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Too far?
Hey i was wondering for advice.
Last night i was at a mutal friends dad's 50th party and she invited loadsa people she knows from everywhere. There was a pool table and the drink was flowing and i really got chatting to this gorgous girl. Unfortunatly becuase her brother (TOO YOUNG FOR DRINKING) had 2 many she had to go early. I think she wanted to stay and i definatly wanted to see her again. She told me where she worked and today i went down there to see her again. It was nearly closing time and i said i'l see you after work with a little note. I waited for her and the manger came out asking what i was doing. I said that i was waiting for her and the manager told me that she said she didnt know me. Well we had spoken when i was inside. Manager said that she was uncomfortable at the thought of someone waiting for her after work so i just said shes got my number and left.
Im really confused now. I thought we got on great last night and thought something might happen between us. Then this happens.
Did i come on too strong? I'd be grateful for everyone's opinions.
Lads and Girls
Last night i was at a mutal friends dad's 50th party and she invited loadsa people she knows from everywhere. There was a pool table and the drink was flowing and i really got chatting to this gorgous girl. Unfortunatly becuase her brother (TOO YOUNG FOR DRINKING) had 2 many she had to go early. I think she wanted to stay and i definatly wanted to see her again. She told me where she worked and today i went down there to see her again. It was nearly closing time and i said i'l see you after work with a little note. I waited for her and the manger came out asking what i was doing. I said that i was waiting for her and the manager told me that she said she didnt know me. Well we had spoken when i was inside. Manager said that she was uncomfortable at the thought of someone waiting for her after work so i just said shes got my number and left.
Im really confused now. I thought we got on great last night and thought something might happen between us. Then this happens.
Did i come on too strong? I'd be grateful for everyone's opinions.
Lads and Girls
Reply 3
Are ou sure tha menager was telling truth? I mean she/he may have thought they were protecting her from whatever, but on the other hand they had no right to lie.
As for the comin on too strong, I wouldn say you did, but maybe she was slightly embarrassed about her brother. But, no, I wouldn't say u came on too strong, but as a lil tip for future reference a great way to give a number id just to say, hey, if ya get bored you can text me or summin similar to that. That way theres definitely no pressure and you can keeop in touch without feeling guilty or feeling you came on too strong. no worries though, just try n see her again, at opening time get served by her and see how she reacts.
As for the comin on too strong, I wouldn say you did, but maybe she was slightly embarrassed about her brother. But, no, I wouldn't say u came on too strong, but as a lil tip for future reference a great way to give a number id just to say, hey, if ya get bored you can text me or summin similar to that. That way theres definitely no pressure and you can keeop in touch without feeling guilty or feeling you came on too strong. no worries though, just try n see her again, at opening time get served by her and see how she reacts.
Reply 5
yea, on second thoughts, maybe she did 
however, i reckon it'd be a better idea to text her n c wat she says to that n if she replies or not.
however, i reckon it'd be a better idea to text her n c wat she says to that n if she replies or not.
Reply 8
Dr Doughnut
Hey i was wondering for advice.
Last night i was at a mutal friends dad's 50th party and she invited loadsa people she knows from everywhere. There was a pool table and the drink was flowing and i really got chatting to this gorgous girl. Unfortunatly becuase her brother (TOO YOUNG FOR DRINKING) had 2 many she had to go early. I think she wanted to stay and i definatly wanted to see her again. She told me where she worked and today i went down there to see her again. It was nearly closing time and i said i'l see you after work with a little note. I waited for her and the manger came out asking what i was doing. I said that i was waiting for her and the manager told me that she said she didnt know me. Well we had spoken when i was inside. Manager said that she was uncomfortable at the thought of someone waiting for her after work so i just said shes got my number and left.
Im really confused now. I thought we got on great last night and thought something might happen between us. Then this happens.
Did i come on too strong? I'd be grateful for everyone's opinions.
Lads and Girls
Last night i was at a mutal friends dad's 50th party and she invited loadsa people she knows from everywhere. There was a pool table and the drink was flowing and i really got chatting to this gorgous girl. Unfortunatly becuase her brother (TOO YOUNG FOR DRINKING) had 2 many she had to go early. I think she wanted to stay and i definatly wanted to see her again. She told me where she worked and today i went down there to see her again. It was nearly closing time and i said i'l see you after work with a little note. I waited for her and the manger came out asking what i was doing. I said that i was waiting for her and the manager told me that she said she didnt know me. Well we had spoken when i was inside. Manager said that she was uncomfortable at the thought of someone waiting for her after work so i just said shes got my number and left.
Im really confused now. I thought we got on great last night and thought something might happen between us. Then this happens.
Did i come on too strong? I'd be grateful for everyone's opinions.
Lads and Girls
I could be cynical and say that maybe because the "drink was flowing" she got caught up in it. The more likely option is that her boss was getting annoyed that someone was waiting for the girl and questioned it, so she had no other choice but to say she didn't know you. Either way, she has your number, if she wants to get in contact with you, she will.
Reply 11
*offers shoulder to cry on*
i'd say that was probably coming on a bit strong - might have scared her a bit. she probably likes you, but she might not even remember telling you where she worked. i mean, i suppose it could be flattering for a guy to do that, but if it was me i'd be a little freaked out - she doesn't know you very well and (although i know that this is probably not at all how you meant her to perceive your efforts) your behaviour, to an untrained eye such as hers, might seem a wee bit stalkerish. note this: i am NOT calling you a stalker. it's just that people are suspicious about that kind of stuff nowadays. i'd leave it and see if she calls you; or see if you bump into her, rather than persisting.
A few years ago, I pulled a bloke in a club and he did the same thing - turned up where I was working the next day to 'keep me company'. Being a polite young lady, I couldn't think of anything to make him go away, and he was there for five hours. It definitely put me off.
Even if this girl did like you, seeing you the next day would still be a bit weird for her. If I were you, I'd just put it down to experience - next time, give her a call instead.
Even if this girl did like you, seeing you the next day would still be a bit weird for her. If I were you, I'd just put it down to experience - next time, give her a call instead.
I think the waiting might have been a little too much, you don't want to show too much interest in women, it goes straight to their heads!! lol!! Yeah the waiting for her might have scared her, I think it was enough just to make sure she got your phone number. That way she could choose to call you or not.
Reply 15
definately, if someone waited for me outside work id be a bit freaked esp if i didnt know them. her boss was good to look out for her. how old is she btw? like other people have said, best thing to do is just wait and see if she texts u sometime. balls in her court and all that.
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