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    If you think you're right, do you defend or apologise?

    Note: this is generic and has nothing to do with serious issues like cheating etc.

    If your girlfriend thinks you've done something wrong (not listening properly/not caring) and it annoys her, yet you think that you've done nothing wrong... what do you do?

    She says that if I love her as much as she loves me, I would care more about both of us than trying to defend myself.

    If I apologise then it means that it's true - I don't care or I don't listen. I know why she got annoyed, she's explained that. However, I'm trying to make the point that I do care.

    When she gets annoyed with me, I get annoyed because I disagree that she should get annoyed with me especially if I think there is no point.

    "I'm thinking too much about defending my perfect-ness rather than caring how she feels."

    Ok... break down to logic:

    - she complains about me doing something that annoys her
    - so i've done something that annoys her
    - why does it annoy her?
    - she tells me why
    - now, why am i doing the something wrong that annoys her?
    - i explain why the something wrong happened.

    This is now a big deal because I'm relentlessly trying to make sure she thinks that I do care and that what happened had nothing to do with not caring or not listening enough.

    Is a man just supposed to apologise to his girlfriend - whether he's right or wrong? She offers me so much of herself that for the rest of my life I just have to shutup and go along with whatever she says?

    If you think you're right, do you defend or apologise?
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