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Reply 1
you gotta just be yourself, make people laugh but dont be too in-ya-face.

by the way i live near plymouth, good choice! :smile:
Reply 2
I have a problem of either playing it TOO cool, or acting like a lost puppy lol.
You jsut gotta try not to be in their face, and also try and make them think your not that interested - guys like a challenge :biggrin:
Reply 3
but not too much of a challenge, just scares us off at times.
Reply 4
JackD
but not too much of a challenge, just scares us off at times.

see thats what i thought - theres a fine line between cool and too cool.
Reply 5
yeah but ive learnt the more I let someone know I like them, the more likely it is that they wont want me any more :frown:
Doesnt make sense lol
Reply 6
ugh i hate all this game playing...dont try to "act cool" just be yourself. if that scares him away then so be it, wasnt meant to be.
Reply 7
snuggerough says u don't play it cool, ur just cool or u aint. If u play it cool u will always get found out in the end. wahahaha
Reply 8
well yeh you would try and act yourself aroud them, but if u began to think you really liked them and weren't sure how they would react if you let it be obvious then you have to play it cool abit. So playing it cool isn't necessarily not being yourself.
Indeed. I tend to end up looking like a complete bitch and just so aloof and not interested. Hmph. Playing it cool is not the way to go.
Reply 10
Lol, I've never really got the hang of playing it cool :redface:
Alcohol isn't good in situations like that. At my 16th party last week, I got stupidly drunk in front of 20 of my mates. And then I started hitting on my mate's girlfriend (although she was slightly drunk, and he was knackered having only just arrived home driving back from Italy while on holiday, so basically in the same state as being drunk.) I only realised what I had been doing the next day and am now quite embarassed about it considering that this other girl that I'm quite close to was also there and I'm not sure what she thinks of it all.
Moral of the story, if you're going to get drunk, make sure everyone around you does as well.
Reply 12
sherunsaway
Alcohol isn't good in situations like that. At my 16th party last week, I got stupidly drunk in front of 20 of my mates. And then I started hitting on one of my mate's girlfriend (although she was slightly drunk, and he was knackered having only just arrived home driving back from Italy while on holiday, so basically in the same state as being drunk.) I only realised what I had been doing the next day and am now quite embarassed about it considering that this other girl that I'm quite close to was also there and I'm not sure what she thinks of it all.
Moral of the story, if you're going to get drunk, make sure everyone around you does as well.


lol
Reply 13
Don't go too far with it. One major rule is, like with medication, you can't balance what you forgot to do one day with doing it too much on another. Say, if you spend the whole night gazing half-lovingly at someone, don't try to rectify it the next night by punching them in the face. It wouldn't have been that bad, if she hadn't pressed charges: the fine, you see, was a rather large one.
As other have said above I don't believe in game playing. It causes more problems than it solves so just be yourself and see how it goes. There's some things you just can't control and I don't see how "playing it cool" can help. I quite like alcohol for opening people up. In my opinion it only amplifies feelings that already exist. Pretty good way of getting the truth, and good for the sober people who like to people watch!
Reply 15
It depends on the guy. I enjoy a challenge and all sorts of game playing. I love the emotional rollercoaster you get taken on.

Others get pissed off at this sort of behaviour and lose interest so you have to be gentler and let them know (subtly) that they are definitely in.

Now, how to determine what sort of guy it is..
Reply 16
dont play it cool, im a guy and i hate girls who play it cool just tell me. i once played it cool andshe got with another guy not a good idea well not in my experience
veryrandom
Indeed. I tend to end up looking like a complete bitch and just so aloof and not interested. Hmph. Playing it cool is not the way to go.


Ditto.

I try and play it cool and look like I'm "not that bothered" but I end up looking like an ignorant,rude tw*t!Boys then think I'm uninterested and I'm like,"NOOOOOO!"
Reply 18
bitch is good. It's sexy.
Reply 19
just be cool - do more listening than talking :smile: