Not fitting in at 6th form/college

Anyone else find they haven't quite fitted in at 6th form/college? I go to a 6th form college and although I've spoken to people I feel as though it's not going to progress onto anything - like there's no one I'd actually be good friends with :sheep:

I do have two more lessons which I haven't already been to - so there's a possibility I might meet some people who I can possibly be friends with.

I just haven't found anyone who I've "clicked" with I suppose.

Anyone else in a similar situation or can offer advice?

Reply 1

Paula

7

Im still at my school in the sixth form all of my friends have gone to college and everyone else is so well intergrated together in their little groups. I feel like an outsider so yeah, I know how you feel

Reply 2

Nightowl

12

Hya, I was the only new boy too, (except probably you were the new girl) I was like this on my first days, the key is persistance, it's probably been a long long time since you were under such pressure to make friends, but just relax, you get to know people well during lessons, and break times, so don't feel any pressure to say anything, just hang about the "group" and when they talk abut something your into, then you can put your input in and people will talk to you about it. I've made several friends now, it just takes time! Hope this helps, good luck!

Andy xx

Give it time.

dont worry my old friends have turned out that they r bitchin bout me bhind my back now coz i made a new friend and now shes even off wiv me so i dnt no wt da hel is goin on.. plus i lyk 1 of my teachas 4 german bt nt da other.. and i ve bin findin myself doing 5 hours+ hwk a nyt this wk compared to diddly squat in y11 and im findin it reli difficult atm.. coz i dnt get some of my chem hwk.. and ery 1 els dus :frown:

Reply 5

schizophrenic

Ive been at my sixth form just over a week now and at first I knew literally, no-one but I started talking to people in my classes and in games and activities etc eventually it will happen. I know have 4 or 5 really nice people I can talk to without feeling intrusive :biggrin:

just keep at it! :biggrin:

Reply 6

englishrose

1

You've been at college, what, less than a week? These things take time with some people - I wouldn't worry about it too much just yet.

Reply 7

Pixelated

13

prinzessin1988

dont worry my old friends have turned out that they r bitchin bout me bhind my back now coz i made a new friend and now shes even off wiv me so i dnt no wt da hel is goin on.. plus i lyk 1 of my teachas 4 german bt nt da other.. and i ve bin findin myself doing 5 hours+ hwk a nyt this wk compared to diddly squat in y11 and im findin it reli difficult atm.. coz i dnt get some of my chem hwk.. and ery 1 els dus :frown:

yh, yh, dnt wrry bout it blad. evry1 mkz nu friendz who dey lyk innit, it'z normol n u shud fynd nu m8z 2!! jus giv it tym!!!

Reply 8

Nightowl

12

Pixelated

yh, yh, dnt wrry bout it blad. evry1 mkz nu friendz who dey lyk innit, it'z normol n u shud fynd nu m8z 2!! jus giv it tym!!!

U sed it ma bruv.

Reply 9

Chewwy

17

i like watching the new kids.

(sorry if you don't like how i seem to be segregating them by race - they're doing it themselves)

there's a black guy who instantly made friends with the football gang, by going and playing football. i find it hilarious how my politically correct school always try and have a token black person in each year. in year 9 the black kid left, so another joined at the start of the next year, and the exact same thing has happened again now. again, if you think this is a horribly racist post it's not, move along.

then we have these totally cool chinese dudes. they have already formed their own little clique, which is awesome, because i think oriental people are under represented at school. by acting as a group, i think they're gonna find it easier to fit in, however they could isolate themselves... hmm...

ooh, there's a very handsome (supposedly italian) boy just joined, he has made friends with the loser group who very wisely pounced on him before the cool gang got to him. no doubt he'll soon make the transition away from the dark side.

there's a big fat guy, who joined another branch of the loser group. we're yr12, so i shouldn't really call them that anymore... since they aren't so bad these days. he'll be fine. i noted today that chances were i would never ever speak to him.

and finally... the guy who goes on my bus, and is in all 32 of my classes. i'm trying very hard to get him to integrate, and he's very slowly getting there. he really doesnt speak much. and in further maths today his state education kinda showed through, and i felt sorry for him. hopefully he'll catch up...

so... yeah. my advice to new people? um, i dunno, be good looking? from what i've seen, that seems to be the quickest way to get to know people :frown:

Reply 10

Pixelated

13

anightowl

U sed it ma bruv.

fo sho, ma bg pmp'n biatch... u gotz wt it takz 2222222222222 blaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaad. Datz 22222222 baaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaad!!!!1111

Reply 11

SketchyCanvas~

10

Paula2005

Im still at my school in the sixth form all of my friends have gone to college and everyone else is so well intergrated together in their little groups. I feel like an outsider so yeah, I know how you feel

!! Thats how i feel too, all my best mates have gone! :frown:

Reply 12

Nightowl

12

Actually agree with post above.. being good looking does help, so if your not you have to try doubley hard!

Reply 13

krish87

8

Thats how i feel too, all my best mates have gone!

me too i know how u feel. all my best mates are off to uni!!!!!!!

but u gotta make friends. i mean it will be cool to hang on to ur best friends via text, msn etc but cool to make new friends..
it really feels great having more than 1 group of friends. if u get what i mean?

Reply 14

Icy Ghost

2

Just look for the loners, they are usually the ones you will be friends with for life, although not the geeky loners, just the either shy/weird/psycho loners, they're the best ones to go for.
Unfortunately I'm in the same situation, can't find another loner like me :redface:

Reply 15

SketchyCanvas~

10

chubby

me too i know how u feel. all my best mates are off to uni!!!!!!!

but u gotta make friends. i mean it will be cool to hang on to ur best friends via text, msn etc but cool to make new friends..
it really feels great having more than 1 group of friends. if u get what i mean?

yeh i understand but since im at my sixth form everyone has got their friends and we have only 5 new people! :p:

Reply 16

Schutzstaffel

I don't fit either....mainly because I'm a 'dirty slav' though.

Not everyone needs friends - some personalities are better off on their own, I just take a book along and concentrate in class - **** everyone else.

Reply 17

SketchyCanvas~

10

Frosty Phantom

Just look for the loners, they are usually the ones you will be friends with for life, although not the geeky loners, just the either shy/weird/psycho loners, they're the best ones to go for.
Unfortunately I'm in the same situation, can't find another loner like me :redface:

lol awww

but we only have VERY few new people... read above ^^

Reply 18

SketchyCanvas~

10

Schutzstaffel

I don't fit either....mainly because I'm a 'dirty slav' though.

Not everyone needs friends - some personalities are better off on their own, I just take a book along and concentrate in class - **** everyone else.

yeh but everyone needs friends! :biggrin:

Reply 19

Icy Ghost

2

SketchyCanvas

yeh but everyone needs friends! :biggrin:

Hmm weird, I went part of secondary school without any "real friends" and I had no problem with it. :biggrin:

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