Ok, the reason why I’m posting this thread is for a little out-of-the-box perspective from you guys. A couple of months ago, while my boyfriend was away visiting his family, I went on his computer…at first it wasn’t to spy, but I guess curiosity got the better of me. I went into his msn chat logs, and found some explicit and very flirty messages between himself and his ex-girlfriend. I have known that he had kept in contact with his ex since we got together, but I didn’t think it was to this extent. Not only that, he still keeps their photos, from when they were together…and ahem…of her cleavage and such. When I read the chat logs…it did feel awful that I was invading his privacy, but what hurt the most were the back and forth explicit flirting going on between them. One of the parts of the conversation really felt gut wrenching: his ex suggesting that they go for a walk in the park like they used to when they were together, but that this time he wouldn’t be able to stick his head between her breasts, to which my boyfriend replied “who says I can’t?:P”. Another one was when he most probably was ‘excited’ and I was out of the flat, his ex suggested that he buy a blowup doll and fit a wig on it like my hair! To which, again my genius of a bf, replied “a train ticket to your house would be much cheaper
:P”. I have told him that I read the conversations, and that I was sorry for invading his privacy, but that he should not have had those flirtatious conversations with her when he is in a relationship with me. I have spoken to him about this twice, because I noticed that he’s trying to hide things from me on his computer. For example, he put a password lock on his pc and checks his ‘recently viewed’ folder often. I don’t know what to do anymore. All I keep thinking is about those conversations. He says he loves me, but I can’t help wondering if he is trying to see if his relationship with his ex could have gone further and been better than ours. I feel like I’ve been cheated on…weirdly enough even though those were convos. But he’s going back home this weekend, and I can’t help but think that he’s going to go see her. He tells me all about his other friends, which also include females, but he never told me that the last time he saw his ex they went to see a movie together. I don’t know what to do or think. If anyone can offer any advice, I’d very much appreciate it. Thanks guys.