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Self-harm scars on girls?

Reply 60

12

lol i made a thread like this a while ago!! thought it was mine at first haha

oh and btw i used to self harm stopped like a few months ago altogether and most of the scars are white now but i did do it lottss so doubt theyll ever go (its literally scars on scars on scars)
ive never really had many problems with it like if people see (i dont really cover it up when im at parties but i do at college) they are usually a bit shocked but forget about it. this one guy i met on holiday WOULDNT STOP questioning me why and making me explain he just didnt get it!! he was really annoyign and insensitive but u will meet people like that.

dont worry about it op, the people who make a big deal arent worth it like soo many people have done it and still do it now.

for both of us its in the past so we are happy now to move along from that dark patch :smile:

Reply 61

missygeorgia

18

jjackson18624

well by the sounds it wasn't completely manipulation, as overdoses suggest she was actually trying to kill herself. this being the case i would suspect she probably had something like borderline personality disorder if she was attributing it to something so light as a argument. or there was something she wasn't telling you... or both

Borderline personality disorder? What a bizarre diagnosis.

Reply 62

jjackson18624

11

missygeorgia

Borderline personality disorder? What a bizarre diagnosis.

BPD=emotional instability. Self-harming is a marked symptom and even acts of attempted (or complete) suicide are possible.... seemed to fit?

Reply 63

Elynnor1811

16

</Tom>

Scars from self harm are +1 for me.

Self harm = Low self esteem = Easily manipulated. The perfect girl for me.

either you're trying to be funny or you're an idiot.. or both.

Reply 64

Saint

11

im sure some girls i used to know self harmed cus they thought the scars were sexy... it wouldnt effect my opinion of anyone tho, if they had ols scars

Reply 65

jjackson18624

11

missygeorgia

Borderline personality disorder? What a bizarre diagnosis.

also people with BPD can fear being alone, which is perhpas a motive for self harming after an argument... BPD is associated with anger and irritability hence the origin of the arguments themselves perhpas....self-harming extreme and in 'fits'. that's the impression i got.

Reply 66

Eljamaispa

17

Bobifier

Call me shallow if you like, I'm still dubious about going out with someone who is potentially insane.

So you're also dubious about going out with someone who gets sad, who gets jealous, who is shy, who is anxious, who is extremely bubbly, who is very imaginative, who may have an obsession with make up and so on?

I think you'lll find you're overrating the mental stability of the majority of self-harmers.

[QUOTE='★[яôçкšт☆r]★']Dump straight away for me. There's no way I'm getting involved in that psychotic self harming blood-filled anti-depressant overdose crap.

I absolutely despise people who self harm, wtf is the point of it? If you're going to do it, do it the proper way...stick that knife straight through the chest.

It sounds like you've never had any experience of depression or frustration or anxiety. That's not your fault of course, but if you ever do maybe you'll understand how ignorant and insensitive this post was.

Reply 67

</Tom>

14

Elynnor1811

either you're trying to be funny or you're an idiot.. or both.

Or I'm correct. Thanks for the neg rep, btw, although it didn't lower my reputation, because you haven't got the power.

Reply 68

Tw1x

21

No, I wouldn't judge anybody. I have SI scars on me from burning my arms with straightners when I was younger. Luckily, most are not too prominent (unless I am freezing/boiling, when they stand out more) but nobody not even my best friends or boyfriend ever found out what they were.
I understand what its like to feel like you need to self harm, so I'm not going to judge anybody.

Reply 69

IWantSomeMushu

17

Quite a turn-off to be honest.

Reply 70

C.Davy

Boozah

Forking right. Just shows how weak willed she is.
My girlfriend used to do it back when we were about 14/15 and i just said that theres other ways to deal with frustration and stress than to cut yourself. I also said it wasnt being fair on me and she was selfish for that reason, so i said if she did it again i'd break up with her, and she hasn't done it since (trust me) I still check from time to time when shes really depressed by like kissing up her arms so she doesnt know what im upto, and i haven't had any problems since.

Besides most of the girls who do it, are just after attention or in that silly little gothic phase (emo) anyway. It doesn't need to be done, so yeah it would turn me right off.

you clearly have never suffered from depression.

Reply 71

ShengXin

It wouldn't put me off if I was going out with a guy with scars... My scars have faded now, but I know what it's like and I'd like to think I could help, if he was still having trouble. If it was from years ago, I don't see why it would matter, if it was irrelevant in the present day :smile:

Reply 72

riotgrrl

19

My scars weren't "obviously" self-harm, cos it's not like they were in a line or anything, they were quite random, but when I first started going out with my boyfriend, I don't think he minded. He knew about the self harm, and he was understanding, as most mature people would be. I honestly don't think he would have noticed for AGES if I hadn't told him though. He didn't think my hair looked any different when I dyed it bright ginger with henna o.0

Note: Bio oil + time = barely noticeable scars. You prolly can't see mine unless you actually look for them and I'm in direct sunlight xD. Obviously if your cuts were really serious, it won't make them go away, but they do fade.

Reply 73

★[яôçкšт☆r]★

Eljamaispa

It sounds like you've never had any experience of depression or frustration or anxiety. That's not your fault of course, but if you ever do maybe you'll understand how ignorant and insensitive this post was.

Indeed, I've had no such experiences. Fault? You say that as if avoiding/preventing such experiences is a mistake. :rolleyes:

I'm not a weak-willed pathetic excuse of a human being, that's why I don't sink to that low level and self harm. It's pathetic, cowardly and it's ironic how you speak of ignorance....there's nothing more ignorant than self harming, it resolves nothing but I guess to the delusional minds flooded with stupidity it 'helps'.

Insensitive, perhaps. I'd rather condemn such stupid actions than go around saying it's okay and acceptable - it's not. There's no need to make self harming something that's acceptable, sometimes harsh but true words can help more than sympathetic false words.

Reply 74

Anonymous #6

[QUOTE='★[яôçкšт☆r]★']Indeed, I've had no such experiences. Fault? You say that as if avoiding/preventing such experiences is a mistake. :rolleyes:

I'm not a weak-willed pathetic excuse of a human being, that's why I don't sink to that low level and self harm. It's pathetic, cowardly and it's ironic how you speak of ignorance....there's nothing more ignorant than self harming, it resolves nothing but I guess to the delusional minds flooded with stupidity it 'helps'.

Insensitive, perhaps. I'd rather condemn such stupid actions than go around saying it's okay and acceptable - it's not. There's no need to make self harming something that's acceptable, sometimes harsh but true words can help more than sympathetic false words.

Wow you really do have no idea. Sounds to me just like you had a nice upbringing and life and so have never been in a situation where self harm has seemed the only choice. That doesn't make you a strong human being, that makes you lucky. You should be thankful you weren't abused, raped, bullied mercilessly, depressed or anything else which often leads to self harm.

Maybe I'm wrong, maybe you did have a bad upbringing but your post still reeks of ignorance, attacking people who you have absolutely no idea what they've been through.

Reply 75

Anonymous #7

would everyone even notice?
i have scars on my upper thighs which my ex never mentioned(18 months ago, and they were fiarly noticable then). they're fainter now and my current boyfriend has never noticed, and even when i had a tattoo over one leg nothing was said. maybe everyone assumes i just have a horrible skin :/

Reply 76

JoMo1

12

No, definitely wouldn't turn me off instantly, but if you get a chance to explain that they're from self-harming a long time ago then do so. I've had problems going out with girls with depression, and even though it's not an instant deal-breaker it would make my decisions alot easier if I knew it was something from the past.

Reply 77

Elynnor1811

16

</Tom>

Or I'm correct. Thanks for the neg rep, btw, although it didn't lower my reputation, because you haven't got the power.

I didn't neg you.. I'm not that pathetic.

I save my amazing rep power for people who deserve it.. :biggrin:

Reply 78

blinkbelle

17

Boozah

Forking right. Just shows how weak willed she is.
My girlfriend used to do it back when we were about 14/15 and i just said that theres other ways to deal with frustration and stress than to cut yourself. I also said it wasnt being fair on me and she was selfish for that reason, so i said if she did it again i'd break up with her, and she hasn't done it since (trust me) I still check from time to time when shes really depressed by like kissing up her arms so she doesnt know what im upto, and i haven't had any problems since.

Besides most of the girls who do it, are just after attention or in that silly little gothic phase (emo) anyway. It doesn't need to be done, so yeah it would turn me right off.

You sound like a catch (!) :rolleyes:

Reply 79

sassy123

17

if i was a boy it would be a turnover , a girl in my class has loads it looks dreadful i feel bad even looking at her.

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