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FlutterByKisses
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Argh! You guys all seem so pratical with lists of stuff to take, etc all over the student room. Everyones really looking forward to it to... And then theres me who is scared to death. I was really excited, but thinking about it more and more I'm getting scared. This is stupid, I mean all freshers are in the same situation as me. Its not the moving out, living away from home, stuff that scares me, that I'm looking forward to. Looking forward to being more independent. Damn, I'm even looking forward to the studying side of things! I'm scared of people taking advantage of me, I have a tendency to want to make everyone happy which normally results in me feeling used and abused. That, and I'm scared moving a couple of hundred of miles away from what I'm used to will trigger off my depression again. I've been fine for the last few months its only in the last few days that I've had these fears. I feel so stupid. Its not as though I'm the only fresher in the country, I know everyone else is in a similar situation, it just seems the more I realise I'm moving the more terrified I'm getting...
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you;re not the only one who hasn't made up lists of things to take with them! :listen:

I'm planning to improvise the weekedn before I go!

As for the travelling far away and stff can't really help but just try to look at it like an adventure! I know it's difficult to change how you behave with people but you should also know that people very rarely like those who try to pander to them. If you want ot be respected and popular you should be yourself and not compromise your opinions/character to suit your surroundings - people will respect you for it even if it does make you some enemies!
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There will be a student support place at your uni so if you do begin to relapse or just feel a bit homesick, then they will help you. Just make sure you go before it gets serious. Socialise, make it easy for people to approach you and you'll soon have loads of friends and won't have to worry about anything.
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im scared as well! really scared. but then im thinking im not the only one whos in the same position. all we can do is, look forward to stuff! anyway, i bet it will turn out really good for you at uni
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i wasnt feeling nething b4, but afta reading this thread im kinda feeling nervous...
thanks alot!!!!
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I remember being really nervous before I started uni! The worst bit was driving into the car park and seeing everyone unpacking their cars! As soon as you get out and get into it you'll be fine though! Looking back, I don't know why I was so nervous, so don't worry!
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I'm not prepared at all! I think I'll just end up leaving everything until the last minute like I usually do.
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I'm really scared. I don't even have anywhere to live yet
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(Original post by CheesyBeans)
I'm really scared. I don't even have anywhere to live yet
Snap, can I cry with you?
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Make that three of us
It's hard to get excited when stuff is so screwed up.

To the OP, maybe taking your mind of it by getting involved in all the Fresher's Week fun will help?
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As for the depression stuff....worrying about getting depressed stuff like that is more likely to trigger depression now surely...try not to worry bout it now....except for the usual nerves and excitement...but don't worry bout it.....and things wil prob just sort themself out when u get there..yes u may get a bit tearful etc the first few days..but likelyhood is most people will be the same....so don't worry about it...cause its most likely just normal not anything serious..and worrying is just likely to make it worse.....but if u do have problems in the first term....there will be loads of people there to help u...the uni should have a medical history of any previous depression episodes and the support groups at the uni are likely to be really good...maybe better than current ones or previous ones u may have encountered....so if u do feel yourself worrying about getting depressed remember this.....there will be loads of people to support and help you even if you are far from home...so whatever happens there will be people you can talk to and support you nearby.....if you really are worried about it and it is getting you down....maybe you could try going to one of these support groups early on and explain your fear...even just talking your fears through can help and the reassurance of meeting and discovering the support group etc. should help you feel better and this should reassure you.
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thanks for the reassurance everyone, i really appriciate it...

I was talking to a really close friend about all this stuff yesterday, and we had a long talk about it all. After that i did feel much better though I'm still feeling dead nervous. I now move in less than 2 weeks, and although I'm slowly getting prepared for this, i'm sure to feel down now and then. but after what we talked about yesterday and stuff, i'm beginning to think that things may not be so bad after all. That sounds as though im really dreading this. lol. i'm actually really excited and can't wait to move. I guess i'm only a phone call away when i really need help, and i have all the info for help the uni can give me. i guess if things do go wrong, i have the resources to try and put things right. i am determined to do the uni thing, and have a fantastic time doing so.
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I find it's best to try and look at the positive things that you already have in place, kind of like foundations already laid. Like for example, there will be a counselling service if you need it. You might know someone who lives in the area you're going to that you could call on if you need to. Generally just do everything you can now that will make it easier when you get there. Also don't try and go to uni with a list of things that could go wrong because you might just encourage them to.
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Chill, relax and don't think about it, things will take their natural course, it's all good
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as someone who has depression i can say you will be fine! ive been on citalopram for 3 years now and last year at the age of 21 i felt i was ready for university. i did fine so im sure you will too.

it might be an idea to contact student support to let them know about the depression if it gets too much but i managed fine without them, but i know all it takes is a phone call and theyll ask what they can do to help and will give some advice about the sort of help that is available.

someone on my course also had depression and she was very homesick but the support team gave her a mentor to talk to about homesickness and said if she needed it they would contact her course leader and let them know so she could apply for more time if needed for exams or coursework.

so try not to worry too much (thats probably a daft thing to say as a compulsive worrier myself lol) but youll be fine!
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