No sex please, we're teenagers

yes i can go without sex for more than 5 months. i havent had sex in 18 years and im almost 19. i want to kep my virginity until i get married.

i dont think sex education is taught well in this country, instead of discouraging teenagers the teachers encourage them by telling them what sort of contraceptives they could use etc.

if teenagers were taught and encouraged not to have sex like how they do on the discovery channel then we will hae less teenage pregnacies mainly because of abstinance

yes i can go without sex for more than 5 months. i havent had sex in 18 years and im almost 19. i want to kep my virginity until i get married.

i dont think sex education is taught well in this country, instead of discouraging teenagers the teachers encourage them by telling them what sort of contraceptives they could use etc.

if teenagers were taught and encouraged not to have sex like how they do on the discovery channel then we will hae less teenage pregnacies mainly because of abstinance

I plan on losing it to a guy I really absolutely love and know extremely well. I also want to lose myself to a virgin because it makes it more memorable for the both of us.

So if you find someone and fall in love with them, and get into a deep, committed relationship, but he's not a virgin, that would be a problem for you?

Well, I was going to put "either a virgin or really experienced" haha..but no.

I mean, as long as he's not dirty I guess....

Although I'd prefer him to be a virgin.

i see. i understand what you mean. i was my bf's second, and he was my first. It was still very special, cos his first experience wasn't that great. But i think that your first time with someone is always special, no matter what experience you've both had.

Well, no I reckon teaching teens about types of contraception is cool. C'mon some of them are gonna do it anyway - they might as well know how to do it safely!

I just want to say that as an American there is a big diversity of views of sex in the country. Please don't take that show to mean all Americans are like that. I don't know where exactly they went, but it was clearly some very conservative place.
I am from New Jersey and live 40 min from Manhattan, there was no one doing the silver ring or abstinence only education in my area. My sex ed was very comprehensive and detailed. My brother went to a different school but his was just as good as mine.

I think people need to take a much more liberal attitude to sex. Most of you on this site are quite young! Many of you who say you will wait for marriage probably won't--no offense. I had "christian" friends in high school who said they were waiting and most of them have lost it by now.

I think people attach too much importance to sex. It is dangerous to tie you sense of self as a sexual being to one person. Even if you wait until marriage, your spouse can cheat on you, mistreat you, be abusive, be addicted to drugs/alcohol, or just be disrespectful. If you have wrapped up in your mind that "I have given my VIRGINITY to this person" and they betray you, you will be messed up. I think everyone should take control of their own sexuality, so that they are not affixing this magical quality to virginity.
That is not to say you should lose it at the age of 15 when you're drunk. But I think ppl need to be realistic--there are NO guarantees that the person you give your body too will respect it, marriage or not.

Why not teach teens about drugs to and how to use properly because some are going to do it anyway. I think this Way of thinking is wrong. And do you use this for all situations. In some cases ignorance is the best thing.

What should be taught is more about long term loving relationships and not just casual sex.

You only need to check some of the thread responses and see the word sex is used instead of loving. That say's it all.

Why not teach teens about drugs to and how to use properly because some are going to do it anyway. I think this Way of thinking is wrong. And do you use this for all situations. In some cases ignorance is the best thing.

What should be taught is more about long term loving relationships and not just casual sex.

You only need to check some of the thread responses and see the word sex is used instead of loving. That say's it all.

Would you rather teenage pregnancy, possible abortions, higher rates of STD's etc OR people having sex when they want...safely.

5 months OMFG well first things aint gonna end with my boyf and second if they did id just find someone else to have sex with! 5 months, thats a joke, right?

so it means you'd settle for someone just so you can have sex? That's a bit of a shame...

and Sweetness, not sure that the whole "have to make mistakes to learn" theory is true. It's a bit silly to make the mistakes, lose something (not necessarily your virginity) only to realise what you've lost... there's something irreversible that you can't have back. No matter how much people would love for it be untrue, once you've had sex with a randomer or someone who was seriously the wrong person, there's something you've lost: a way of seeing sex that changes completely. Some people are fine with seeing sex as just sex, no emotions and are fine with their partners seeing it that way. Others aren't...

I just want to say that as an American there is a big diversity of views of sex in the country. Please don't take that show to mean all Americans are like that. I don't know where exactly they went, but it was clearly some very conservative place..

Well said.

Sadly, I really do wish it could be true that there's nothing irreversibly lost even sadder when I'm not entirely sure what I lost, but ah well, about time I got over it.

Its a shame this has to be pointed out isnt it. Although Im sure many were unsurprised that the BBC happened to fall upon this particular idea.

got over what? I'm very repetitive with this idea (only because that's what all my wisdom and experience has brought me ) but there always are consequences. A person after they've had sex with a lot of random people isn't the same person who's had sex only with very long-term partners. That's why girls/guys who lose their virginity to a randomer continue the trend: you learn that sex is emotionless. I'm not saying you can't meet someone special (even though it might be a bit more difficult) after a "rough" past but physical intimacy is physical intimacy. Sure there's no string attached animal sex and emotional sex but the difference isn't that huge. The physical intimacy and what you're sharing is the same.

Try and tell a guy about some previous partner "We didn't have emotional sex, we just had animal sex". That's the last thing that will reassure a guy. It's all intertwined.