing to have a more causal relationship then it might work out just fine and grow into something better, but you just never know with these things!

Reply 17

Anonymous #1

OP

thanks guys for the replies so far :smile:

Reply 18

chocolate.love

It seems like you've just ended the honeymoon period of the relationship. Most relationships need some sort of effort, you can expect to just sit back and let everything fall in place without trying. If it gets to the point where you feel the two of you can't compromise on anything, then I would suggest that maybe it's not working?

Reply 19

Anonymous #2

I felt a bit like this after two months, I think the honeymoon period was over and I was still expecting it to feel amazing all the time and I was panicking because it didn't. However that was about 18 months ago and now we're going brilliantly! So don't worry if you feel like this for a short-ish period, relationships do go through ups and downs.

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