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oh clever me clap clap [Found a nice bf just before uni starts :(]

ok, after about a year of trying to find a truly nice guy, i have finally found one.....2 weeks before i move away to uni!
iv ALWAYS said i wanna be single wen i go to uni, for many reason...eg, im a big flirt, i dont wanna be missing anyone too much....so why did i hav to go and meet such a great guy now??! grrrr :mad:

my friends are all advising me to just have fun with this guy...he can come and visit me as its only an hour away and we cud stay in touch...but im starting to like him more and more...man, life is hard!

Reply 1

BlokeFromStoke

embelina

ok, after about a year of trying to find a truly nice guy, i have finally found one.....2 weeks before i move away to uni!
iv ALWAYS said i wanna be single wen i go to uni, for many reason...eg, im a big flirt, i dont wanna be missing anyone too much....so why did i hav to go and meet such a great guy now??! grrrr :mad:

my friends are all advising me to just have fun with this guy...he can come and visit me as its only an hour away and we cud stay in touch...but im starting to like him more and more...man, life is hard!

Don't worry. It's not gonna get serious in 2 weeks. Don't turn down something that could be great just so you go to uni single. See how things go, there's always ways of getting out. Have fun!

Reply 2

phake-tan

ya know? I'm in the same boat ........ kinda.

I'm off to Uni soon and recently I met this really nice girl who I seem to acctually like (after 2 years of being single and really picky). So its just such a downer for her to come along so late.

I'd like to stay positive in the hopes that I meet some one at Uni, but I honestly dont think a girl like this comes along often. Woe is me ..

My advice to you .. 'friends with benefits' :biggrin:

Reply 3

RetiredAccount89

18

A friend of mine started going out with his girlfriend 3 weeks before he started uni. she took a gap year out in africa so they barely saw each other for a year.
It was their 4 year anniversary the other week, and they are still as great together as ever.

Reply 4

mrs_bubb

I'm in exactly the same situation as you. We just spent a good night out together and I'm so sad that We'll be miles apart in three weeks. I just dont want to think about it :-(

Reply 5

L i b

19

You've found someone nice who's willing to go out with you and you're MOANING ABOUT IT?!?!?

ARGH!!!!!!

Reply 6

r_raghav11

1

the twists and turns of life ! :rolleyes:

Reply 7

marcusfox

16

hayley_1604

I'm in exactly the same situation as you. We just spent a good night out together and I'm so sad that We'll be miles apart in three weeks. I just dont want to think about it :-(

Is this the American or the music teacher? :wink:

Marcus

Reply 8

ponjavic

1

Atleast I have no choice :frown:

My gf lives in Sweden and can't possibly take the flight here once/twice a month as her parents won't allow her. And me going there once a month just doesn't cut it. And we got together 2 weeks ago, sigh...

Reply 9

tomorrows_apple

1

Eep, im in the same situation..
Known this guy for a long time but he said i wasnt allowed to go to uni without saying goodbye, so we met up a couple of days back and well yeah.
But im moving to the opposite end of the country this weekend, and the travels pretty expensive. That and im going to be on a v intensive course..
Bad timing or what?
The situation being as it is, i cant really see it lasting..What a bad mind set to be in when entering a relationship! Bah

Reply 10

Sophdoph

1

Have a chat with him and be unfront about it and say you didn't expect to go to uni in a relationship but now you aren't sure. Get to know him as much as you can and maybe see how it goes for a few weeks into uni. Relationships at uni work for some but not for others, if you want it to work you'd have to work fairly hard at it and this might not be your idea of fun at uni if you expected to go there free and single.

Reply 11

Profesh

20

Quite the contrary, here: I am palpably at-ease with the prospect of being, in geographical terms, farther away from her than ever before.

Reply 12

mrs_bubb

haha marcus. he was on holiday in america!

Reply 13

khil

15

Is having fun really so important you'd rather not get to know this guy and see if he's for you? You don't have to date him yet - just get to know him. Then mid-way through uni see how it's all going and see what happens. It's what I'm doing with a guy I met off of TSR - we get on well and we're gonna see how it goes, but we're not going out. For the moment I don't fancy the guy anyway. That way, we're both free to pursue someone else, at the same time as seeing if a relationship between us might be right.

Talk to him. And no don't "just have fun" with him - a relationship, a real one at least, is way more than that. And while people say in 2 weeks it's not gonna get serious - you simply never know and I advice you not to mess around with his heart and head if you're not gonna date him, or see him as a potential date. Make the situation clear to him - that's the main thing.

Reply 14

marcusfox

16

hayley_1604

haha marcus. he was on holiday in america!

Yeah, I knew that. So you didn't get together with your music teacher then? :wink:

Marcus

Reply 15

KenzoKenzo

embelina

ok, after about a year of trying to find a truly nice guy, i have finally found one.....2 weeks before i move away to uni!
iv ALWAYS said i wanna be single wen i go to uni, for many reason...eg, im a big flirt, i dont wanna be missing anyone too much....so why did i hav to go and meet such a great guy now??! grrrr :mad:

my friends are all advising me to just have fun with this guy...he can come and visit me as its only an hour away and we cud stay in touch...but im starting to like him more and more...man, life is hard!

i know this is random but do u wanna be a singer or summing or u just wanna get into the music biz?

Reply 16

_poptart_

2

I was in the same boat a week ago, thought i kinda like da guy and was worried about getting 2 attached with him - but guess what?! i find out he actually wants to try and get with my mate behind my back cos i havent had sex with him yet!!!
Seriously!! So all im saying is dont pin all your hopes on the one guy... if things work out then good but if they dont at least you can say youve tried.

Also, you say its really bad meeting someone 2 weeks b4 uni, but its worse if youve been with someone for ages and then u have 2 go to uni.
Because you wont be used to being apart from them, and cos you would probably know him really well then it makes it ten times worse.

I know it must seem like the end of the world right now, but its not like he cant come and visit you at uni, and maybe you could have a casual kinda relationship when u meet up in the holidays etc?
that way you get the best of both worlds - being free at uni and still having some1 you like to come home to :p:

Good luck either way, and remember theres plenty of guys at uni so it wont be the end of the world!

Reply 17

mrs_bubb

marcusfox

Yeah, I knew that. So you didn't get together with your music teacher then? :wink:

Marcus

Dance teacher.....and no lol. Haven't spoken to her since we went out for lunch actually :redface:

Reply 18

xXMessedUpXx

15

embelina

ok, after about a year of trying to find a truly nice guy, i have finally found one.....2 weeks before i move away to uni!
iv ALWAYS said i wanna be single wen i go to uni, for many reason...eg, im a big flirt, i dont wanna be missing anyone too much....so why did i hav to go and meet such a great guy now??! grrrr :mad:

my friends are all advising me to just have fun with this guy...he can come and visit me as its only an hour away and we cud stay in touch...but im starting to like him more and more...man, life is hard!

First things first..don't panic! I was in exactly the same poistion last year with my bf, we started going out and about 2 days later he went to uni! But a year on and well still going strong. At time he may need some space (i speak mainly of freshers weeks etc..he needs to meet people!), but that doesn't mean you'll never see him. i saw mine every week, more so when he was at homke at the weekends.

If you want a relationship, have a relationship. Its all up to you :smile:

Reply 19

Mike_Davies

Well things like this would always happen but talk about Ironic

oh clever me *clap* *clap* [Found a nice bf just before uni starts :(]

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