I believe in marriage if it's at the right time in a person's life and they have met the right person but I don't think it's vital to get married. I'm thinking the whole Bridget Jone's thing where they worry about being single and think they HAVE to get married.
yep I think that marriage is a good thing as long as it isn't rushed into
it's a really nice idea, but sadly today, people don't understand the concept of give and take, and of being nice to one another.
cynics in marriage should read Hardy's 'Jude the obscure' to confrim their views.
Snuggerough is not a cynic however, but is misogamistic. The idea of marriage horrifies snuggerough. However, marriage does help to show that there is no sincerity or veracity in religion. In the beginning marriage was sacred. It's purpose was to act to prevent licentiousness and as an effective means of birth control with no sex before marriage and then no divorce.
Then divorce was legalised with Henry VIII's establishment of the Church of England. Snuggerough believes this shows that religion acts as a means of controlling society through moral persuasion, and the establishment of the church of England shows that religion is really based on power relations.
The point is that as there is no God, marriage has no spirtual meaning, and with legal divorces, marriage has little legal shackles. Marriage is a redundant idea. People fall in and out of love all the time. we should just love and then move on without this fancy notion.
He/she reminded me of Smeagol.
what's the point?
it's a religious ceremony, why would anyone want to dignify those lies with their own relationship?
everyone seems to have the "it just seems like the right thing to do" attitude about it..
That not getting married when when you are 70 with 10 grandchildren maybe either because they don't believe in marriage, or are scared of commitment, or is quite open minded about the status of their relationship (in other words, if a better fish comes along, they might go after it).
i do believe in marriage, but nowdays the common trend is that people tend to get married way before they even know each other propaly.
In our society now, people dont seem to go out on dates as much as they used to, which reduces the amount you learn about each other (eg going to a resturant and having a good chat) most people nowdays just seem to jump into relationships. So as a concenquence, some people do get married and discover they didnt really know or like the person enough to spend the rest of their lifes with them.
I personally, will make sure my marrige (when i do get married!) is worth it, and that i am competly certain the guy im with is the right guy for me. I dont ever want to go through divorce.
(fingers crossed for my current long term bf!!! lol)
dont give up...marriage can work!
Marriage in some form or another has been in pretty much every single culture of the world, going back pretty much as far as records go. Admitedly there have been some fairly heavy variations to the norm of what we have now, eg polygamy, widespread arranged marriages and people buying wives but for the most part it's a constant. You find someone you love and you marry them and stay together until you die. The only difference now is that unfortunately there seems to be a more variable time limit on the whole thing! Marriage isn't seen as being permanent so much any more. For that reason i'm fairly sure it'll continue but maybe not quite so much.
As it stands at the moment, there are a number of financial benefits to getting married that people who aren't married (yet have the same level of relationship) don't get. E.g. In Canada (I think) two hetereosexual guys have recently got married purely for the financial gains. (And probably to get their 5 minutes of fame).
Personally, being a Christian I intend to get married in a church, and hopefully (as this obviously also depends on what my other half does) we'll stay together until we die. However, hppefully, assuming my judgement is sound, I will have married someone who also feels the same way about me and staying together until we die won't be a problem.
One point is although there are financial gains to getting married, a Mr Ray Parlour will tell you there are a number of potential losses from it if you do end up splitting up. Current divorce laws on how the assets/children etc of a coupleare divided up must be one of the reasons the number of people getting married is falling.