Why do guys give hot and cold messages?!

He himself must be confused about what he feels for you, or is playing some kind of games or could be having some issues- any or all of these.

Reply 2

HeHe

lol, either he's doing what i call the "change up" which is where he pays alot of attention to u and then suddenly stop! possibly to get in your head and judging by you creating a thread it seems like it worked, lol.

although he could just be really weird or occasionally have other things on his mind but still likes you so he asks to meet with him

Reply 3

_Jax_

Depends on how much he acctualy likes you and doesnt just want sex. I can see in my mates when they have alot of things going on they dont care and then when they are bord and horny they wont shut up about this one girl because they think she is easy.

You have to ask yourself are you easy?

Reply 4

OP

King_kul

lol, either he's doing what i call the "change up" which is where he pays alot of attention to u and then suddenly stop! possibly to get in your head and judging by you creating a thread it seems like it worked, lol.

although he could just be really weird or occasionally have other things on his mind but still likes you so he asks to meet with him

haha, its not that I even really like him that much, I was bored and thought i might as well meet him. I basically wrote the thread to see if any1 else has experienced the same kind of treatment... cos its starting to aggravate me!
And it just annoys me that i cant tell what he's thinking - ever!
Im coming to the conclusion hes just really weird cos whats the point in meeting up with sum1 and then ignoring em.. he just acts differently with me depending on the day of the week lol :rolleyes:

Reply 5

Zerforax

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meh why are girls insane? thats another question :p:

apprantly im a bit hot and cold to friends sometimes but i dont realise it.. probably just his mood, sometimes im really loud and sometimes im in deep thought (well not that deep)

Reply 6

HeHe

lol then he's just plain weird! forget about the "change up theory" as i call, sorry its probly cause i used it on sum occasions.... end result..... :biggrin:

lol

Reply 7

OP

_Jax_

You have to ask yourself are you easy?

I wouldnt say Im easy! ive known him for months and its never been all sex sex sex - in fact completely the opposite :eek:

When we meet its normally to go down the pub, out to a club or something... so its never anything serious, but even so i would like to know where I stand!
tbh i dont really know what i feel about him - i do enjoy being with him (when hes acting normal!) but at the same time i hardly ever think about him when im not with him... only when he's confusing me - like now!

Reply 8

Mean Mr. Mustard

poptart86

WHY??!! One minute they act like they like you and the next they ignore you :confused:

and girls don't do it too?

Reply 9

Tednol

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Babyshambles

and girls don't do it too?

Lol girls are as bad as boys. Met an awesome girl at the Edinburgh Fringe, had 2 days which were just amazing and I couldn't have scripted a nicer time, and now I'm back in England I'm on the receiving end of a cold shoulder.

Reply 10

OP

True, but in my experince girls dont do it to me... so thats why I named the thread what I named it!
sorry, didnt mean to generalise - im sure not every bloke is like it!

Reply 11

HeHe

yep not me! well im never cold by accident,lol

Reply 12

OP

Tednol

Lol girls are as bad as boys. Met an awesome girl at the Edinburgh Fringe, had 2 days which were just amazing and I couldn't have scripted a nicer time, and now I'm back in England I'm on the receiving end of a cold shoulder.

Does she live far away from you? If so, then maybe its for the best. Grrr why cant people just be honest about how they feel instead of ignoring people etc :rolleyes:

Reply 13

fleur-de-lis

poptart86

I wouldnt say Im easy! ive known him for months and its never been all sex sex sex - in fact completely the opposite :eek:

When we meet its normally to go down the pub, out to a club or something... so its never anything serious, but even so i would like to know where I stand!
tbh i dont really know what i feel about him - i do enjoy being with him (when hes acting normal!) but at the same time i hardly ever think about him when im not with him... only when he's confusing me - like now!

Either confront him and ask what he feels about it. Or else, you are just wasting precious energy trying to figure guys out- never try to read their minds, would end up consuming all of your time.

Reply 14

DeLboY

Becuase it messes you up and makes you think about him?? I dont know, he's probably getting confused signals off of you aswell.

I would love to know why PEOPLE do it in general.

If I like someone, I go out of my way to make sure that they know this, I've never been dishonest with my feelings, I hate chasing and playing games. I find this tends to scare women off successfuly every time :smile:

Reply 15

OP

DeLboY

I would love to know why PEOPLE do it in general.

If I like someone, I go out of my way to make sure that they know this, I've never been dishonest with my feelings, I hate chasing and playing games. I find this tends to scare women off successfuly every time :smile:

yeah sorry again if the title offended the men in the forum :p:

!
Im a bit less annoyed now, cos when i think about its really not worth getting angry about, after all Im moving away in a couple of weeks so its not as if anything is gonna happen anyway :rolleyes:

Reply 16

marcusfox

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I have the same experience with girls. Generally I like to take things slow, playing it by ear, but sometimes they can just suddenly be all over you, and if you really like them, you're not going to turn down a snog, because generally if you do, you'll embarrass them and they'll hate you for it, and if you both want the same thing, then go for it. But then suddenly, they'll just want to be "good friends" and stop texting you. Read my thread here Girlfriend or good friend? or in the Health and Relationships forum.

Marcus

Reply 17

DeLboY

poptart86

yeah sorry again if the title offended the men in the forum :p:

!
Im a bit less annoyed now, cos when i think about its really not worth getting angry about, after all Im moving away in a couple of weeks so its not as if anything is gonna happen anyway :rolleyes:

Heh that wasnt a pop at you, I know what you meant :smile:

You got the best attitude to deal with it. Life's too short :wink:

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