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    Wow, I hadn’t considered religion could so get in the way of things. ‘The Bible made me do it’ sounds an awful reason to break up with, or to avoid, someone. Personally I wouldn’t consider religion a key factor in choosing a girlfriend at all. What they believe in is up to them; I’d expect them to think the same of me. If anything it could be an interesting talking point. Likewise, I don’t expect to have a girlfriend who I agree with on all other issues – how boring that would be.

    It is sad – I would say – if you allow religion to get in the way of your life. The idea that we need the hope of eternal salvation or fear of eternal damnation in order to live our lives properly always strikes me as depressing. Ultimately though, these are my views, and I can appreciate why other people think differently.
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    I don't think there's a clear-cut answer. If she's said that she couldn't consider going out with a non-Christian, then it's most likely because she thinks they wouldn't understand her views and could well damage her "relationship with God." I wouldn't mess with that. Keep her as a friend, if anything does happen in the future then it will be her decision whether to choose you over any principles she may have.

    I'm a fairly relaxed Christian and my boy is Jewish by birth but mostly atheist. It's not a problem at the moment, but if one day in the future we were to get married (which we probably won't, but never say never) then I might find it more of an issue.
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    I think the best thing to do is speak to her about it, although I know that can be easier said than done! I'm from Northern Ireland where religion is a touchy subject to say the least. I think of myself as an agnostic, but I've recently started going out with someone who seems to want to 'save' me- I don't really know what to do because I'd rather not be part of any religion, yet I don't want to hurt his feelings by not even trying to find out about it.
    I actually hate religion.
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    (Original post by Helenia)
    mostly atheist.
    How does that work? does one of his legs believe in god?

    MB
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    (Original post by musicbloke)
    How does that work? does one of his legs believe in god?

    MB
    Maybe - it's never told me.
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    (Original post by nige)
    Wow, I hadn’t considered religion could so get in the way of things. ‘The Bible made me do it’ sounds an awful reason to break up with, or to avoid, someone. Personally I wouldn’t consider religion a key factor in choosing a girlfriend at all. What they believe in is up to them; I’d expect them to think the same of me. If anything it could be an interesting talking point. Likewise, I don’t expect to have a girlfriend who I agree with on all other issues – how boring that would be.

    It is sad – I would say – if you allow religion to get in the way of your life. The idea that we need the hope of eternal salvation or fear of eternal damnation in order to live our lives properly always strikes me as depressing. Ultimately though, these are my views, and I can appreciate why other people think differently.
    I agree with you, it is sad - but that is part of the reason why I couldn't go out with someone very religious. I know what they believe and they would have a problem with my not being religious. Most devout Christians believe that if you don't believe in God (exactly the way they do) you end up in hell or at least not in heaven - which is terrible, as it's like eternal damnation. They could start out in the relationship thinking that they could accept my beliefs, but if they felt really strongly they would just start worrying about it and the arguments would start. Plus they would stick to certain moral values that are 'in the book' (or more likely 'in their church' ) and if we every discussed something like that I would just disagree with them and have no way of convincing them with any examples, arguments or such like. I mean, there could be no discussions about a hell of a lot of things because it would be related to their religion. You just couldn't have those long talks and debates with them that might lead anywhere, because they would never lead anywhere except maybe a disagreement that would be unsatisfying. Plus if they were ultra Christian and wanted to wait until marriage for sex - :laugh: ... eh... no matter how much I liked them ... :rolleyes:
 
 
 
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