how to talk to a guy

i kissed a guy from work the other night when his friends told me he fancied me, which i had been gettin a little bit a work, but never actually thought, o he fancies me. i did like him before, but never thought anything would come of it. he seemed really keen on thursday, and i went into work to pick up some stuff, and he smiled and waved, but he is very shy (i was very suprised he was the one who kissed me), so i could tell he felt awkward. he has told people at work, and one girl mentioned it to me when i went in this morning. he doesnt come across as good with girls, and im not sure if he has a lot of girls after him because hes not stunnin, just a really really lovely person.

anyway, im going to talk to him next time we're both in work together, but i just want to know what to say to him. i do like him, and i think he likes me, after what he said to his friends, and im hoping it wasnt the drink talkin, but the fact he mentioned it to ppl at work makes me think he does.

also, i txt him earlier just sayin hi, and how was work etc, but he still hasnt txt me back :frown:

about 5 hours, so now im phone watching!!!

anyone got any advice as to what i shud say to him?! plz help! :confused:

Reply 1

john !!

14

first piece of advice, never use text messages! you can read into it way too much, even if they dont text back.. they might hate your guts, have no credit, not checked their phone,... not a good way to communicate!

now for the cliché.. just be yourself, if hes shy it might be harder but just talk as if youre talking to someone youve known a while and see how it goes.

Reply 2

Dude

14

Find out what he's interested in and talk about that. But if you know nothing about the subject don't bother. You'll properly scare him off.

Reply 3

Mad4it_87

what you have got to do is let him know one way or another how you feel about him. If it appears he is shy with girls he may be very reluctunt to make the first move incase he makes an arse of himself if he gets turned down. But if you are sure you like him and the chances are that he may like you then take it upon yourself to make the first move, then its up to him, you would of done your bit and then he will have to do his bit. but if he turns you down he probably won't think it would be as bad as you turning him down.

Hope this helps!

Reply 4

pink_lucie

14

mik1w

first piece of advice, never use text messages! you can read into it way too much, even if they dont text back.. they might hate your guts, have no credit, not checked their phone,... not a good way to communicate!

that is soooooooooooooooooooo true!

Reply 5

hazzawazza

and another text message related problem! woohoo!

Reply 6

F. Poste

Talk to him like you would anyone else.. Stuff like "Hi, how are you? Good weekend? What did you get up to?" isn't the most original conversation in the world but it's a start :smile:

Reply 7

northern_lass

OP

1

ok, the txt i sent him b4 just said something like, hey, how r u?how was work? hope nothings awkward between us now. tb x
thinkin about it, was prob not the best txt to send. got one back off him sayin -
work was the usual hell. lol.nothings awkward, at least not to my knowlege.
no idea why im usin txt because i totally know what ur all sayin and im reading too much into these txts, but i cant ring him becasue im too shy, and i cant think of another way to get in contact with him. what do u guys think of that txt? sorry, i know i sound like im worrying about nothin, and im just fretting over nothing!

Reply 8

Lirael Abhorsen

1

well if the guy kissed you, it does sound very much like he does like you, especially if he is shy.... i think you need to talk to him face to face and tell him you do like him although i know it sounds scary but maybe you need to make the first move... another thing if you said to him 'i hope nothing's awkward between us' it might give the impression you just saw the kiss as a one off thing, so i think you need to be more straightforward to him to let him know you do like him also ..., :-) probably better to talk to him face to face in my opinion.

Reply 9

northern_lass

OP

1

Lirael Abhorsen

well if the guy kissed you, it does sound very much like he does like you, especially if he is shy.... i think you need to talk to him face to face and tell him you do like him although i know it sounds scary but maybe you need to make the first move... another thing if you said to him 'i hope nothing's awkward between us' it might give the impression you just saw the kiss as a one off thing, so i think you need to be more straightforward to him to let him know you do like him also ..., :-) probably better to talk to him face to face in my opinion.

i txt him back saying that i didnt think it came across the way i ment, and that that im glad its not awkward bcoz i dont think i cud cope without him there to look after me at work! i also asked him if he had a good night?tb x
hes not txt back yet but seen as the last txt took 6 1/2 hours, im not holdin out much! really just want to talk to him face to face to find out if it was just bcoz of the drink. why have i let myself get like this 4 weeks before uni!

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