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Should I stay with him

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On Sunday my boyfriend went out all day drinking and the only meal he had that day was a subway that morning.I spoke to him on the phone just before he was leaving the bar and everything appeared fine.
However, whilst on his way home (where I was meeting him), he started shouting over the phone as I hadn't yet left my house.He started calling me horrible names and I had tears in my eyes when I finally met him.By this point he had changed his tune and was like hey sexy, as if the phone call we had minutes earlier hadn't happened.I then told him that I wanted to finish with him, as he flew off the handle and spoke to me in a disgusting manner.He went mad and started calling me a fat bitch, not once but several times.He told me that he had just been invited to a house party by some girl and that I was fat and ugly compared to other girls.Confused, I asked him had he ever cheated on me.He stated that he had in fact cheated on me two weekends ago whilst he was away with friends.
Needless to say, I was shocked hurt and upset by his outbursts.I sent him a text that evening saying that he may not remember what happened that evening by the time he read the text and explained what had happened. He rang me 48 times the next day and texted me explaining that he didn't remember meeting me, that I'm not fat or ugly and that he loves me.He's begging me to stay with him . I don't know what to do......

Reply 1

Quite clearly you should leave him.
He has either cheated on you, which is bad in itself.. or he LIED about it to HURT you. Which is also very bad?
He called you fat etc, if he meant it then.. thats bad.. if he didnt mean it he only said it to make you feel bad, which it did.

Either way, the best thing that came of that "arguement" was that.. he pretended he cheated on you and called you fat etc just to hurt you.
The worst thing.. he did infact cheat on you and he does think your fat and ugly.

Whichever one it is.. you should end it.

Reply 2

Anonymous
Please keep anon, thanks

On Sunday my boyfriend went out all day drinking and the only meal he had that day was a subway that morning.I spoke to him on the phone just before he was leaving the bar and everything appeared fine.
However, whilst on his way home (where I was meeting him), he started shouting over the phone as I hadn't yet left my house.He started calling me horrible names and I had tears in my eyes when I finally met him.By this point he had changed his tune and was like hey sexy, as if the phone call we had minutes earlier hadn't happened.I then told him that I wanted to finish with him, as he flew off the handle and spoke to me in a disgusting manner.He went mad and started calling me a fat bitch, not once but several times.He told me that he had just been invited to a house party by some girl and that I was fat and ugly compared to other girls.Confused, I asked him had he ever cheated on me.He stated that he had in fact cheated on me two weekends ago whilst he was away with friends.
Needless to say, I was shocked hurt and upset by his outbursts.I sent him a text that evening saying that he may not remember what happened that evening by the time he read the text and explained what had happened.


Dump him, for all the parts in bold. As if being awful to you isn't enough, he cheated on you! He sounds like a waste of space. Being drunk isn't an excuse, if my boyfriend said anything like that to me, ever, he'd be dumped in a flash.

You've already said you wanted to finished with him when you met him, why? Because of what he'd done that day, or something else?

He rang me 48 times the next day and texted me explaining that he didn't remember meeting me, that I'm not fat or ugly and that he loves me.He's begging me to stay with him . I don't know what to do......


Sounds like bull **** to me. Drunk minds speak sober hearts and all that.

Maybe he has the idea in his head that he was going to cop off with the girl at the party, and it didn't quite go to plan, and he's decided a girlfriend is better than no girlfriend at all.

Reply 3

No you shouldn't. "I was drunk" is not an excuse.

Reply 4

Get rid :erm:

Reply 5

He sounds like a real catch. So manly and aggressive. Before you dump him, take him on to The Jeremy Kyle Show, so that he can be shouted at publicly on TV and humiliated. Just make up some lies about how he's been sleeping with your mother/sister. Or just dump him. Your call.

Reply 6

The guy is crazy, stay the hell away from him

Reply 7

I wouldn't say 'get rid'

I'd say stay with him, imply that you are going to have kinky sex which involves you hancuffing him down...
and THEN
cut bits of him off and send them to his mother bit by bit... :teehee:

if not, I'll do it for you?

Reply 8

is this typical drunk behaviour from him? if it is- get rid. but if not maybe consider giving him another chance (providing he hasnt cheated on you and doesnt think you are fat etc) if he accepts his behaviour is way out of order and agrees not to get that drunk again? oh and begs a lot!!

Reply 9

Ilovewords
I wouldn't say 'get rid'

I'd say stay with him, imply that you are going to have kinky sex which involves you hancuffing him down...
and THEN
cut bits of him off and send them to his mother bit by bit... :teehee:

if not, I'll do it for you?


Wow.

Reply 10

Verbal abuse + Unfaithful = A dumping ASAP!

Reply 11

Ilovewords
I wouldn't say 'get rid'

I'd say stay with him, imply that you are going to have kinky sex which involves you hancuffing him down...
and THEN
cut bits of him off and send them to his mother bit by bit... :teehee:

if not, I'll do it for you?


This, but put salt in his eyes first. :yep:

Seriously, get rid.

Reply 12

I'd say get rid. Not because the drunken outburst but for him admitting that he cheated on you. I think you slightly over reacted with wanting to finish it because of what he said when you were talking on the phone, but I see why you did do it. The bit where you actually met up and he started comparing you to other girls and said he cheated is totally unforgivable in my opinion.

Reply 13

Seriously, get rid. My boyfriend of 9 months did exaccctly the same thing when I was 17. Literally. We were on the phone after a party, I was going to meet him, he was totally hammered and acting horrible/verbally abusive, I said we needed to talk as I wasn't happy and was thinking about ending it, he said 'might as well, i cheated on you a couple of weeks ago'.

Next day I got begging phonecalls, voicemails, texts, etc...

Didn't take him back, and the best decision I ever made. That ship was a-sinking and I was bailing.

I'm not usually an advocate of the 'what a prick, dump' school of TSR but this time around, from my personal experience at least, I'm all for it.

Reply 14

100% dump him. You don't need the drama.

Reply 15

He sounds like a ****. Get rid.

Reply 16

You should obviously leave him

Reply 17

He sounds like his not worth it no girl deserves to be treated like that you can do alot better.
I personally believe that this guy is lying about no remembering anything, he has no respect for you, and no self respect for himself. If he really didnt remember anything then he needs serious cancelling, but trust me he aint worth it their are many great guys out their who would like to be with you i'm sure, aint just saying that because theirs a lover for everyone out their you just need to find the right person

Reply 18

Walk away from the guy.