found secret conversations and explicit fotos of my boyfriend's ex...help! Watch

Ariaxi89
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Ok, the reason why I’m posting this thread is for a little out-of-the-box perspective from you guys. A couple of months ago, while my boyfriend was away visiting his family, I went on his computer…at first it wasn’t to spy, but I guess curiosity got the better of me. I went into his msn chat logs, and found some explicit and very flirty messages between himself and his ex-girlfriend. I have known that he had kept in contact with his ex since we got together, but I didn’t think it was to this extent. Not only that, he still keeps their photos, from when they were together…and ahem…of her cleavage and such. When I read the chat logs…it did feel awful that I was invading his privacy, but what hurt the most were the back and forth explicit flirting going on between them. One of the parts of the conversation really felt gut wrenching: his ex suggesting that they go for a walk in the park like they used to when they were together, but that this time he wouldn’t be able to stick his head between her breasts, to which my boyfriend replied “who says I can’t?:P”. Another one was when he most probably was ‘excited’ and I was out of the flat, his ex suggested that he buy a blowup doll and fit a wig on it like my hair! To which, again my genius of a bf, replied “a train ticket to your house would be much cheaper :P”. I have told him that I read the conversations, and that I was sorry for invading his privacy, but that he should not have had those flirtatious conversations with her when he is in a relationship with me. I have spoken to him about this twice, because I noticed that he’s trying to hide things from me on his computer. For example, he put a password lock on his pc and checks his ‘recently viewed’ folder often. I don’t know what to do anymore. All I keep thinking is about those conversations. He says he loves me, but I can’t help wondering if he is trying to see if his relationship with his ex could have gone further and been better than ours. I feel like I’ve been cheated on…weirdly enough even though those were convos. But he’s going back home this weekend, and I can’t help but think that he’s going to go see her. He tells me all about his other friends, which also include females, but he never told me that the last time he saw his ex they went to see a movie together. I don’t know what to do or think. If anyone can offer any advice, I’d very much appreciate it. Thanks guys.
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You played with fire and got burnt.

shame on your for spying.
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You shouldn't have spied, but now that you have if I were you I'd be mad, :dontknow:
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You're both equally in the wrong.
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Meh, you shouldn't have spied. The messages are flirtatious but doesn't mean he was cheating with her.
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(Original post by Kinsula)
You're both equally in the wrong.
Gangsta Sig you got there!
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seems that everyone's saying 'you shouldn't have spied, bad girl' but how many times did i catch him spying on my laptop and checking my diaries and going through my stuff! im sorry, but this is the one time i find dirt on him, and he denies everything, saying he 'can't remember'...yeah right.
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(Original post by Ariaxi89)
seems that everyone's saying 'you shouldn't have spied, bad girl' but how many times did i catch him spying on my laptop and checking my diaries and going through my stuff! im sorry, but this is the one time i find dirt on him, and he denies everything, saying he 'can't remember'...yeah right.
I forgot that two wrongs made a right :rolleyes:

Sounds like you've got an excellent, trusting and mature relationship.
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Heyyy, well i think you did the right thing. I am also kind of in the same situation as you. You didn't do anything wrong. It was his fault for being disloyal to you. If he loved u as he says, then he should have loved only you. His ex should mean nothing to him if he is seeing you. I think you did the right thing. I guess the next step would be for you to dump him. All men are the same. There all cheaters and it's best if their taught a lesson. My advice would be for you to dump him and shame him up as much as you can.

I totally disagree with everyone else on here. It's her boyfriend, she has every right on him. He is in the wrong. It's ok for her to read everything about him or to know what he gets up to.

Gurl, get in there and teach him a lesson because it isn't fair on you. It's never about about "Forgive or Forget" because it's always about "Trust and Regret"... Once you lose your trust on someone, its very hard to get back. As, Trust Is Like A Mirror.. you can fix it if it's broke... but you can still see a crack in the m***********'s reflection............

I hope i made my point. Don't forgive him. And please do teach him a lesson. Hope i helped X
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You played with fire and got burnt.

shame on your for spying.
Hahahaha quite the blunt and funny individual today. Worthy of a rep as long as you keep them coming!
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I dissagree with most people.

Now, I don't really go through my bfs computer and he doesn't really do it to me either but I have nothing to hide so I would not have any problem with him going through all my files, even if he did it right in front of me! Honestly what's the problem with that?

On the other hand the trust you build up is just completely destroyed. If i were you I would either leave him because you can't really trust him, god knows what he does when he goes home or you need to have a very serious talk with him!
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You snoop through his internet history, he reads your private diary.

Dump him, forget him and wait a few more years until you're mature enough for a proper relationship.
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I'm more interesting in knowing why you write in really, really long sentences with nowhere near enough punctuation so that they drag on and on, almost forever, and it makes the whole thing a chore to read. If that wasn't bad enough, you seem to be unable to use paragraphs so it's all just one long continuous chunk of text that, again, is an unnecessary eyesore. Now, if I was to construct a reply to you like that you'd probably ignore reading it altogether because it was hard to decipher what was being said as you'd question what point was actually being made in the everlasting sentences. It's for that reason that I regret to inform you I was unable to read your post.
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Send the pics to me.
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Pics or GTFO.
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Why can't some girls of TSR leave their boyfriend's computers/phones alone?
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(Original post by Ariaxi89)
Ok, the reason why I’m posting this thread is for a little out-of-the-box perspective from you guys. A couple of months ago, while my boyfriend was away visiting his family, I went on his computer…at first it wasn’t to spy, but I guess curiosity got the better of me. I went into his msn chat logs, and found some explicit and very flirty messages between himself and his ex-girlfriend. I have known that he had kept in contact with his ex since we got together, but I didn’t think it was to this extent. Not only that, he still keeps their photos, from when they were together…and ahem…of her cleavage and such. When I read the chat logs…it did feel awful that I was invading his privacy, but what hurt the most were the back and forth explicit flirting going on between them. One of the parts of the conversation really felt gut wrenching: his ex suggesting that they go for a walk in the park like they used to when they were together, but that this time he wouldn’t be able to stick his head between her breasts, to which my boyfriend replied “who says I can’t?:P”. Another one was when he most probably was ‘excited’ and I was out of the flat, his ex suggested that he buy a blowup doll and fit a wig on it like my hair! To which, again my genius of a bf, replied “a train ticket to your house would be much cheaper :P”. I have told him that I read the conversations, and that I was sorry for invading his privacy, but that he should not have had those flirtatious conversations with her when he is in a relationship with me. I have spoken to him about this twice, because I noticed that he’s trying to hide things from me on his computer. For example, he put a password lock on his pc and checks his ‘recently viewed’ folder often. I don’t know what to do anymore. All I keep thinking is about those conversations. He says he loves me, but I can’t help wondering if he is trying to see if his relationship with his ex could have gone further and been better than ours. I feel like I’ve been cheated on…weirdly enough even though those were convos. But he’s going back home this weekend, and I can’t help but think that he’s going to go see her. He tells me all about his other friends, which also include females, but he never told me that the last time he saw his ex they went to see a movie together. I don’t know what to do or think. If anyone can offer any advice, I’d very much appreciate it. Thanks guys.
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Perhaps a bit of a side note, but it does not make you a bad person to password protect your computer, even if you are in a relationship.
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It was wrong of you to look through his stuff. But at least you acknowledge that you were in the wrong in doing so. It really pisses me off when guys do the whole "I can't remember" thing, to avoid telling the truth. If he's going to be a prick then he could at least grow a pair and own up to it.
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(Original post by PinkyPrincesss)
Heyyy, well i think you did the right thing. I am also kind of in the same situation as you. You didn't do anything wrong. It was his fault for being disloyal to you. If he loved u as he says, then he should have loved only you. His ex should mean nothing to him if he is seeing you. I think you did the right thing. I guess the next step would be for you to dump him. All men are the same. There all cheaters and it's best if their taught a lesson. My advice would be for you to dump him and shame him up as much as you can.

I totally disagree with everyone else on here. It's her boyfriend, she has every right on him. He is in the wrong. It's ok for her to read everything about him or to know what he gets up to.

Gurl, get in there and teach him a lesson because it isn't fair on you. It's never about about "Forgive or Forget" because it's always about "Trust and Regret"... Once you lose your trust on someone, its very hard to get back. As, Trust Is Like A Mirror.. you can fix it if it's broke... but you can still see a crack in the m***********'s reflection............

I hope i made my point. Don't forgive him. And please do teach him a lesson. Hope i helped X
Wow, i can't tell if you're a brilliant troll, or a ******* idiot.
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