When does being friendly become being needy?

As for the whole contact thing, people don't usually start talking to you first if they already have a good set of friends as they don't need anything from you unless you're someone that has something they want.

At first I thought it was going to be about someone who depends on their friends for everything lol. Nope you seem ok - though I normally have a general rule. If you're friends with someone and they never iniate conversation with you - then don't initiate convo for a while and see what happens.

Lets keep this simple

Stimulus: I am serial conversation pusher and starter. Very rarely will people bother to make contact with me either for first time or thereafter.

My attitude: If you and I are queuing and I have no other form of entertainment I may try to start a convo if there is clear common ground- regardless of gender. If I remember speaking to you from a couple of weeks prior I am not going to blank you and will say hi if the conversation was meaningful.

Change: Tried to be more friendly trying to express more of my personality while using clear opportunities to explore common ground with others or to crack a joke.

Problem: Still have people rarely starting a convo or communicating with me either in person or by facebook/phone call.

Question: Should I just accept that some people just aren't meant to impact others' lives or should I continue to be friendly and more open in the hope that I start to develop some sort of gravitas?Why do I have to do all the work?