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    there is something else i need to say...

    Never fall in love..always rise in it.

    Also, love does not means boning all the time, but it really matters when u r in the company of the person u love.
    Moreover,it happened with me..i loved a girl like hell !!!i wanted to see her happy all the time. She said that she had a bf. I am still happy for her.
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    that's stupid, love being age restricted. i fall in love every minute - actually i'm not sure about that statement. You know when you're in love when-when you can't think about the person without feeling so much - that it almosts hurts. and some ppl will never understand love -look at simon cowell he's openly admitted he doesn't no if he's ever been in love, because he doesn't notice the difference between love and lust! :rolleyes:
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    when you're in love there's no need to question it. you just know.
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    i've had some sort of (mild) infatuation with at least one girl in every single class of mine since i was about 6 (though this has stopped since I went to an all-boys school) - i would imagine myself talking/socialising with them... but i'm sure that isnt love as i've basically changed people every time i was in a new class.... the current consensus is that love is when u can't stop thinking about them, but that doesnt seem very accurate - I'm afraid that i might believe myself in love with sumone, using the guidelines in this forum, but that it would turn out to be false, given the fact that i have fantasised about a girl at any given point for most of my life anyway.
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    (Original post by 4Ed)
    i've had some sort of (mild) infatuation with at least one girl in every single class of mine since i was about 6 (though this has stopped since I went to an all-boys school) - i would imagine myself talking/socialising with them... but i'm sure that isnt love as i've basically changed people every time i was in a new class.... the current consensus is that love is when u can't stop thinking about them, but that doesnt seem very accurate - I'm afraid that i might believe myself in love with sumone, using the guidelines in this forum, but that it would turn out to be false, given the fact that i have fantasised about a girl at any given point for most of my life anyway.

    Infatuation and love can seem very similar and be difficult to distinguish at first. But love lasts longer.
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    (Original post by MadNatSci)
    Infatuation and love can seem very similar and be difficult to distinguish at first. But love lasts longer.
    so 'absence makes the heart grow fonder' is true then?
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    (Original post by 4Ed)
    so 'absence makes the heart grow fonder' is true then?

    I guess it depends! I'm very very fond of my other half and I don't see him that often, but I'm not sure that I love him BECAUSE I don't see him that much!
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    (Original post by MadNatSci)
    I guess it depends! I'm very very fond of my other half and I don't see him that often, but I'm not sure that I love him BECAUSE I don't see him that much!
    very true... although it seems that time will be able to test how strong the bonds are between two people in love...
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    (Original post by 4Ed)
    very true... although it seems that time will be able to test how strong the bonds are between two people in love...

    True. Time will always tell. And I'm getting more and more trite as I get more tired... think it's time to go to bed! Night people
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    Love is a word.

    The effects that we associate with love are produce by a chemical called phenylethylamine. This stops being produced in the brain after you have been with the same person for on average 2 years.
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    (Original post by fayzd)
    Love is a word.

    The effects that we associate with love are produce by a chemical called phenylethylamine. This stops being produced in the brain after you have been with the same person for on average 2 years.
    really? because my parents have been married for 24 years....
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    (Original post by curryADD)
    really? because my parents have been married for 24 years....
    Curry your avatar is scaring me!

    I think love changes as you get older and live together longer it becomes less physical and more about companionship it doesnt mean it isnt still love.
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    (Original post by curryADD)
    really? because my parents have been married for 24 years....
    yeah, i'm not saying everyone breaks up. PEA is associated with the "in-love" feelings, you know, sweaty palms, raised heartbeat, loss of appetite, etc.

    "In love" doesnt last forever, but after that time, you have formed a bond and companionship, and this can be enough to make people stay together. This is a different kind of love though...

    I was just making a point that "true love" is overly romanticised, especially by teenagers, and it can make you do all sorts of silly things, because hollywood has taught us that "love is everything".
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    (Original post by fayzd)
    Love is a word.

    The effects that we associate with love are produce by a chemical called phenylethylamine. This stops being produced in the brain after you have been with the same person for on average 2 years.
    so how can u dat the same person and still be in love wit hthem for many years.
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    Love should be shared. I still don't see how you can love somebody by just looking at them or going out for a date once or twice.
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    (Original post by brasil85)
    Love should be shared. I still don't see how you can love somebody by just looking at them or going out for a date once or twice.
    So you dont beleive in Love at first site? a fools fallacy?

    I Believe that i fell in Love with my girlfriend in such a way, one minute i was a happy go lucky little boy fruitly wondering through life, and the next minute she was in my life, My Love.

    Alternatively, lets look at Joseph Heller's Catch 22, in this book i think that Heller has alot to say about love, which neatly harmonises the other themes that impel apparently endless circles around mankind, and indeed within the book. However the reason I mention this book is primarily on account of the lead character, Yossarian. Yossarian has an immediate fickle disposition in the face of Love, swaning around with as many women as he wanted (on the large part anyway) and falling in Love with many a person within a few moments of meeting them. However away from the romantic side of Love we see a huge compassion for his own self worth and individuality and his loyalty to his friends is unsurpassed by anyother man. Although, note that In no such way do i attribute somones Love personality to their creed, i simply mention this point to illustrate and support my view that we are all fickle in Love, why do you think there are so many divorces and affairs?

    I believe that this ficklty is expressed and surpressed in everyone of us, infact to some extent i know it is. When we see a pretty girl or a handsome guy our heart rate increases, our blood pressure increases, our blood vessels may dilate - giving us the charastic rosey coloured cheeks, our pupils also dilate and there is a huge surge of chemicals that rush through through our bodies, this is to mention but only a few of the physical characteristics that occur. Although it is the secondary effects, of the emotional class, that we are looking at. Stimulated by physical triggers our brain goes into a kind of overdrive... is this Love?

    Well i'm sure your answer to the latter question is the same as mine, and of course that is no. Yet assuming that true Love does exist then I think that this process helps us to find her/him. We are drawn in to this person, we hold them, high on the plateau that we give them, and 'give them a chance' to let a relationship grow. Whether the relationship enkindles into a blossoming romance or depresses away out of your mind there is still that chance for Love. I believe that for this reason we do fall in Love at first sight, even if it is only for a short while (hopefully not).

    If the other person to this equation grows a similar compassion as you may have developed then yes your Love will be shared, but not all Love is shared and almost certainly not all Love is shared equally.

    You see I do not beleive there is any one single person for every one of us, in fact i generally do not even beleive in fate. Yet what i do believe is that there are many compatible people for you, me and the guy next-door and it is up to our own self developed serendipity to bind us together.

    "The first time Yossarian
    saw the chaplain he fell madly in love with him"
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    You iz lovely
 
 
 
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