Trans-Uni Relationships

Im currently with my long term girlfriend and we were recently talking about uni and how we would see each other she firmly believes it will work I quite firmly believe it too. However have any of you guys had a bf/gf in a different uni and if so did/is it working? and if not why didnt it work?

Reply 1

adamu

depends on what you are like really, if your serious about your relationship you will resist temptation of all the other people and so will she.

Its tricky, but if you survive it you can survive anything in your relationship.

Good luck

Reply 2

sahsum

my sister and her boyrfriend stayed together all through uni, she was in cardiff he was in southampton, and they are together now! have just bought their first house!

Reply 3

adamu

well some people do it! i hope your one of them!

Reply 4

Mike_Davies

Great thanks guys appreciate it.

Reply 5

Drogue

Yep. I actually met my girlfriend while at uni, despite living at over a hundred miles away. I go to Oxford, my girlfriend to Sheffield, and in the holidays we live even further apart. However we see each other often (summer jobs keep taking us over the country to stay with the other), and it means when you do see each other, it's usually for a few days, so you can spend some quality time together. It's not like we just see each other for a date in the evening a couple of times a week, we spend enough time to feel close to each other.

Another pair I know went out right through uni, including her year abroad, and are now getting married! It's certainly possible, though you have to be able to accept that you'll see each other every other weekend at most.

Reply 6

_poptart_

Depends on the people really. As long as you dont feel tempted to do what a lot of single people at uni do, Im sure you'll be fine!
personally i think LDRs are pretty *****ty in my experience, i started to resent how my ex had no time for me and the break up was horrible cos its hard to talk about it down the phone :smile:

but of course if the trust is there and you make your time count when your together, then IT WILL WORK!!!

Reply 7

Helenia

It CAN work. Bear in mind that a lot of relationships at our age don't last anyway because people grow up and change, and going to different universities just puts extra pressure on you.

Try it by all means, but you have to have realistic expectations.

Reply 8

BlokeFromStoke

Mike_Davies

I was with my long term gf when I started uni last year and it can work if you BOTH want it to. We broke up quite recently but not because of uni. Just don't let the relationship stop you socialising with new people because you may miss out and regret it. Be positive and just see how things go. Most importantly, be honest about your feelings at all times!

Good luck!

Reply 9

lou p lou

yeh me and my bf have just survived first year! he's at lancaster and i'm dundee. the most important thing is to talk and try and make the other feel included in your life (which can be tough when they don't know your friends)

lou xxx