Self-harm scars on girls?

I should hope not, and a male being turned off by something like that is a prick. I know it can be quite a heavy sort of burden to hold, and it may scare one initially to know that you were previously such a tortured soul that lead you too self harm but the past is the past. He is right to question you about it if he cares, and he should simply accept what you tell him and move on. Be a positive influence not someone who will judge you or be pussyed out by what you may have gone through in the past.

Good luck!

Forking right. Just shows how weak willed she is.
My girlfriend used to do it back when we were about 14/15 and i just said that theres other ways to deal with frustration and stress than to cut yourself. I also said it wasnt being fair on me and she was selfish for that reason, so i said if she did it again i'd break up with her, and she hasn't done it since (trust me) I still check from time to time when shes really depressed by like kissing up her arms so she doesnt know what im upto, and i haven't had any problems since.

Besides most of the girls who do it, are just after attention or in that silly little gothic phase (emo) anyway. It doesn't need to be done, so yeah it would turn me right off.

Forking right. Just shows how weak willed she is.
My girlfriend used to do it back when we were about 14/15 and i just said that theres other ways to deal with frustration and stress than to cut yourself. I also said it wasnt being fair on me and she was selfish for that reason, so i said if she did it again i'd break up with her, and she hasn't done it since (trust me) I still check from time to time when shes really depressed by like kissing up her arms so she doesnt know what im upto, and i haven't had any problems since.

Besides most of the girls who do it, are just after attention or in that silly little gothic phase (emo) anyway. It doesn't need to be done, so yeah it would turn me right off.

I should hope not, and a male being turned off by something like that is a prick. I know it can be quite a heavy sort of burden to hold, and it may scare one initially to know that you were previously such a tortured soul that lead you too self harm but the past is the past. He is right to question you about it if he cares, and he should simply accept what you tell him and move on. Be a positive influence not someone who will judge you or be pussyed out by what you may have gone through in the past.

Good luck!

Sorry, but you don't know anything about me and I would appreciate it if you didn't make ridiculous assumptions and generalisations about this. The vast majority of self-harmers, including myself, go to extreme lengths not to let anyone see their scars, please explain to me how that is attention-seeking? For the record, I was 15, I was going through an awful time in my life and yes, I coped with it badly. But the point is, I did cope: I'm through it now and I'll never harm myself again.

Also, I'm surprised your girlfriend is even with you.

You asked for opinions and he gave you his. Don't cry when you get ones that you don't agree with.

It wouldnt put me off no. I know what its like to harm yourself, so there we go. Id hope it wouldnt put her off either.

Just shows how weak willed she is.
Besides most of the girls who do it, are just after attention or in that silly little gothic phase (emo) anyway. It doesn't need to be done, so yeah it would turn me right off.

Guys - say a girl had quite severe white scars that were obviously from self-harm on her arms, but they were from several years ago and she hadn't harmed herself since.

Would this be a massive turn-off or a relationship deal-breaker?