Argh! You guys all seem so pratical with lists of stuff to take, etc all over the student room. Everyones really looking forward to it to... And then theres me who is scared to death. I was really excited, but thinking about it more and more I'm getting scared. This is stupid, I mean all freshers are in the same situation as me. Its not the moving out, living away from home, stuff that scares me, that I'm looking forward to. Looking forward to being more independent. Damn, I'm even looking forward to the studying side of things! I'm scared of people taking advantage of me, I have a tendency to want to make everyone happy which normally results in me feeling used and abused. That, and I'm scared moving a couple of hundred of miles away from what I'm used to will trigger off my depression again. I've been fine for the last few months its only in the last few days that I've had these fears. I feel so stupid. Its not as though I'm the only fresher in the country, I know everyone else is in a similar situation, it just seems the more I realise I'm moving the more terrified I'm getting...
There will be a student support place at your uni so if you do begin to relapse or just feel a bit homesick, then they will help you. Just make sure you go before it gets serious. Socialise, make it easy for people to approach you and you'll soon have loads of friends and won't have to worry about anything.
i wasnt feeling nething b4, but afta reading this thread im kinda feeling nervous...
I'm not prepared at all! I think I'll just end up leaving everything until the last minute like I usually do.
As for the depression stuff....worrying about getting depressed stuff like that is more likely to trigger depression now surely...try not to worry bout it now....except for the usual nerves and excitement...but don't worry bout it.....and things wil prob just sort themself out when u get there..yes u may get a bit tearful etc the first few days..but likelyhood is most people will be the same....so don't worry about it...cause its most likely just normal not anything serious..and worrying is just likely to make it worse.....but if u do have problems in the first term....there will be loads of people there to help u...the uni should have a medical history of any previous depression episodes and the support groups at the uni are likely to be really good...maybe better than current ones or previous ones u may have encountered....so if u do feel yourself worrying about getting depressed remember this.....there will be loads of people to support and help you even if you are far from home...so whatever happens there will be people you can talk to and support you nearby.....if you really are worried about it and it is getting you down....maybe you could try going to one of these support groups early on and explain your fear...even just talking your fears through can help and the reassurance of meeting and discovering the support group etc. should help you feel better and this should reassure you.
I find it's best to try and look at the positive things that you already have in place, kind of like foundations already laid. Like for example, there will be a counselling service if you need it. You might know someone who lives in the area you're going to that you could call on if you need to. Generally just do everything you can now that will make it easier when you get there. Also don't try and go to uni with a list of things that could go wrong because you might just encourage them to.
as someone who has depression i can say you will be fine! ive been on citalopram for 3 years now and last year at the age of 21 i felt i was ready for university. i did fine so im sure you will too.
it might be an idea to contact student support to let them know about the depression if it gets too much but i managed fine without them, but i know all it takes is a phone call and theyll ask what they can do to help and will give some advice about the sort of help that is available.
someone on my course also had depression and she was very homesick but the support team gave her a mentor to talk to about homesickness and said if she needed it they would contact her course leader and let them know so she could apply for more time if needed for exams or coursework.
so try not to worry too much (thats probably a daft thing to say as a compulsive worrier myself lol) but youll be fine!