Self-harm scars on girls?

Erm, I'd say self harming out of spite, to hurt someone else, isn't genuine. It generally shows malevolence and manipulativeness on their part as oppose to internal pain (pain that can occur for whatever reason - traumatic incident, depression, low self esteem, self punishment for a perceived wrongdoing etc.). If someone self harms for the sole reason of punishing/hurting someone who cares about them, it kind of goes against the definition of self harm (ie. to hurt ones self) as it is not being done for that reason. Also, if someone doesn't regret such actions, it shows they still believe this is a way of exacting revenge/justice to those who have annoyed them, and I don't want them getting back at me for getting too drunk in front of their friends by hurting themselves. I understand that self harm is a genuine problem, and I don't want that to be made a mockery of by someone who uses it solely to control or punish their partner.

My point certainly wasn't that a person needs something truly terrible to have happened to them in order to gain the right to self harm - that would be ridiculous, and wrong in many cases.

Im so upset =[. Boohoo you gimp grow up, cut yourself all you wan't, hopefully you might die doing it.

You have no idea how weak that makes you look. Isn't it just typical when people comment on peoples spelling half way through conversations, when theres no relevance since this isn't a spelling competition. Not to mention the fact that I know you can understand me otherwise your just thick.
Why don't you just stop replying because I'm fed up dealing with an arrogant shaft like you. Thanks "Sweetie"

Your basically suggesting that the natural thing to do when your depressed is to go and cut yourself ?

You see, the issue here is that we have different definitions of insane. Your definition seems to be something along the lines of "Someone who is absolutely normal", whereas mine would include certain abnormalities along the line. Believe me, I am not overrating their mental stability in the slightest

No, you seem not to understand. All of the characteristics I listed can, to some extent, show mental instability and therefore a greater predisposition for going insane. Being depressed is no different, and cutting oneself is simply one of the various outlets depressive people sometimes display. If you were a little more open-minded you'd see that beyond a blurry line anyone is suddenly "crazy". Do you see?

Unless you've studied mental disorders in psychology I wouldn't expect you to though, really.

No scars wouldn't put me off, because I'm not a pig ignorant judgemental prick like some users on here

Everyone has their own coping methods, and self harm is legitimately recognised by cpn's, psychologists and psychiatrists working for the NHS as an effective coping strategy albeit one that is destructive. However if the alternative is something worse i.e. suicide then it is never to discouraged until such a time that the person is able to utilise other methods to deal with their emotions or problems.

Self harm isn't just cutting and I think that is something that many people on this forum do not realise, it can also extend to deliberately withholding food from ones self, alcoholism, excessive exercise, biting ones cheeks, blunt trauma (i.e. punching or hitting), picking, scratching, etc.

Biting your cheeks isn't a form of self harm - it's a disorder called Bruxism and certainly does not imply that one has a mental illness.

Bruxism is grinding of teeth not biting of your cheeks. Bruxism is most commonly found in people suffering with mental health problems such as anxiety disorders and depression and is also found commonly in sleep disorders.


Deliberate cheek biting which is not bruxism whether you like it or not is a form of self harm and is considered self mutilation by mental health professionals. Anything that damages you and is used as coping mechanism for something is self harm.

No scars wouldn't put me off, because I'm not a pig ignorant judgemental prick like some users on here

Everyone has their own coping methods, and self harm is legitimately recognised by cpn's, psychologists and psychiatrists working for the NHS as an effective coping strategy albeit one that is destructive. However if the alternative is something worse i.e. suicide then it is never to discouraged until such a time that the person is able to utilise other methods to deal with their emotions or problems.

Self harm isn't just cutting and I think that is something that many people on this forum do not realise, it can also extend to deliberately withholding food from ones self, alcoholism, excessive exercise, biting ones cheeks, blunt trauma (i.e. punching or hitting), picking, scratching, etc.

It is part of what bruxism is and alot of people who have bruxism do this also. I have always done this since I was a child and I most certainly do not have mental health problems. Thanks

Deliberate cheek biting which is not bruxism whether you like it or not is a form of self harm and is considered self mutilation by mental health professionals. Anything that damages you and is used as coping mechanism for something is self harm.

I am not saying you are incorrect or anything as I do not know much about the subject, but how is excessive exercise a form of self harm?

And in response to the OP scars would not put me off whatsoever, I think people who judge people on things like that are not worth having as a bf/gf anyway.