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How can i improve at convo and attracting women

I'm sick of being single and a virgin. It's embarassing and don't try to convince me otherwise because it is. All i want is to just be sucessful for once. I'm like the looser in the films who can never get a date or anything. It's like i dedicate my life to being sucessful at dating, but i never get anywhere. It's the top goal, but it never gets achieved. I just feel frustrated sometimes and annoyed.

No bs. All i want is advice on how i can improve my chances. I don't know how some people are good at conversation and attracting girls. I've tried listening more and not saying much (so that i don't say anything stupid and goofy like i normally do), but i still fail.

Can someone please point me in the right direction? I don't want to be a virgin at 30 (i'm 22)

Reply 1

x_dwin_ffeimys_x

11

well I once was asked "what is your name" and as retarded as I am I said "Till my name is"
I was drunk, been tlaking welsh all day, and my translation skill were not the best :p:

but we still made good mates and hung round all week (this was ona holiday btw) so doubt it u can go much worse

oww but best compliment I've had is "Im with my gf, but I just have to say your legs are just wow" so say that minus the gf part, and walk away, that girl will always remeber u :smile:

Reply 2

A_master

13

You gotta meet tons of girls and be cool man.

Don't come across as needy and eager to please, gotta be confident :wink:

Reply 3

username 32883

Be yourself and be cool and play it cool :biggrin:

Reply 4

*Star*Guitar*

17

Believe it or not, the best advice is to chill the **** out.
'It's like i dedicate my life...It's the top goal'...I bet this comes across to girls! How about actually having a life, make sure you have hobbies and interesting personal stories that enable you to just talk naturally and be yourself. Use opportunities to talk to girls but don't have any expectations; then you won't be disappointed so much and maybe even pleasantly surprised.
If you stop looking, then you will actually come across as more attractive. Nobody likes desperation.

Reply 5

d0mz

13

practice makes perfect there, pal. just talk to random people, the more you talk to, the more comfortable you'll feel doing it. you need to come out of your shell, tell people things about yourself that will let them feel comfortable around you. but the main thing to think about is to not worry and be confident. if you've got anything to say for yourself, then that will come across, relax and enjoy conversation. you'll have girls queueing up in no time.

Reply 6

Lust4Me

2

x_dwin_ffeimys_x

well I once was asked "what is your name" and as retarded as I am I said "Till my name is"
I was drunk, been tlaking welsh all day, and my translation skill were not the best :p:

but we still made good mates and hung round all week (this was ona holiday btw) so doubt it u can go much worse

oww but best compliment I've had is "Im with my gf, but I just have to say your legs are just wow" so say that minus the gf part, and walk away, that girl will always remeber u :smile:

Your beautiful lol

Reply 7

Lust4Me

2

Anonymous

I'm sick of being single and a virgin. It's embarassing and don't try to convince me otherwise because it is. All i want is to just be sucessful for once. I'm like the looser in the films who can never get a date or anything. It's like i dedicate my life to being sucessful at dating, but i never get anywhere. It's the top goal, but it never gets achieved. I just feel frustrated sometimes and annoyed.

No bs. All i want is advice on how i can improve my chances. I don't know how some people are good at conversation and attracting girls. I've tried listening more and not saying much (so that i don't say anything stupid and goofy like i normally do), but i still fail.

Can someone please point me in the right direction? I don't want to be a virgin at 30 (i'm 22)

Join the club dude, its just not you!

Reply 8

Arekkusu

16

Anonymous

It's like i dedicate my life to being sucessful at dating, but i never get anywhere. It's the top goal

Pussy on a pedestal, dude, relax a bit, start not caring, and it'll come.

Reply 9

x_dwin_ffeimys_x

11

Lust4Me

Your beautiful lol

thanx pal

means the world to me u know

Reply 10

Miraclefish

The one thing I've picked up from this thread (other than that I now intend to marry x_dwin_ffeimys_x...) is that you've got your self arse-over-tit about the whole thing.

Girls can smell desperation in the same way that bears can smell fear. They'll tear you apart like a lost hiker in a Canadian National Park...

But in all seriousness, your very language feels uncomfortable. The old cliche 'just be yourself' is true. If you're not happy with what yourself entails, you can change that gradually and carefully. Don't pretend to be someone you're not, but you can work on aspects of your personality without losing the core parts which make you...well, you.

Try to make or connect a bit more with some female friends. They'll see you right. Girls like making their friends more appealing to women. And they're better at it than most of us Y-chromosome bearing imbeciles...

Reply 11

recreation_man

5

come on man, the answers are in your own mind. Go and search them. Trust me.

Reply 12

Neil_K

15

Yeah have a look at http://www.honestdating.co.uk/Index.htm

Reply 13

Drew.

15

Arekkusu

Pussy on a pedestal, dude, relax a bit, start not caring, and it'll come.

Someone's been doing their homework.

Reply 14

Adika

5

Anonymous

I'm sick of being single and a virgin. It's embarassing and don't try to convince me otherwise because it is. All i want is to just be sucessful for once. I'm like the looser in the films who can never get a date or anything. It's like i dedicate my life to being sucessful at dating, but i never get anywhere. It's the top goal, but it never gets achieved. I just feel frustrated sometimes and annoyed.

No bs. All i want is advice on how i can improve my chances. I don't know how some people are good at conversation and attracting girls. I've tried listening more and not saying much (so that i don't say anything stupid and goofy like i normally do), but i still fail.

Can someone please point me in the right direction? I don't want to be a virgin at 30 (i'm 22)

For starters you can begin with having some confidence. No girl or woman wants to date a man with no confidence. Im sure you are great guy but if you don't believe that then NO one will. You are selling yourself extremely short before you even try.
There is no real art to conversations just be yourself. Personally all of my BF's have won me over with their jokes. If your funny or can make me laugh you always good in my book. If you see a girl you like start up a conversation about something you can see she is likes.

A great way to make girls is in student clubs my last BF and I meet in human rights or psc student orgs. You just need to put yourself out there. You can't sit in your room feeling sorry for yourself.There are tons of things you can do to meet women. My first BF and I meet at the library he asked if he could share my study table and we hit it off.
Honestly, I think the hardest part for you would be gaining some confidence. You really need to recognize what you can offer to a relationship (ie are you a loving, caring, funny, faithful type person and etc?) and have no doubt that women look for that in men. Even if you have to look in the mirror every morning for a month and say "I am a great guy" you need something to bring up your confidence. Once you realize you have something that women will want (because EVERYONE does-they just forget this) then Im sure you will have more than one women wanting your affections.

I hope that helps and good luck.

Reply 15

Lord_Farquad

15

x_dwin_ffeimys_x

well I once was asked "what is your name" and as retarded as I am I said "Till my name is"
I was drunk, been tlaking welsh all day, and my translation skill were not the best :p:

but we still made good mates and hung round all week (this was ona holiday btw) so doubt it u can go much worse

oww but best compliment I've had is "Im with my gf, but I just have to say your legs are just wow" so say that minus the gf part, and walk away, that girl will always remeber u :smile:

You fancy sending me your profile pic in full HD via pm? :yep:

Reply 16

micky022

16

Ooze confidence. Ooze it. Ooze.

Reply 17

meganeira

8

x_dwin_ffeimys_x

well I once was asked "what is your name" and as retarded as I am I said "Till my name is"
I was drunk, been tlaking welsh all day, and my translation skill were not the best :p:

but we still made good mates and hung round all week (this was ona holiday btw) so doubt it u can go much worse

oww but best compliment I've had is "Im with my gf, but I just have to say your legs are just wow" so say that minus the gf part, and walk away, that girl will always remeber u :smile:

Yeah compliments are the way forward! :yep:

Just be nice! I personally don't like it when guys are really sleazy and pervy. I'd rather a guy to be friendly. :smile:

BTW, x_dwin_ffeimys_x, your legs are amazing! :eek:

I want my legs to look like that. :frown:

Plus I want to speak Welsh. Was never taught it in school, and wish I could speak it. :frown:

Reply 18

Tut.exe

14

x_dwin_ffeimys_x

well I once was asked "what is your name" and as retarded as I am I said "Till my name is"
I was drunk, been tlaking welsh all day, and my translation skill were not the best :p:

but we still made good mates and hung round all week (this was ona holiday btw) so doubt it u can go much worse

oww but best compliment I've had is "Im with my gf, but I just have to say your legs are just wow" so say that minus the gf part, and walk away, that girl will always remeber u :smile:

oO but that question doesnt work that much... lots of girls here are paranoid with stalkers and 'wierdos'... works when i was on holiday though :P

Reply 19

alijimi

11

Anonymous

It's like i dedicate my life to being sucessful at dating, ....

I liked this sentence. See, there is no one standard rule for successful dating. Sometimes a smile or a small joke can be the starting point. Just use every chance you get. Every time you meet a girl you like and you get a chance to chat with her, dot it and see where it leads you. One has to try many times till he gets something, don't give up :smile:

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