Ive been seeing my girl now for 8 months, and i really do love her. But, i start Uni soon and she "knows" it wont last much longer than that. She loves me too but is really worried that i will stray off- what with all the oppertunities. Also she cant understand why i would want to stay with a 17year old when i can go clubbing and drinking and what-not with a girl my own age!
I will be living at home, but intend to party regularly. And whatsmore i will be working on the weekends- leaving very little time for me and her. This is sooo frustrating because i really do love her, and will do my best to stay faithful- but im also just a man- and its easy to give into temptation.
Anyone else in/been in this situation?
Can it work out?
I really really hope it can... but im not sure it will.
I think you've answered your own question. You're clearly not committed to her and you so obviously have some wild oats to sew.
You might want to consider the possibility that she will be hurt more by a cheating boyfriend than by a truthful ex.
I think if you both seriously really want it to work out then its in your control and so it should. If you're living at home you'll probably be able to see her quite alot weekday evenings, as your 1st probably won't be too heavy. Just be opitmistic about it from the off, but then the fact that she apparently "knows" it won't last is slightly negative!
p.s if you "really do love her" you won't even have to "try to be faithful" you just will be.
Indeed. If you're having doubts now these are likely to only get stronger once you're there. I've stayed in my relationship for the first year at uni away from home but I was working on the belief that we could make it work and I've been willing to make that happen.
Make the most of the rest of the holidays but let her know how you're feeling and what you intend to do at uni before you go. Then you'll be able to go off with a clear conscience and you both know where you stand.
My sister has gone right through uni with the same boyfriend who wasn't at uni, with a nightshift, so it is possible. Having said that, your unsure if you will stay truthful, so if your not certain then its best to end it now on a high note than end it with the messy outcome of cheating.
You don't seem committed enough considering you mention "temptations" and choosing partying over hanging out with your gf. You may love her but you don't want to be tied down yet. So just break it off, date others, and then see what happens...
i have been with my boyfriend for about 7 months when i go, and he is going to come and visit me at weekends, hopefully this won't effect my social life because he can come out with me or i can go out in the week. i know your girlfriends only 17 but why can't she come out with you and your mates if your staying at home.
It will work if you're both willing to make it work.
Its A Tricky Situation, Especially for your girlfriend who is obviousy having doubts already on how long your relationship will last and wether you will stray. I think It might be a good idea for you to havea talk about it, Sit and down and discuss the options, It may help to make you see clearly what would be best for you are her and your uni experience, aswell as help elviate her doubts.
Thanks for the reponses, some of which were welcomed- others were just really annoying. Perhaps i didnt explain myself properly or whatever.
We do both want it to work out, so we will just try our best and if it isnt working then we will have to mutually agree to end it. She will always come first though (even before my education) and thats the main thing.