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Dinner Jacket / Tuxedo requirement

I do actually own a DJ and several suits (just not a black one) but i do like wearing my traditional dress. All i asked was if there was any opportunity for me to wear it? Also i never claimed that anything was an oxford traditon i just dont like it when there doesnt seem to be any flexibility especially considering the financial situation of many students.

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Elles

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hmm, actually - i don't see why not if it's your cultural/traditional equivalent to the formality of say black tie?

i mean at balls i've seen plenty of men in kilt & all the trimmings.
or military uniform (American & British) complete with sword/hats etc. if waranted - rather surreal..
& the memories less clear - but i think i saw a woman in a stunning sari.

HTH :smile:

on the topic of financial situation - i think women have it far worse. you can get fairly cheap highstreet suits/DJs that don't look too bad. quite often cheap dresses look, well, erm.. "cheap".
or you can as quite a few i know did - investment purchase a high quality suit. investment purchase ball gowns don't really work - because wearing consecutively without a major accesory rethink can make you feel rather scummy..

but that said - you don't generally have to go to any formal events (balls, society/club dinners, special college dinners, formal hall etc) other than your matriculation dinner when attendence is required & i don't think that's necessarily even black tie.

Reply 42

Willa

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swami

I do actually own a DJ and several suits (just not a black one) but i do like wearing my traditional dress. All i asked was if there was any opportunity for me to wear it? Also i never claimed that anything was an oxford traditon i just dont like it when there doesnt seem to be any flexibility especially considering the financial situation of many students.

have you tried asking them? Is this definitely something they aren't going to have any exception to? I've heard of people requesting they wear certain clothing to important ceremonies but only after having requested this (and being approved).

Reply 43

swami

Thanks for that, im sure they wudnt have a problem (hopefully), ill just ask when the time comes.

You are right about it being harder for girls. I remember when everybody was preparing for the leavers ball at my school, the girls had to pick out a colour for their dress, the length, the design etc. And then on top of that jewelery, make up, hair. The guys on the other hand just picked out tuxs and shoes, and they were away. I had to spend a bit of extra time cos i was picking out an indian suit and shoes but i never had it as bad as the girls did.

Reply 44

InterCity125

1

bought 1 for £120.
Used one 3 times in the year.
Cheaper than renting, will now be saving me money.

Reply 45

InterCity125

1

swami

I do actually own a DJ and several suits (just not a black one) but i do like wearing my traditional dress. All i asked was if there was any opportunity for me to wear it? Also i never claimed that anything was an oxford traditon i just dont like it when there doesnt seem to be any flexibility especially considering the financial situation of many students.

A look at debret's (etqutte guide) says that foreing nations can wear their national dress to formal events. You should take a look, as my memory may be faulty. But it is accepted if you really want to.

Reply 46

iceberg_1

just reading this thread and i was wondering if you have to wear your DJ for dinners or if you can get away with your normal suit

Reply 47

Elles

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iceberg_1

just reading this thread and i was wondering if you have to wear your DJ for dinners or if you can get away with your normal suit

cast your eye back to my entirely unofficial oxford dress code guide, primarily for women.

it depends on the 'dinner', TBH. i

f the invite says black tie (& if it is, then you should get an invite that does) you'll look out of place & a tad silly not wearing it. but formal hall i.e. where you just sign up in advance isn't.

the black tie dinners i've been to have included: subject christmas dinners, society dinners, gaudy dinner, headship dinner, restoration dinner, perot oration dinner.. so basically the more fancy ones. but none of these were compulsory.

edit - after talking to the man in my life who wears such attire - if you won't be going to many of these then renting/buying second hand will probably be cheaper.

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5150

InterCity125

A look at debret's (etqutte guide) says that foreing nations can wear their national dress to formal events. You should take a look, as my memory may be faulty. But it is accepted if you really want to.

Also, if you're a member of the armed forces, you can wear your dress uniform in place of sub fusc.

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