Here We Go Again!! (G/F issue)

Ok around a month back my g/f bumped into her x and it made her feel a bit uncomfortable but she confronted me and told me about her encounter. Her x cheated on her and although she may have slight feelings for him she still wants me.

We got over that patch and then today was great, everything was good and then my g/f calls me up around 23:30. I could tell somthing was up so I asked her and like usual she denied it but I told her I can tell its regarding you so tell me.
She said her mate from the past had called, who she was close as brothers with and he told her by mistake (thinking she already knew) that her x (1st eva b/f) slept with a girl (her former best mate).
She already knew that they went out and cheated but she just found this news of the sleeping shocking.
She Said 'Whats hurting the most is that I thort I knew him better'.

She was aware that he cheated but not slept.
Anyway she didnt want to talk and she asked me to invite one of my friends who she likes talking to (female) into the phone convo. I tried doing this but my friend was asleep so I tried telling my g/f that but my phone cut.
I tried ringing her back and she rejected my 2 calls and then it seems she called my friend her self and shes been on the phone since. I texted her to talk to me before she goes off to my friend but no reply.

I mean yeah its bound to hurt and she apologised twice on the phone, but I dunno whats going on with her.

What are all these indications, should I be alarmed that her past is stayinf with her or should I just take it as 1 night thing.

Reply 1

skatergirlannie

still in love with her x it sounds like, i know it's painful but give her space, if nothing changes tell her that you want all or nothing, that you'll treat her better and it's her fault if she likes being treated badly xx

Reply 2

tillgii

OP

lol she started off the convo with saying do guys always think about sex every 2mins. Then came to that. I mean I wasnt sensative to her feelings and just wanted a nice cosy close chat because I was waiting for her call. I dunno what to say or do.

Reply 3

piiiink

It's likely she still does have some kind of feelings for her ex, I mean when things end that badly with people, its harder to get over them. But I don't think you should be too worried about how this affects her feelings for you. The only way you can really find this out for sure, is if you go and speak to her about it. She may not realise that she's making it seem like she still wants him. And so by talking to her, she might stop going on about it so much.

Reply 4

Mike_Davies

But on the other hand she may not be too happy with the fact that he may have distrust in her, if there is no trust in a relationship then the relationship is almost pointless.

piiiink

It's likely she still does have some kind of feelings for her ex, I mean when things end that badly with people, its harder to get over them. But I don't think you should be too worried about how this affects her feelings for you. The only way you can really find this out for sure, is if you go and speak to her about it. She may not realise that she's making it seem like she still wants him. And so by talking to her, she might stop going on about it so much.

Reply 5

Mrs_F

15

How long has it been since she split with her ex?
Like others have said she may still have feelings for him, and if it was a long, close relationship she may always have feelings for him, although these will hopefully, gradually fade to caring more than loving feelings. Give her a bit of space and then sit down and talk to her about it. Tell her exactly how you feel, and find out exactly how she feels, and then take it from there.
You seem to really like her, and seem a caring and patient boyfriend and so I hope she realises this and that things work out for you.

Good luck!

Reply 6

=Keith=

3

right said fred - I mean lynseyweth

Reply 7

Mrs_F

15

usman_s

right said fred - I mean lynseyweth

Fred

hmmm maybe I can get used to that name :biggrin:

Reply 8

tillgii

OP

we spoke and she said she was sorry for being silly. They been over for ova 3 years but they went out for over 1 and a half years and it was her first ever love.
She seemed more down yesterday as she was shocked, confused and tired by the news but totaly back to her self today.

Here We Go Again!! (G/F issue)

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