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Flowers a girls best friend?
Hey all,
Well im writing this for both guys and girls to give me their oppinions.
I really like this girl from the same school i use to go too. I see her regulary when we all go out clubbing etc. During the 2 years of knowing her i could say i was a bit of a clown at school and now she will not take me seriously and thinks im joking all the time. With time running out before we go to Uni, i wud just like to take her out once and see if i could of ever had a chance with her or still can.
I want to ask her out for a meal or something but you could say i just dont have the balls to ask her face to face in fear of being laughed at or being rejected i guess.
I was thinking of dropping off some nice flowers outside her house with a note asking her out for drinks, but i dont want that to be creepy or weird, as some girls cud see it as that way.
Think the flowers idea is a good plan or am i just being foolish...and instead shud leave a diamond ring outside her house. heh
Any suggestions on how to go about this dilema would be greatly appreciated, as im very
Oli.
Well im writing this for both guys and girls to give me their oppinions.
I really like this girl from the same school i use to go too. I see her regulary when we all go out clubbing etc. During the 2 years of knowing her i could say i was a bit of a clown at school and now she will not take me seriously and thinks im joking all the time. With time running out before we go to Uni, i wud just like to take her out once and see if i could of ever had a chance with her or still can.
I want to ask her out for a meal or something but you could say i just dont have the balls to ask her face to face in fear of being laughed at or being rejected i guess.
I was thinking of dropping off some nice flowers outside her house with a note asking her out for drinks, but i dont want that to be creepy or weird, as some girls cud see it as that way.
Think the flowers idea is a good plan or am i just being foolish...and instead shud leave a diamond ring outside her house. heh
Any suggestions on how to go about this dilema would be greatly appreciated, as im very
Oli.
Personally i love flowers....u could say im a bit old fashoined tho 
...depends on the girl tho i suppose. I would say ask her out face to face, but as that appears to not have worked, id say go for the flowers idea 
.Id think it was really sweet if a guy left me flowers and id take them seriously....but again, depends on the girl! sorry if thats not much help!xx
...depends on the girl tho i suppose. I would say ask her out face to face, but as that appears to not have worked, id say go for the flowers idea .Id think it was really sweet if a guy left me flowers and id take them seriously....but again, depends on the girl! sorry if thats not much help!xxgo for it, i'd love it!! it's a genuine display and she'd know you're serious, put on the card 'meet me at .... at .... love you know who x' you'll always regret it if you don't!
aww great idea! Go for it! 
First off, I'd like to dismiss the idea of sending flowers outright.
Maybe I can offer a male perspective here...
Buying flowers or paying for a meal indicate that you are trying to"buy" her affection in
some way. You are effectively trading in your power / status in the relationship in
the hope that she will like you in return, and in doing so singling yourself out as a 'wussy'.
Flowers without even meeting her makes you look at best pitiably shy, at worst a stalker.
Just talk to her, be genuine, and tease her jokingly. Only then can she feel ATTRACTED to you.
Attraction cannot occur by proxy, plain and simple. Once you've gained some confidence,
and you've got a rapport going, only then can you ask her if she'd like to go out sometime.
Not as a request, not like she's doing you a huge favour, but simply an idea of something fun
to do. Keep in the mindset that SHE would be lucky to spend time with YOU, NOT the other
way around. You can be friendly and witty and all of that, but never forget that you do not
NEED her. Any sign of being devoted to this girl (the 2 year wait is a bad omen) will kill
her attraction IMMEDIATELY. In short, you need to keep her guessing.
Your life is together, you're about to start Uni, so you can be an attractive prospect
without trying to actively "seduce" anyone. She needs to see you have a life of your own.
Better yet, the short time span means you have nothing to lose from trying. Good luck!
Tell me how it goes.
Maybe I can offer a male perspective here...
Buying flowers or paying for a meal indicate that you are trying to"buy" her affection in
some way. You are effectively trading in your power / status in the relationship in
the hope that she will like you in return, and in doing so singling yourself out as a 'wussy'.
Flowers without even meeting her makes you look at best pitiably shy, at worst a stalker.
Just talk to her, be genuine, and tease her jokingly. Only then can she feel ATTRACTED to you.
Attraction cannot occur by proxy, plain and simple. Once you've gained some confidence,
and you've got a rapport going, only then can you ask her if she'd like to go out sometime.
Not as a request, not like she's doing you a huge favour, but simply an idea of something fun
to do. Keep in the mindset that SHE would be lucky to spend time with YOU, NOT the other
way around. You can be friendly and witty and all of that, but never forget that you do not
NEED her. Any sign of being devoted to this girl (the 2 year wait is a bad omen) will kill
her attraction IMMEDIATELY. In short, you need to keep her guessing.
Your life is together, you're about to start Uni, so you can be an attractive prospect
without trying to actively "seduce" anyone. She needs to see you have a life of your own.
Better yet, the short time span means you have nothing to lose from trying. Good luck!
Tell me how it goes.
Every time I've bought my girl flowers I've always had a great reaction. Once at secondary school I got one of those 'Single Rose in a Box' things sent to someone for Valentines day. The girls thought I was sweet and the guys thought I was gay :P Can't please everyone!
I'd say flowers are always good, but IF you are actually in a relationship. Second Dates, Valentine's Day etc. I'd never just walk up to a girl with flowers, as the last poster said it would be a bit freaky.
By 'take her out' do you mean an official "I fancy you, can we go on a date?" or a "Lets go for friendly drinks and kick it!" (the second one meaning you can make a move ON the date). I think just walking up to her and saying "Do you wanna go for a drink or something?" is the best way to just break the ice. You say she doesn't take you seriously so DON'T just walk up to her and say "I really like you *Gives her massive bouquet of roses* would you like to go on a date?". That's too forthcoming and if she doesn't take you seriously then she'll just laugh in your face.
My advice is to just ask her if she wants a friendly drink, during the drink you can then tell her how you feel and ask her if she wants to go out for a meal or something.
I'd say flowers are always good, but IF you are actually in a relationship. Second Dates, Valentine's Day etc. I'd never just walk up to a girl with flowers, as the last poster said it would be a bit freaky.
By 'take her out' do you mean an official "I fancy you, can we go on a date?" or a "Lets go for friendly drinks and kick it!" (the second one meaning you can make a move ON the date). I think just walking up to her and saying "Do you wanna go for a drink or something?" is the best way to just break the ice. You say she doesn't take you seriously so DON'T just walk up to her and say "I really like you *Gives her massive bouquet of roses* would you like to go on a date?". That's too forthcoming and if she doesn't take you seriously then she'll just laugh in your face.
My advice is to just ask her if she wants a friendly drink, during the drink you can then tell her how you feel and ask her if she wants to go out for a meal or something.
KyonoRocks
By 'take her out' do you mean an official "I fancy you, can we go on a date?" or a "Lets go for friendly drinks and kick it!" (the second one meaning you can make a move ON the date). I think just walking up to her and saying "Do you wanna go for a drink or something?" is the best way to just break the ice. You say she doesn't take you seriously so DON'T just walk up to her and say "I really like you *Gives her massive bouquet of roses* would you like to go on a date?". That's too forthcoming and if she doesn't take you seriously then she'll just laugh in your face.
That goes along with what I said.
Not so sure about your last bit though, with "tell her how you feel". It's like putting all your
cards on the table, and therein removing any challenge /mystery for her. But if the guy just needs
to get it all off his chest, and is happy that this is more about closure and less about actually
getting anywhere, then I can't argue!
With time running out before we go to Uni, i wud just like to take her out once and see if i could of ever had a chance with her or still can.
^From the original post
I don't think he has much time to basically naturally seduce her by acting normal and stuff. By saying his feelings I don't obviously think he should say "I love you with all my heart, we were destined to be together!!" stuff. "I've had a really great time tonight, would you like to go for a meal or something" would be enough to give the 'impression' that he likes her. Then if she accepts he can put a few more cards on the table, just not the whole deck at once :P
hello omils
refer to this thread mate - have a read!
http://www.thestudentroom.co.uk/showthread.php?t=144960&page=1
refer to this thread mate - have a read!
http://www.thestudentroom.co.uk/showthread.php?t=144960&page=1
its a nice idea, id like that but not if it was done to me at home in cyprus cos my rents would kill me but in england id be fine with it
but it always depends on the girl.
if you feel confident about doing that then go ahead.
if not, do what the other peeps say and just ask her out face to face when your out and dont lay your cards out flat on the table unless she wants you to cos a lil mystery is always nice
hope that helps
but it always depends on the girl.
if you feel confident about doing that then go ahead.
if not, do what the other peeps say and just ask her out face to face when your out and dont lay your cards out flat on the table unless she wants you to cos a lil mystery is always nice
hope that helps
Thx for all the advice everyone, you have given me some thought on wat is the best way around my lil problem.
50% are saying bite the bullet,
50% are saying go with the flower idea...
In my oppinion i tried the straight face to face questions and that didnt work..so i cud try that again but i just dont wanna be seen as obsessive.
Oli.
50% are saying bite the bullet,
50% are saying go with the flower idea...
In my oppinion i tried the straight face to face questions and that didnt work..so i cud try that again but i just dont wanna be seen as obsessive.
Oli.
It is a very cute idea, but maybe it's a bit too much. I'd go with what KyonoRocks said. Ask her if she wants to go for a drink and see how it goes. If she seems interested, then maybe you can do the flower thing.
Good luck!
Good luck!
Whoever said it was like trying to buy someone's affection (crazydaveuk) from a girl's perspective that's really not the case. If omills feels he can't be taken seriously when saying he likes the girl, then flowers would be a nice unexpected way of suggesting his intentions are more than that of a friend. The flowers in this case aren't a means of saying "look i can't offer you much else, but i can buy you loads of stuff, so please go out with me" They are a way of taking the friend by surprise and highlighting his seriousness, that he does really like her. I agree with most of the girls here, that its a nice idea, and if i were you, i would listen to the advice of the girls as they are more likely to think like the girl in question.
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